Over-eating can be good for you?
Added 2024-01-26 01:35:18 +0000 UTCLil community update rant thing!
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I'm feeling very similar to you. (I've never been the skinny kid, but the other things you said XD) I've gained the most weight I ever have in 2023. It's to the point where I found out I am on the early spectrum of a fatty liver, and it's not good. I definitely think it happened because I've been super depressed lately. I am one of those people that get it in the face, neck, stomach, and thighs. But I'm trying my best to lose it again. Luckily/unluckily for me, the first places I lose weight are my face and thighs. So it doesn't feel like I'm losing but I know I am. I've been losing a lot more recently though I can technically attribute that to my ADHD pills since I found out I have that in 2023 hahah! So while it's not good that I basically stopped eating, I have noticed that when I DO eat, I can't eat as much as I used to. But do know.... I'm not doing that on purpose and I'm not suffering from any eating disorders. You just kinda get busy and forget. Idk. I love eating. But I think that my need to lose weight is not stemmed from society pressures. It's for health and happiness. My husband noticed I got more depressed the more weight I gained, and I was a lot happier when I was a more normal weight. My best way to lose it was always counting calories too. I also think my 2 jobs at the time helped haha!
SpyroShurtagul
2024-02-19 02:29:22 +0000 UTCMy previous comment aside, I'm literally sat here eating melted cheese out of a cup and feeling both disgusted and a little bit proud of myself 😂😂
Hayley
2024-01-29 19:49:00 +0000 UTCAww thank you Helena. Learning *Self Love* has been by far the most difficult thing I've ever had to do and its certainly a long, arduous journey. I'm so sorry that you went through that also, I can't actually believe some people 😳 smh. I have no doubt that you are an amazing mother to your daughter though and I'm sure she knows it. I try to remember that when people are unkind it's a reflection on them, not you xx
Hayley
2024-01-29 19:39:06 +0000 UTCThere's a lot to unpack in this video. First of all- and I'm not saying this to be a simp or a creep- I think you look great. I wouldn't say you *need* to lose 15-20lbs at all, that seems rather excessive imo (but what do I know?) Personally, I have struggled with body image for as long as I can remember. My family weren't particularly kind to me growing up and I've definitely carried that negativity with me into adulthood. I made the mistake of working in fashion in my early 20s which sent my already flaky MH into a spiral and I ended up with a pretty serious eating disorder. Fortunately I recovered from that and was able to maintain a healthy weight throughout my mid-late 20s (although always keeping one eye on the scales, it never fully leaves you) and even after having my children was able to lose/maintain a comfortable and healthy weight. I have daughters so the last thing I ever wanted to do was show them any form of self hatred or pass that negative body image onto them. Luckily so far they're doing great, they love themselves and are much kinder to themselves than I have ever been to myself. The last few years have been turbulent, I was in an abusive relationship which took it's toll on my MH and in turn my weight but in the opposite way to nefore. Even now, 2 years after leaving said relationship I am still my heaviest ever. I'm trying but I go from "I hate myself" to "there's worse things in life than being a bit fat" and then back to "I hate myself" really quickly. Ultimately you have do what makes you feel good. Think about working out and eating healthily as fuel for your MH rather than focusing *too* much on numbers on scales and waistbands. Allow yourself a treat. Allow yourself a lazy day off of working out. I don't know... I'm probably the worst person to give advice but what I will say is life is too short to be obsessing over it. As long as you're not in a dangerous weight bracket (too high or too low) then you're doing good. Xx
