Genevieve King

Can Relationship Anarchy ever coexist with Hierarchy? (and is it even a Binary?)

Added 2024-01-28 11:44:54 +0000 UTC

A question was prompted to me 2 weeks ago, and it's one that I get somewhat often: in practice, is there ever a time when anarchistic and hierarchical approaches can happily coexist?

There's a lot to consider here.

When it comes to my videos about broader theory, as a non-academic, I think they're at their best when asking you questions for your own self inquiry. My hope is to offer some conversation starters today, so you can better define where the line is for you, and how your own theory can play out in practice.

Timecode:

0.00 Intro
01.40 Nuance of each term
05.50 Can explicit desires for RA coexist with explicit desires for Hierarchy? (in community, friendships, casual sex, regular intimacy, emotional connections, interdependence, long term planning...?)
08.40 How emotionally risky is it? When does the risk feel worth it, and where is the line?
12.17 Institutional hierarchy as means for survival (coercion to join hierarchical work environments, to get married for healthcare, cohabitation, citizenship...)
14.20 Social hierarchies and barriers to challenging them (stigma, punishment, prohibited from family or community spaces, types of careers, etc.)
16.22 Logistics can impact power dynamics (exploring how interdependence and polyam taboos can give way to Sneakiarchy)
19.00 Hinge passivity (pitting metas against each other, throwing partners under the bus to avoid admitting their own preferences, framing a hinge's personal choices as though a meta were exerting control...)
20.20 Internalized Hierarchy...
21.25 If you want Hierarchy...
23.05 Outro

Captions auto generated by Patreon; Transcript at the bottom of this post via Otter AI

Warmly,
Morgan