(ARTICLE) 8 Reasons Why Smart People Don’t Have A Lot Of Friends

“Be careful who you call your friends, I’d rather have four quarters than a hundred pennies”

- Al Capone

Humans by nature, are social creatures. We want to interact with people and share our lives with them.

However,

The people that you spend the most time around will greatly influence things in your life such as:

- Happiness

- Wealth

- Self - esteem

- Mindset

- Mental, physical and emotional health

In a recent study of of happiness levels of 15,000 people, an interesting trend emerged.

People who had large social circles and enjoyed spending lots of times with friends THE MOST, tended to be at the bottom of the IQ ladder.

On the other hand, the higher on the IQ ladder you climb, the less likely you are to have more than few close friends.

WHY IS THIS?

What Makes Intelligent People Tend To Keep To Themselves And Not Want To Spend Large Amounts Of Times With A Huge Group Of Friends?

Here are the 8 Reasons:

1. SELECTIVE ABOUT THEIR FRIENDS

Smart people do not carry around some kind of magic IQ scanner and scan it on peoples foreheads before they decide to be friends with someone or not.

However, they’re likely very attentive when you speak about your gaols, ideas, businesses and even if yours optimistic or pessimistic.

If you’re doing interesting things, having big ideas, or talk about execution and goals, you might be a candidate to being a friend of theirs.

But in reality, MOST PEOPLE talk about their plans for the weekend. This doesn’t interest a smart person beyond a brief and casual conversation.

2. LESS NEED FOR SOCIAL INTERACTION

The need for social interaction is less.

In many cases, the higher IQ that you have, the more socially awkward you are.

(Video I made on How To Stop Being Socially

awkward: https://youtu.be/cKd6LMVPNLc )

Many geniuses struggle to talk about the latest trends, TV shows, or even music. They’re too busy thinking about large complex problems that actually interest them.

3. MANAGE TIME CAREFULLY

People with low IQ’s tend to be happier in large groups with tons of friends where they can discuss:

- Gossip

- Rumours

- Idle chit chat

On the other hand, many intelligent people where happiest when they were alone. Gossiping, rumours and idle chit chat is something that bores smart people who generally find study, problem solving and reading more enjoyable.

4. HESITANT WITH NEW FRIENDSHIPS

Scientist have discovered that the brain has a group of neurons referred to as “mirrors’’

As children, these neurons help us shape the way that we replicate the actions that we see from the adults around us

Intelligent people have figured out this fact and that spending time with dumb people will result to dumb behaviours and habits in themselves

Which is what makes them picky with the people they associate with………especially when adding new people.

5. THEY HAVE NOTHING TO PROVE

When you’re intelligent, you know your worth and you find it pointless to try and prove it to others.

“Proving yourself to others is game in which you can only win when you quit”

- Bikiram

It’s generally the people with low IQ who’re always trying to show you how smart they are, how cool they are etc….

“ Play A Sucker To Catch A Sucker—Seem Dumber Than Your Mark”

- 48 Laws Of Power, Robert Green

Law 21 is saying that one must play dumb while remaining smart; play the fool to gain an advantage.

6. THEY AVOID NEGATIVITY AT ALL COSTS

This is part of the reason they’re soo picky with their friends.

A person who’s always

- Negative

- Complaining

- Always playing victim

Can be a drain on your energy and positivity.

Smart people avoid negative people.

Smart people keep to themselves and avoid drama.

They live a drama free lifestyle.

7. SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE TALK LESS AND LISTEN MORE

Smart people, almost always are good listeners. It is part of how they determine who to spend time with.

They want to hear your ideas so they can also learn from the other smart people around them.

They can also leave pointless conversations or not get involved with them in the first place if they happen to be listening.

8. They don’t suffer from FOMO

FOMO = Fear Of Missing Out

Fomo is not something that most intelligent people suffer from.

Many smart people have well defined long term goals they’re working towards and the instant gratification is not very high on their list.

The FOMO on a night out of clubbing and getting blackout drunk just doesn’t really get them excited.

REMEMBER

“Be careful who you call your friends, I’d rather have four quarters than a hundred pennies”

- Al Capone

Till Next Time