Hayley
2024-01-29 09:46:17 +0000 UTCI just listen to my body and do what works for me: I eat what I’m craving when I’m hungry and stop when I’m full. 🤷🏽♀️ But to be fair though, I don’t buy or eat a lot of “junk” food or prepackaged stuff (premade stuff costs more than if I were to just buy the raw ingredients and make something myself, plus there’s more leftovers that way, and there’s usually a lot of salt and preservatives and who-knows-what-else in prepackaged stuff. No thank you). I also usually only eat one “big” meal a day and drink lots of water throughout. I’ll have snacks during the day if I’m extra active and feel hunger too, of course. But I don’t keep track of anything as far as calories, portion sizes, or food pyramid stuff goes. Never had a problem with being overweight. And my doc says I’m healthy 🤷🏽♀️ I will say though: when I was younger (teens/high school), I did have a fear of following the obesity/heart disease/high blood pressure/heart attacks/type 2 diabetes/death/etc. “trend” that was (and still is) prevalent in my family. I didn’t want to struggle like them, so I just didn’t eat, sometimes for days at a time. (Yeah, don’t do that. That was stupid. That was a very unhealthy period in my life. And not just physically.. ) As I got older however, I realized the whole, “obesity runs in my family” excuse was bullshit. No, it didn’t: eating like shit and not exercising was what ran in my family.🫤
Expired Coupon
2024-01-28 19:37:09 +0000 UTCThe pic is of my furry son, a cute lil Corgi. Anyway, got this strong desire to ask two questions.....1) Are you familiar with Cole Porter? 2)Ever hear, can you give a listen to,"It Had To Be You"? Please, do when you can. It is important, thank you ✌️✌️✌️❤️❤️❤️😂😂😂😘😘😘🥰
Gayle
2024-01-27 16:21:54 +0000 UTCFirst of all, I think this might be my favorite video that you've posted because I just loved you walking around and rambling about what's on your mind 🩷 the energy of it is 🤌 Secondly, my fat stores like yours does, mainly just my tummy and a little in my face. I've got small arms and legs, but a round little tummy and I hate it 😅 your little tummy is so cute though lol My new year's resolution is to fix my diet, because much like you, sweets are a big problem for me, especially chocolate and fruity/sour candies. Being so stressed lately definitely isn't helping my eating habits either 😩 Maybe by the end of the year we'll both be happy with our bodies again 🤍
Leah Miranda
2024-01-27 00:37:21 +0000 UTCI feel you. I was part of the skinny ones for a long time, but once I entered the circle of sadness (without even realizing it), I gained 20 pounds. I was considered average by the people around me, but I really hated what I saw in the mirror. But even though I didn't liked my body, I couldn't lose weight properly. (Now I think It's because eating gave me happiness, whereas trying to lose weight, helped me love my body for a while, but made me sadder in a way...). Finally, one day, my boyfriend left me, and I entered a period in which I did a lot of thinking. For about 3 months, I spent all my weekends thinking (literally, for a whole day, I'd sit alone on a chair, asking myself heavy questions and trying to answer them as objectively as possible.) . i've also reached people i needed answers from, to move on some specific questions that were unresolved for me, and were eating me from the inside. With those answers, I began to understand, forgive, and appreciate myself. And with all that, I started to lose weight. By feeling better, i naturally stopped overeating. Felt like it was really no effort (no sport, no deprivation) Since 2 years, I'm back to my former weight,and I'm much happier (i still have ups and downs of course)... but I also still eat my ben n jerries from time to time, or eat squares of chocolate almost every evening for dessert ^^".
