743. Tales from the Pit: Cusping Hard (Feat. Marina and Tom Reimann)
Added 2024-07-08 13:00:17 +0000 UTC
Michael brings on Marina and Tom Reimann, expecting parents and personal friends. Marina and Tom are expecting any day now so this conversation consists of Michael asking them about their journey so far, as he begins his own. This episode continues the ongoing conversation about Michael and jenn’s leap into parenthood.
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Also, I have a pair of sound reducing headphones for babies/toddlers. Those help a ton, too. My daughter is very outgoing, but when it’s crowded or loud in a way she can’t control, she shuts down. I took her to a musical story time at our library a couple weeks ago and gave her the headphones, and she enjoyed herself so much she actually participated. It was a game changer for her, and now we don’t leave home without them.
Rachael Perry
2024-07-22 19:13:02 +0000 UTCThe fear changes as you grow through pregnancy and parenthood. As for screens, if you work from home (both my partner and I do), it’s so difficult not to use them at all. Limit it, absolutely, but go screenless? I legitimately cannot understand how parents go without screens for two+ years (more as you add children to your family). My daughter is three and we limit her as best as we can, but she watches Don Bluth, Disney, Miyazaki, and Ms. Rachel/Blippi. The most junk she sees is the occasional unboxing video on YouTube before bed on days where we’re overstimulated. My partner is a gamer and when he would take the babies to let me sleep, he often put on headphones and played his games while rocking or bouncing the babies back to sleep. I watch my shows and movies while I work, but my work begins when his ends, so we essentially trade off (it’s not ideal, but it’s what we can do right now). I cannot function without headphones on. Like, the sounds children make sometimes trigger me, so I have an earbud or a headphone over/in one ear most of the day. I’m pretty sure I have undiagnosed adhd (on top of some other issues), so it helps me process and do it. So, Michael, maybe you switch to auditory stimulation while you and jenn adjust to parenthood and decide how you want to proceed with screens from there? The hardest thing to do, when choosing what to share with your children, is figuring out what has a better frame rate. I’m not as big a movie person as the Beans are, but I count frames when we try a new show. We watch Bluey, Little Bear, Rugrats… basically a ton of pre-2000’s shows. My daughter loves the Muppets, so she gets Muppet Babies, but they’re a bit slower, generally. My baby is not quite a year old yet, but he’s already showing me we’ll have a bigger struggle picking shows for him. He likes flashing vehicles, wheels, balls, and collisions. He does a lot of throwing and dropping, but he’s the baby I was on mood stabilizers with while pregnant, and he’s more sensitive emotionally. Finding the balance between what he needs and what my daughter needs is hard. However, my baby is better at saying, “nope, I’m done,” or, “nah, I need a break, I’m tired.” Babies are incredibly resilient, but they’re also incredible sponges. If you want then to have healthy relationships with external stimulation, you need to model it.
Rachael Perry
2024-07-22 19:10:46 +0000 UTCThat took a lot of courage to share your fears and your history.
Robert Sealand
2024-07-14 23:17:22 +0000 UTCThank you for this episode. It could not have dropped at a better time for me. Listening as I'm sleep deprived and covered in baby vomit... :) As a brand new mom, I cosign all this. Honestly, I wasn't 100% sure about having kids before making the leap, and I'm still not. I just decided life's to short to be paralyzed by a need for absolute certainty. Everything is a roll of the dice to some extent, and nothing's ever perfect, but as long as we take decisions seriously and do our due diligence, I feel like things usually turn out ok. A lot of life just comes down to being being able to roll with the punches and build your own narrative along the way. Also, yes, Relaxin is the single most surprising thing I learned about pregnancy. How do we not talk about the fact that your pelvic bones literally come apart?! I was profoundly unprepared for my pelvis to start randomly popping at 36 weeks. Best of luck to Tom and Marina!
Clare Ireland
2024-07-13 20:53:34 +0000 UTCAmazing! Oliver, great suggestion friend. I'm telling my youngest I named him after you, a delightful stranger on the inter nets. If you don't define yourself solely as a parent you'll do great. Kids are tough, pay attention and love them and shit tends to pan out pretty fantastically. I admit for both of my pups it was harrowing up until we were officially discharged. I'm pretty grateful for that. There's always scary stuff and especially things you won't be able to anticipate. But it sounds like everyone's doing their research and adjusting course accordingly. Not much else that you can do. I would advise for the younger years, be wary of silence. This was super cool, thank you guys for sharing.
drunkencoyote
2024-07-11 06:59:14 +0000 UTCBat Baby 🦇
Hombre
2024-07-09 16:05:38 +0000 UTCThese are always great to listen to and this was also very insightful
Oliver Allen
2024-07-08 14:26:15 +0000 UTC
