Why it feels like I'm your friend
Added 2023-11-02 12:37:00 +0000 UTCParasocial relationships are something I've been thinking a lot about lately, especially after beginning my 10 Questions podcast. So....uh....yeah. This one got meta. I apologize if it made any of you feel weird. I must stay, it has been great getting to know you on here, though.
It might have been self-sabatoge to release this the more I think about it.
Oh well.
Thank you for your continued support!
Comments
Definitely a neat topic to think about, friend. (See what I did there?) Lol anyway, just found out we have very close birthdays so Happy Late Birthday (according to Wikitubia).
Daniel Kolbin
2023-11-07 08:50:55 +0000 UTCLately ive been trying to build more relationships with my town and community by becomeing more involved. the people i see there are useally much older but i enjoy it because i feel more fullfilled then lets say playing D&D with someone i never met before online.
Devin Canada
2023-11-04 14:44:43 +0000 UTCThat was a great time. Sure let's plan on it again!
Mr. Beat
2023-11-04 14:34:02 +0000 UTCI remember when i met you we had a fun chat just shooting the breeze about anything and everything. Traded books and then we forgot to get a photo together. One day id love to visit with you again as that was a lot of fun.
Devin Canada
2023-11-04 14:33:07 +0000 UTCYeah Patreon has made it manageable to connect with viewers, and I value getting to know folks like you on here. I guess if I was Taylor Swift it might be different. π
Mr. Beat
2023-11-04 02:02:24 +0000 UTCInteresting topic! I think parasocial relationships are like alcohol, good in moderation and can be fun, but can be dangerous to your (mental)health if thereβs too much consumption. I enjoy your content and appreciate how interactive you are with your viewers. I enjoyed getting to meet you a while back via zoom. Based on that experience and your content, you seem like a genuine, honest and nice person.
Naterade
2023-11-04 01:06:36 +0000 UTCI literally have already got comments from people who experienced that! I think the simple lesson is to be aware of parasocial relationships so that we balance them with real-life relationships. On another note, it's been great getting to know you on the Web. :)
Mr. Beat
2023-11-03 21:15:51 +0000 UTCI did feel a little self conscious watching this one, wondering if I engage in a weird way. How dare you make me think! :-) But this was very, very interesting. It made me wonder if I got more and more into YouTube content starting in 2020 when the world shutting down coincided with my family moving to a new town, where we barely knew other people. New real life relationships in a new place developed more slowly because of COVID, so I wonder if I got caught in parasocial relationships. Anyone else here relate to that?
Michael Burt
2023-11-03 20:53:37 +0000 UTCOh good. This feedback is an example of why I find what I do so rewarding. :)
Mr. Beat
2023-11-03 11:35:07 +0000 UTCBecause I can relate. Even now, I'm writing to someone I only know through his work on YouTube. But it hit me in a good way, because it encourages me to look at what I say and do online.
Alon Katz
2023-11-02 22:22:59 +0000 UTCWell I promise y'all I'll never give you detention
Mr. Beat
2023-11-02 19:42:16 +0000 UTCYep lol
Mr. Beat
2023-11-02 19:41:43 +0000 UTCHow so?
Mr. Beat
2023-11-02 19:40:19 +0000 UTCIn the case with RM Brown, the class is extra muscular.
D.F.
2023-11-02 18:55:40 +0000 UTCI join completely. Mutual interactivity really helps people get engaged, and it make the community feel like a real class sometimes.
Alon Katz
2023-11-02 18:20:20 +0000 UTCMan, this one hit me like a truck
Alon Katz
2023-11-02 18:18:53 +0000 UTCIf you make it to Ohio I would love to see you guys!
Gael Guerard
2023-11-02 16:51:04 +0000 UTCThank you, and I did throw in a picture of Swifties in this video in case you missed it!
Mr. Beat
2023-11-02 16:31:40 +0000 UTCYeah it's shocking to me how I am quite a different person than I was even five years ago. But I was one of the "OG" Joe Rogan listeners. I started in 2011!
Mr. Beat
2023-11-02 16:31:13 +0000 UTCLOL about the "G-list" thing. Well I truly appreciate your kindness and general support over the years. It was definitely an honor to meet you a couple years back. We might be headed to Ohio in the spring, so I will let everyone know if another meetup could be in the works. And it's always amazing to get to know you more. Now I have to Google "Ocean Conservation Namibia!"
Mr. Beat
2023-11-02 16:30:17 +0000 UTCWhenever the this topic comes up I immediately think of Swifties. I donβt think there is a better group to see how problematic par social relationships can get. Great video as always!
Alex Gorell
2023-11-02 14:14:39 +0000 UTCUnderstandable. It's gotta be tough to interact with everybody. But I have a sneaking suspicion that you're an extravert like myself, which makes it a little easier.
D.F.
2023-11-02 14:06:45 +0000 UTCWhat's weird are the people unwilling to break up with their talking heads, instead they cling to them no matter how crazy they become over time.
D.F.
2023-11-02 14:04:55 +0000 UTCA few years ago, before Spotify, I used to listen to Joe Rogan a lot, too. Almost every video. But now I still watch him if there is a subject or person he is interviewing that I am interested in. In the world of YouTube I believe you grow and change. That's the advantage of a parasocial relationship, it can be temporary. It's easier to break up with "Joe Rogan" than if it were a real relationship!
Gael Guerard
2023-11-02 13:49:42 +0000 UTCHey Matt, Good video topic and who would be better than a creator with first hand experience to "create" it. :-) I think it's easy to confuse a parasocial relationship with a "friend", especially when you are younger. I do feel like I know you, though it isn't the same as a close friend, more like one of my school teachers that I really liked. I've learned so much from your videos over the last few years. And I respect you and your efforts to teach and entertain. I feel good about supporting your channel. I have actually met 3 other creators a few years ago, one in the UK and 2 in Japan. Meeting you a couple of years ago only confirmed my idea of you and what you are about. I'm a patron to you and one other channel, "ocean conservation Namibia" for about the same length of time. (Ha! Now you know more about me.) BTW I think you are at least "G" list! :-)
Gael Guerard
2023-11-02 13:34:16 +0000 UTCLOL well if you are persistent enough, I suppose you can break through any parasocial relationship to make it a "regular" relationship. Then again, it could also lead to a restraining order, so there is a fine line. It's been great getting to know you. You're a cool human. :)
Mr. Beat
2023-11-02 13:06:33 +0000 UTCWell put
Mr. Beat
2023-11-02 13:04:59 +0000 UTCMeanwhile me: doesnβt have Parasocial Relationships because I literally just get in contact with the people I watch online lol
Ralph W. Kelly
2023-11-02 13:01:34 +0000 UTCVery interesting watch! What a lot of people also don't realise is that at the end of the day content creators, celebrities or whoever else are just people like anybody else. Just because they have a following doesn't mean they are any less or more than you or I. Realising that can really help in avoiding paradoxical relationships or at the very least avoid most of the negative aspects that you highlighted in my opinion.
Caro
2023-11-02 12:54:39 +0000 UTCReally? That is surprising. I find interacting with my viewers extremely rewarding. The only obstacle usually is time to do so!
Mr. Beat
2023-11-02 12:43:28 +0000 UTCOf all the Patreons for which I'm a patron, you seem to be the most interactive with your fans. I, and surely others, appreciate that.
D.F.
2023-11-02 12:39:10 +0000 UTC