Pouet
2024-01-26 23:16:18 +0000 UTCI can relate to this video so much 😅 I'm emotional eater (unfortunately any feeling goes). I think this is something I have learned from my mom, she used food to comfort me when I was a kid. I heard once that one shouldn't try to be too hard on yourself with diet when under stress or sick etc, 'cos that just adds to the stress in the body. I eat quite healthy overall, but when I feel sad, anxious or stressed I want to eat chocolate, chips or ice cream. If I manage to be without sugar for about two weeks it becomes somewhat easy to stay away from sugar and I feel so much better when I don't have it. Sugar causes some sort of brain fog, feeling sad and tiredness to me. It's really inspiring to hear u speak about this topic and u working on it, it motivates me to keep on working on it too, so thanks 🙂 My tips are to drink water when feeling hungry, tired or wanting to eat something "bad" and wait a little and see if it was hunger or thirst...many times people confuse thirst being hunger. I also eat 5 times a day (berries, vegetables or fruits on every meal with some low fat protein, good fats from nuts and oils and little carbs), not huge meals and about 3-4h between the meals (helps with cravings). I also have started to eat the last meal of the day earlier, so that my guts have longer time to rest. That's another thing I have read from somewhere, that one reason for stomach issues nowadays is that people constantly eat something and guts have to work on it to digest it. I cook my own food, avoid processed foods, eat less carbs and those from whole grain rice/pasta/oat bread/porridge. If I feel like eating dessert I make flavored low calorie instant coffee, if I feel like snacking I try to eat fresh berries.. I try to sleep more since that's supposed to help loose weight. I was very athletic kid and I got bullied a little for being too skinny as a kid, (that started the my body isn't good enough thing)... when I stopped playing soccer at 16 I gained a bit weight on me, so I wasn't so skinny anymore and still wasn't happy about myself. After turning 30 I feel like just looking at dessert makes u gain and it's really hard to get rid of. And office job with 2h in bus, pandemic, shit storms in life made me gain more weight. So ur description sitting in hunched over position in front of the mirror made me think "I so know what that feels like" 😅 That being said, u don't look fat, u still look great 🙂 Well done for trying to be healthier 🙂 Sorry for this too long comment, healthy eating/relationship with food is really interesting topic to me and I would have wanted to say even more (for example about why I can't go full on vegan right now, trying to eat more vegan foods though) I appreciate u talking about ur reasons for being vegan and not making others feel guilty about not being vegan 🥰
JustSomeJK
2024-01-26 19:20:21 +0000 UTCIt’s okay I am working on it ☺️ You are already doing so much for us by talking about it and sharing your battles ! We all have battles and as humans it’s good to support each other 🥰
Jureth
2024-01-26 17:54:29 +0000 UTCIdk enough about this stuff, but I’m happy you’re doing better! I find a lot of advice online assumes too many things - most solutions that have to do with your brain need to be more tailored to how you work individually than broad advice online
Joel Berghult
2024-01-26 17:53:22 +0000 UTCYeah, if it becomes a problem it’s worth addressing. I don’t have any answers here I’m afraid
Joel Berghult
2024-01-26 17:50:57 +0000 UTCWork has always been chaotic but yesterday was especially trying and terrible for me and colleagues. During lunchtime I must have looked sad because my colleague took out her stash of m&m peanuts from her locker and gave to me. Such a simple gesture and yet I instantly felt so happy munching on those precious morsels. I totally relate by what you meant food can give you pure bliss. There are days my mood is so low when I reached home, I just don't have the appetite to eat proper dinner. Crackers and a cup of hot milo would suffice. Or some bread with nutella spread and hot tea. I don't have specific food lifestyle and I eat in moderation on good days mostly. Though I need to be careful of my emotional eating patterns on bad days. Seeing you pacing around is such a mood. You're not demented. Just delirious for a moment. Lol. Hope you'll achieve to be healthier by end of 2024. I know you can~~💜
♠️ Aslyn Jobry ♠️
2024-01-26 15:50:07 +0000 UTCI absolutely loved your mini Ted talk! Food truly becomes a cherished escape, especially in those emotionally charged moments. I myself have been doing a lot of emotional eating, recently. It's fascinating how I hardly think about food during good times, but when stress hits, food becomes my refuge. And let's not forget that desserts are the best indulgence! Especially chocolate, which is a mood enhancer! 🍫 My advice to anyone who wants to live a healthy life is to try adhering to the Mediterranean diet! It's the optimal diet for human body, historically and scientifically.
