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August Bonus Stories 1, 1.5, & 2 ! - Video

Here we go on the video version of August's first couple of bonus stories ! Already seeing some hot takes on story 1 so excited to see them keep coming in!

August Bonus Stories 1, 1.5, & 2  ! - Video

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We are also forgetting that there was another child there who did not get ice cream and did not throw a huge fit because he didn't get ice cream. The sister could have easily said it's ok, I will get you ice cream after lunch like I said.

Kara Persinger

I absolutely get this stance but I also feel like you should teach your kids that they don't always get everything, everyone else does. I have 3 kids and often one of them gets something the other 2 does not.

Kara Persinger

My sister always throws out that I am over stepping so I get the issue with talking to the mom. But to me just like she would like me to talk to her about her parenting doesn't mean I have to do what she wants for her kids for mine. If they want ice cream before lunch and I don't have an issue with it.. that's between me and the kid. But I am also a huge "if one kid doesn't get it neither does the other" so I would have waited until after lunch that day and then I would have told my sister the next time if we want to go and she's with us.. I fight with my brothers often (I have 0 kids but I have 8 nieces and nephews) about not buying items that the other kids don't get in front of the kids that's just rude and unfair. So buy it and put it away. This is why I'm a broke aunt lol

Amanda

I agree with Justin on number 1. Just because the sister doesn’t want her kid to have ice cream doesn’t mean the other kid can’t either. Besides, it’s not like they ate the ice cream in front of her and rubbed it in the kids face.

María Vargas

First story, I'm reminded of the "Pass the Parcel" episode of bluey, where Lucky's dad wants there to be only one big present, instead of everyone getting something smaller. Yeah the kids who didn't get anything were disappointed, but at the end the kids were happy for their friend who won.

claire Smallwood

Thanks for the tip lol I got engaged 2 weeks ago and my fiancé doesn’t seem comfortable with an extravagant ceremony, so I’m thinking we might be doing this!!

Strickly Keeks

I’d like to comment on the group of kids with the ice cream, I agree that the answer could’ve been that they all wait until after lunch. However, when Justin brought up the example at Disney Land, I have a different opinion. Controlling everything to be fair in every situation leads kids to having unrealistic expectations of the world, and for them to be entitled. Just because someone else has something, does not automatically mean you get the same thing, and practicing this idea through childhood helps build understanding adults. If everything is always fair, these kids will be in for a rude awakening as they grow. It doesn’t have to be a mean thing, but life isn’t always fair and I think kids should have chances to understand that before they’re older.

Kristie Bell

So looking forward to these!!

C8smith

Sound a good thorough take! Thank you for sharing!

Two Hot Takes

I definitely agree with Justin in story #1. It would have been different had the kid eaten the ice cream in front of her cousin, but they only found out because someone asked about the stain on her shirt. Sure, being fair/equitable is a very important, teachable quality but so is understanding that we can't always have the things others have. There were plenty of times my friends or cousins had toys/treats that I wanted, but my parents either couldn't or didn't want to give me it as well. That's just life. It's frankly just not that big of a deal either! I can't imagine arguing with my sibling over this. I love when ya'll have different opinions, so fun to listen to!

Melanie Montoya

first story thoughts: as a career nanny who focuses on gentle parenting, it gets such a bad rap due to the name. if the sister was practicing gp, she would have explained to her child that some families do things differently! she will get ice cream after lunch, and it’s okay to be upset or jealous of her cousin, but as her mom she’s in charge of making sure she eats well. OP shouldn’t have gotten their 4yo ice cream before lunch anyway. ESH

Ariel Sandoval

Hey Morgan! I think they were referring to how you didn’t upload an episode on the main YT channel last week, and didn’t announce a reason why. We hope everything is okay, it’s just odd that there was no episode last week and nothing to explain when it would be up :(

Layla Saddik

Thanks!

Morgan

Hi hi I don't have a posting schedule. I do it as I can but it all is guaranteed to be posted by the end of the month :) if you like to binge I recommend being here for a month and then taking off a month!

Two Hot Takes

Totally agree! When I was a kid and another kid got ice cream but we had to wait my parents would just say “those are their rules. Our house has our own rules and life isn’t always fair.” We never had to make everything perfectly even. I think that makes kids have unrealistic expectations

Colbi Eads

NTA for the ice cream story. And I thought Justin’s example was pretty relevant to the story lol. Always limiting your kids experiences to accommodate others is also unfair to them. And this is a great opportunity to teach your kid to be humble, not rub things into people’s faces, be grateful etc. :)

Jessica

Yeah the lack of update or communication at all is disappointing

Layla Broome

Agreed, at least announce it somewhere.

Lindsay Hart

Am I missing am posting schedule or something? Like I feel like there’s no announcements or anything for when they miss a week or front post on Patreon.

Morgan

A core memory growing up was my cousin getting ice cream before lunch, but my family made it clear to them that they would not be getting ice cream later in the day. All kids get ice cream, but only once that day, so make the decision. Do you want it now, or later in the day? My one cousin got ice cream early in the day, and the rest of us waited. He balled is eyes out when the rest of us where having our daily ice cream and he felt cheated.

