(ARTICLE) How To Use Dating Skills To Excel within Your Business And/Or Professional World

Dating and the business world is VERY similar

And these dating skills can be applied whether you’re looking for:

- A job

- Investors for your startup company

- Secure contracts and deals

- Scholarships

- Or just people to be friends with

During the dating stages, people tend to usually have a higher interest in people other people also want.

So what you wana do is, whenever you’re going on a interview or trying to renegotiate your salary (or contracts)

You want to give the PERCEPTION that you are a highly sought after individual...

(whether that’s with a romantic prospect or something to do with your professional life)

This will cause other people to see you being more high value than everyone else that you may be competing against.

Scarcity creates value.

When potential employers, friends, investors and romantic prospects have the perception that you are highly desired and have lots of options

This will cause THEM to make more of an effort to convince YOU to choose THEM over all the other prospects.

High achievers are rare. Why?

Because most people are average and settle for less than they are capable of having.

Never get attached to anyone or anything that doesn’t appreciate, celebrate and recognise your value.

If you seek, you will find.

If you’re in a professional or social situations that are NOT ideal, then you have to keep prospecting and looking for better opportunities to maximise your happiness and your potential

Having choices and options will always make you feel better about yourself which result to others feeling better about choosing you.

So you have to carry yourself with confidence (even if you’re desperate) so that people can sense and notice the perception you’re giving off.

If you give off desperate and needy vibes, it can make potential clients, business partners, employers and romantic partners to see you as as some kind of last minute option if they can’t find anything better.

You’ll be their “break glass for emergency” option

Don’t mistake confidence for arrogance and cockiness, there’s a very fine line to it

You want to be confident but still remain respectful and humble when you’re trying to secure something.

Behaving like this will make you standout from all the timid, nervous and average people you are competing against.

Also, when people speak.

Don’t always be in a hurry to respond

You have to listen to UNDERSTAND FIRST

THEN respond

Because people love talking about themselves, so when you’re a good listener, it’ll cause them to put their guards down and be more comfortable around you.

You’re giving off the vibe as someone they already know and feel close to.

That’s how you become a “likeable person”

They’ll like you because you’re getting them to talk about themselves.

It’s very rare to meet someone who’s willing to listen because most people are just in a hurry to talk and get their point across without listening to what the other person has to say.

Focus on building good quality relationships with people

Instead Begging for the opportunity, don’t be afraid to ask personal questions to get to know the prospect as human being

That’s gonna cause the prospect to like you.

Because we ALL wana be around people that we like.

There’s many people on this planet who are in industries they’re not qualified for but the reason they’re their is because there’s just “something” about them

That “something” is that they’re a very likeable person and people enjoy being around him/her

Because if you take the time to get to know your prospect instead of begging them for a job, begging for a date or begging for an investment,

They will turn around to try and talk you into being with them, doing business with them or why you should allow them to invest into your company

It completely flips the script.

Just like dating, if you make a very good first impression in business and/or job interviews and move along as if you have several other options, it will create scarcity in the mind of the employer (or client) as they may not want to potentially loose you to someone else.

Failing to build PEOPLE skills (otherwise known as ‘soft skills’) will keep you stuck on the ladder you’re climbing within your profession

So you should always be prospecting because if an employer isn’t willing to give you what you want right now and you’re HUNGRY for it, then last thing you wana do is to sit around waiting for that opportunity to come “someday”

(Don’t quit your job or contract overnight. Keep it. But also be looking for better prospects on the side)

The goal is to improve your income and your working conditions and to improve your ability to grow, learn and maximise your potential

And so if an employer isn’t willing to give you that after you’ve proven you ability and skill sets for 2-3 years then don’t sit their and take that

You’re in charge of your profession and career

You are your own representative.

So therefor if someone isn’t willing to give you what you want, then in your spare time you have to be looking someone who WILL give you what you’re requesting.

One or two things will happen.

You’ll either find a better opportunity

Or

When you’re in the PROCESS of finding that better opportunity, maybe your current employer will have something which opens and fits what you’re wanting

Either way.....

Success is when you’re making progress within what you’re doing.

So if you’re just STUCK there and nothing is moving, then you won’t feel like you’re making any progress.

Which will result to you not feeling Successful.

So the goal is to be always moving forward.

Whenever you have time, Read the book

“How To Win Friends & Influence People”

By Dale Carnegie

It’s a great book

Till next time