Ornela
2024-01-26 12:19:31 +0000 UTCLoved the video ❤️ I've always had a bad relationship to food and struggled with EDs up to my 20s with my weight fluctuating significantly. I went vegan about 4 years ago and can relate to a lot of points made in the video. One of the best decisions of my life btw, my bloodwork is great, I feel and look my best and never had to worry about my weight ever since (I think it might be because as a vegan you have to be aware of what you're eating anyways, so you're kind of more aware of your food intake by the nature of it 🤔). It's also gotten so much easier to get vegan options, even when eating out, so I don't feel like I'm restricting myself at all times 😊 Thank you for opening up the door to this conversation, it seems like a lot of people have shared experiences and I love to see the exchange 😊🤗❤️
Nataliekey
2024-01-26 10:15:27 +0000 UTCOh wow I really know how this feels! I have always been really thin all my life until the last few years that I have yo-yoed from 52 to 65 kg. Every time I am going through some bad times I eat like crazy ! It’s like my comfort and it gives me emotional strength “in my head” to keep on going! But sometimes I am so stressed that I actually can’t eat !! And when I get better again I go back to my old eating habits but then the cycle happens again and it’s been happening for a few years now. This has caused some marks to appear on my skin that now I am really insecure about 😔 I don’t know how to stop this cycle… And I get very sad when I realise my clothes don’t fit anymore and I know I am doing it again…. So I gave up on trousers and skirts and now I only use dresses that would fit me when I am underweight and overweight because I am tired to change my whole wardrobe when my weight changes and it just makes me feel sad noticing the changes through my clothes. I don’t know how to fix it so am just trying to focus on my mental health so maybe I can better myself on what is affecting me? And maybe when I have hard times again in the future I won’t do this anymore?
Jureth
2024-01-26 10:13:17 +0000 UTCThis topic is so near and dear to me and this video was hard to watch. I have had the worst health journey, and it was made so much worse by following wrong advice from HEALTH PROFESSIONALS. In a nutshell, doing what my doctors, endocrinolists, nutritionist, phychiatrists told me to do, and following the official nitritional guidelines, robbed me of my entire twenties, and some of my thirties. So since 2019 I've stopped doing what conventional wisdom dictates and are doing my own thing. IT IS THE ONLY THING THAT HAS WORKED FOR MY HEALTH (mental and physical) AND MY WEIGHT. So I'm dedicated to this now. I've spend the last year doing proper research and testing on myself and family, and I'm almost done writing a book about it. I'm trying to get it out before March if I can. There is always a sliver of something correct in the health advice out there, enough for it to SEEM scientific/correct, but unfortunately A LOT of what we believe is scientifically backed health advice is manufactured, paid for by lobbies, and largely driven by the ideology of a few big-ego men from the 1960s, with a personal agenda. I've cured my depression and anxiety with my "regime". I've finally managed to lose a LOT of the 60kg/130lb that I GAINED in the first year after being diagnosed and medicated. That weight gain did more damage to my recovery than anything else and I'm still paying with my health for decisions made by my doctors. This is the best I've felt since I was 19yo. But it took ignoring all conventional wisdom to get here. Fuck counting calories. Fuck 6 tiny meals a day. Fuck not eating the good fat. Fuck denying myself animal products "for my health". It was clearly not working. Our collective mental health is worse than ever, so is obesity and type 2 diabetes, fertility is also getting worse by the day, and Alzheimer's can hit people in their 30s and 40s now😳 This trend is directly correlated with the introduction of highly processed food and the food pyramid nonsense in the late 1970s. This is too tin fool hat for a lot of people, that is fine. But if anyone here is open to trying something different I can help. (if anyone actually read this far, lmk by using an apple emoji if you reply😉)
Sofie G
2024-01-26 07:54:23 +0000 UTCEating food should be 100% guilt free. I have lost a significant amount of weight over 10 months and when I first started I had no idea where to begin so as most of us do I researched and looked at social media. The amount of misinformation and demonizing of food is enormous. No wonder people have a unhealthy relationship with food. I've noticed this a lot in the health influencer world on social media. I think the worse are the ones who tell you not to eat and certain food and then in the same sentence try this one it's the "healthier" alternative but what they don't tell you is their getting paid to tell you that the "healthier" brand is better when for the most part it's the same exact thing. It's ok to eat doesn't matter if it's for comfort or for stress management at the end of the day it's your life and if that piece of chocolate makes you happy then you should eat it
Kelli Love
2024-01-26 06:29:20 +0000 UTCAs someone who has yo-yoed between 62 and 101 kg for the last two decades, I’m currently on a gaining streak again but I know that I can lose it again so I’m at peace with it now and allow myself to indulge as long as my clothes aren’t too tight, I’m ok with it 😊 Eat what you want because you’re only here once and as long as you’re not phased by it and you’ve not got any health complications, then it’s ok. I find when doing substitutions when I’m feeling self conscious helps, like getting the lower fat version of your normal foods so you don’t feel like you’re missing out 🙂
Jen 🦙
2024-01-26 06:29:13 +0000 UTCI'm obese and i don't try to fight anymore with it in going to diet. I'm just stabilising. As I'm under hormonal treatment for my thyroid, it's really difficult and i tend to be a good eater unfortunately. I managed to not gaining more weight but i can't loose either. Thanks for sharing this with us bro.
