Is He a Dominant or a Douche?
Added 2024-04-10 07:31:38 +0000 UTCDoes he see kink ethics as necessities, or favours bestowed upon you if you “deserve” them?
Does she see your limits as inconveniences or tools to keep you safe?
Is he here to connect with you or exploit you?
Does he see your capacity to say “no” as an asset to encourage or a horse to break?
Does he want to know you or use you?
Does he demonise you when you refuse to submit? Or does he take it as an opportunity to truly understand your needs?
Does he see your submission as a sign of strength or weakness?
Do you want to walk taller? Or is your shame a growing burden you can’t explain?
Has he taken the time to understand the risks of your play? Or does he have 58 excuses for avoiding classes and 60 reasons BDSM “isn’t that dangerous.”
When you have an unexpected emotional reaction mid-scene, do you feel the need to hide it?
Has he asked about medical conditions that could affect your play?
Does he see dominance has an excuse for being an asshole? Or as a standard he must strive to reach?
Are you cherished or just the helium in his ego balloon?
Does he encourage your voice or shame it for not being submissive enough?
Do you feel like a cherished human or a kinky Pez dispenser? The way he makes you feel is a sure a sign as any, so do you feel happy? Do you feel seen or invisible? Treasured or broken?
