(ARTICLE) 20 LIFE LESSONS TO REMEMBER
Added 2021-01-23 13:15:51 +0000 UTC1. There is no exact age or moment in your life in which you “figure it all out”. The greater reality is that unless you actively and wilfully take control of your life and environment, your reality will be a long life of you learning the hard way, the painful way, and having equal amounts fun and failure The learning does not cease at any point in time. You must learn to apply and build your WILL on the world at large
2. There is always someone better than you, taller, faster, smarter, and better looking than you. You need to get the fuck over this For people that come from small towns and environments, or insulated upbringings, the realisation that you are not special can be a mean one
If your ego is built upon exceptionality, you will be humbled, and harshly, if you cannot perform to that standard take solace and Action that outside of Height, practically every quality about yourself can be controlled and improved upon
3. If you have debt, TAKE CARE OF IT AS SWIFTLY AS POSSIBLE Student loans weigh down your credit, as does anything you pay for with credit If you use credit to buy anything, pay it back immediately. Do not live above your means & be financially reckless Until you earn Big, do'nt spend big
4. Hard work by itself is not sufficient for getting what you want If you want to stand out, you need to be exceptional, not just competent Work smarter AND Harder than everyone else Intelligence + a work ethic is the winning combination, they're not mutually exclusive
5. Money is your scorecard. If this upsets, you are a fucking loser Money is status, money is security, money is opportunity, money is power Life costs money, and the more you have, the more advantageous your position
6. No one is going to save you, and everything is your fault Either be empowered by this or ruined by it. Total responsibility will be either the best or worst thing to ever happen to you depending on your attitude
7. Habits create you or destroy you Laziness is a habit So is action Anxiety is a habit So is movement. When you view life as a series of actions, the way forward becomes clear and even formulaic Whatever you do is what you will become
8. You don't need to ask other people for answers, there are there in you, if you would only ask yourself Other people can give you expectations and observations, but they are not living your life, YOU ARE Cease asking for permission Embrace Your agency over your Own Life
9. Holding grudges and fighting with people makes life bitter Learn to let go and move on and leave it behind. The number of people who will pass in and out of your life is more than you’ll ever imagine Getting stuck on petty bullshit grounds your development in place
10. FOR MEN - You will make stupid decisions thinking with your dick and because your brain decided to lust really really hard Don't be stupid more than you need to be, and learn not to be stupid A man that cannot control his lust is a man who cannot control his energy or focus
11. No one owes you shit, and your entitlement is unbecoming Also useless. Either you earn it or you don't deserve it. People that get things they don't deserve are role models on how not to live, not on what to do.
12. Always strive to have clarity in your relationships Friendship, romance, business Set standards and don't let ambiguity persist. You'll see with time that people with messy relationships always have fucked up lives This is entirely avoidable
12. Don't waste too much time trying to decide what you want Perfect decision making paralyses a lot of people Constant action leads to better decision making than chronically analysis if two paths seem equal, flip a coin, then MOVE Decisiveness creates momentum this way
13. Unless you are a genius and keystone cog in a machine, you are replaceable at most jobs you do Either be exceptional or be easily fired. Or create your own business If you want to be self made, you must be self paid
14. You will rise and fall in accordance with your relationships Want to rise? Create a circle of ambitious friends Want to stagnate and fall? Befriend lazy people Energy is contagious amongst people, and this principle will either serve you or hurt
15. You do not have forever to do the things you want to do You do NOT have all the time in the world. This attitude will fuck you over with every passing year you cling to it By the end of your 20s, you'll see the difference between those who lived with urgency vs who was lazy
16. Physical fitness is the foundation for mental fitness They are not separate. Stronger people have more energy, weak people do not. If you lack fitness, you'll lack energy Being strong AND fit is always an asset, never a hinderance .
17. FOR MEN - Women are not a distraction, Weak men allow them to be distractions. The distraction is in how you allow women to take control over your time, energy, and focus, and this is your fault for allowing this to happen Maintain agency, have firm boundaries, and you have nothing to worry about
18. Expecting the world to "care" about you is misguided Everyone has their own life to worry about, and people must put themselves first If you want the consideration and care of others, earn by way of deed and action Entitlement otherwise is delusion
19. The higher you rise, the more people will want to see you fall Success creates its own enemies, and you wont understand it till you have risen high enough The world loves accomplished people, but it also loves to see them fall Be Hard to Kill, literally & metaphorically
20. Obsession and being a psycho is a reliable path to success there is no more reliable path to ascending than this Everything else is deficient in comparison
BONUS
21. Don't be afraid to love Its good to love, regardless of how long it last love is not a finite thing, even when its lost, its infinite Life will be better for you when you realise this and love without fear
Till next time
Comments
Subscribed this month so I'm working from oldest to newest. This is a great post but a quick note on lesson 3, student loans do not affect credit ratings in the UK.
2022-11-14 20:14:18 +0000 UTCThis is right up there with the biggest of life lessons.
Jeff
2022-02-12 23:55:04 +0000 UTC