Brooke

I would agree with Morgan on the first story, but understand Justin's thought process. The niece found out after the kid finish their ice cream. It wasn't in front of the niece. With the difference between lightsaber and ice cream is, the father offered to buy all of the kids ice cream versus it would be expensive to buy everyone a lightsaber. I think a better example would be if child A had an allergic reaction to certain foods, but your child B love the food child A was allergic to. Youre not going to let kid A eat something because kid A sees how much kid B is enjoying their food. Yes, kids should be treated fairly, but it would be a great lesson for the kid to not make a fuss if certain things happen. An other example would be if a family celebrates Christmas versus hanukkah. (If i remember hanukkah correctly.) While one kid gets many small gifts, usually for Christmas one kid gets one big gift. One kid might cry about why their cousin had so many gifts. While the other kid had a big gift. Maybe your brother doesn't celebrate holidays so your niece is sad they had no gifts. Point is it's impossible to treat kids equally in a group. There are better solutions for the ice cream situation then what op and her husband did. I do agree with Morgan's solution would had been the the more tasteful solution, but it doesn't apply to every situation. Plus a immature kid will always act like one. It doesn't matter the situation. As a parent, you can only guide them to have a better understanding or show them ways to channel their emotions. That's a more important lesson than to treat all kids equal. You're not letting your kid grow by putting a facade that everyone is treated equally. 4 year old child is quite young, so I understand that there's no rush.

bakapachai baka

Thank you for the santa talk warning, I was listening with my kids in the room!

Erikka Mankins

NTA on first story, one of your OWN kids didn’t get ice cream too, you’re respectful of mom’s wishes and child in question. She didn’t say no don’t when he went off by himself to get the little girl ice cream and he didn’t flaunt it. I understand wanting to include all the kids but it’s a big life lesson that just because your parents have an expectation for you doesn’t mean another parent has the privilege to hold their kids to that (not related to this story but some parents can only afford McDonald’s etc and some kids see that as a treat). The girls mom should have stepped in and parented her own child

Jess

With the first story, I'm so confused? The 4 year old wanted ice cream so they did it discreetly??? If they included niece, sister may feel steamrolled. Maybe they're doing a bunch of stuff and you want to keep 4 yo happy and quiet. The dad and daughter were in the back out of earshot of the other kids, and no one even noticed until grampa brought up the stain on the girls shirt. I don't see the problem with this at all? Also Justin's point was really valid and it was the same premise of the ice cream, it wasn't apples to oranges. I had plenty of experiences growing up where my friends would get an xbox, or a special experience at Disney world, and while I was bummed it wasn't me, it also taught me that not everyone gets everything they want all the time. If anything it gave my parents the chance to show me - hey you may not get this super expensive new toy, but while they're doing that, we're going to go do something fun and special together.

Isabel De Armas

Hey Morgan you said on the main show you wanted some wedding planning tips. I've been married 15years and I can tell you for sure the best thing my husband and I did was have a private small ceremony and then a big reception. I was in the same boat as you because I got married when I was 20 and all of my friends were at different colleges. I wouldn't trade doing things that way for the world because it kept everything drama free. I don't know if that's what you were looking for, but 15 years later I'm still so happy with that choice.

Dori Sterling

Exactly - parent already said no- could be this sis always says no.

Dea

#1 - NTA #1.5 - NTA… he’s happy 🤣 winner, winner chicken dinner!! $39,000 a year to cook - get ’er done! #2 - NTA ‘nuf said 😅

Dea

I RARELY disagree with Morgan but damn lol the ice cream story? Life isn’t fair. Idc the age teach your kids others have it worse or better in life and just because someone else has a treat (etc) doesn’t mean you get one too lol don’t be a brat about it either

Syriah

For story 1, I can see Justin’s point but I think that telling your child no to ice cream (or keeping a lightsaber hidden from others) because other people in the group were not able to receive that item would create a very teachable moment for the kiddo! Imagine you’re spending time with a friend who (for whatever reason) was unable to eat while you were hanging out. Would you eat in front of them? Or would you be inclined to wait a little bit to eat so you can accommodate your friend? This is a super broad example with very little details (added details might change the response, I understand) but in the simplest sense, many people would want to not make their friend feel left out. That’s the same situation with the ice cream and light saber.

A.M.

I think the sister in story 1 was being respectful of her sister’s choice while still having her own autonomy over her own child. They can disagree on parenting styles, but they shouldn’t be shaming each other for them nor expecting the other to go along with their parenting choices. Maybe they could have communicated, but I feel like OP’s sister would still be upset either way because her parenting choice is being “overridden” because the 4 year old wanted ice cream before lunch and got it. I agree with Morgan the Star Wars, though. I get being decent and a “good parent” by not having your kids get ice cream be for lunch, but my take may be different after almost getting shot delivering newspapers. YOLO (I know, I gave myself the ick with that but it’s the truth right now), get the ice cream.

Becca

Love this show

Toby villalobos

Love it

Toby villalobos

The new studio looks incredible! 🔥

Coralee

With the hypothetical Star Wars story, I could see why Justin brought up that scenario, but I absolutely love Morgan’s reply! I actually really love when you guys disagree on things because it ends up showing how well you both communicate with one another!!

Jasmine Asfour


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