Magalie Leplus
2024-01-26 05:44:54 +0000 UTCYup I have a sweet tooth too so I totally understand. 😔 Also here in the US so much food has hidden sugar so it’s hard to avoid. I recently have been doing intermittent fasting where you eat during a certain window of time and I have noticed that I have been feeling better when I do that.
Miriam
2024-01-26 05:44:22 +0000 UTCFood is so difficult because we need it to thrive and especially in America our culture has such an unhealthy view on what a proper diet looks like. I'm trying to eat more plant based and it takes a lot of effort to make better choices. So when I'm having a bad day or feel overwhelmed I go for the sweets or something processed. These past 5 years have been emotionally difficult in multiple ways and it has caused me to gain about 10-15 pounds. I exercise more and that feels good but food is really where I struggle to make those positive lasting changes.
missysue4851
2024-01-26 02:48:20 +0000 UTCThere were times when you looked a bit too thin too. Find a balance. When I am being good, I use MyFitnessPal to track a lot of info. My old personal trainer told me too. But lately I will eat very healthy all day then sit at after work to watch some videos and snack mindlessly. I lost my job in July and gained so much weight. Got to my heaviest ever in October. Gained like 50lbs. Started a new job in November and lost 20lbs since. I walk 17,000-20,000 steps a day most work days. It helps to have someone there with you for motivation.
Lianne Conroy
2024-01-26 02:40:01 +0000 UTCIt helps me when I write down what I eat every day. This assists me in tracking my eating patterns.
Bookdragon 43
2024-01-26 02:21:58 +0000 UTCI am aware I have an unhealthy relationship with food. So I stick to mainly unprocessed, Whole Foods normally. But - when I hit a wall and I get feelings like I don’t matter to anyone (happens every once in a while) I do go and get some comfort foods. The difference is that I don’t get upset about it. Sometimes you need that help that only cookies and carbs will give you. My advice is to let yourself have what makes you feel better and don’t give up on healthy eating the rest of the time. ♥️ Proud of you, my guy. And thanks for the bedroom silhouette description. I got rid of the mirror in my room. 🤣
AnovaSig
2024-01-26 01:54:55 +0000 UTCWasn't so much a rant as a musing. Let's hope it starts conversations in the comments.
Cas
2024-01-26 01:54:10 +0000 UTCI used to be very overweight as a teenager (83 kg), I also was bullied for it ( not just by schoolkids also bij my oen parents and even parents of friends I had) because of that i’ve lost more than 30 kg and developed an massive eating disorder. I have days where I eat a lot of food and days I don’t eat at all. I’m glad you’re happy though.
Shannon
2024-01-26 01:50:32 +0000 UTCOh Joel I gained 10 pounds during the pandemic. I lost 4 but still have more to lose. I have anxiety and I feel like my anxiety is "controlled", but it's actually in the food. I just replace vices. This year I want to try to exercise and be healthier. Let's agree to do this?! 🤣 I cant do this alone lol
Jess Haggstron
2024-01-26 01:42:57 +0000 UTC
