December Bonus Story #2
Added 2023-12-19 19:31:19 +0000 UTCDecembers second bonus story with our gal LAURENNN!! We spill some tea on this one, and really get in to a story we both personally relate to. Thoughts on this one?
For those that have gotten married, how did you handle inviting, taking pictures, etc. with people you weren't the biggest fan of?!
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My parents took in 2 of my cousins and I hated it. However, it’s not our choice who our siblings are. It’s our parents. That said, I don’t understand what’s so wrong of having a picture without her. We would take pics with every single possible scenario (first all of us, then just the girls, than just the boys, than just them, than just us) and nobody every felt left out.
Aline
2024-09-19 19:59:21 +0000 UTCNTA. Not her family and they sh out is t force it just because they accepted her
HRD333
2024-09-10 21:50:03 +0000 UTCMe and an ex of mine exclusively had sex in his car (teenagers lol). We for real got ran up on by a cop before!!!! It was so freaking scary lmfao. But we were able to convince him not to call our parents and we dipped
Dharma Marquardt
2024-06-07 05:25:31 +0000 UTCi’m really glad OP realized she went about it the wrong way. i have been like the 14 year old girl with my best friend’s family of 12+ years, and if this had happened to me when we were kids i would have been beyond crushed and probably would have pulled away from every person in the family. when you’re that young and you kind of assimilate into a family that isn’t yours by blood, and you have a rocky home life, it’s really hard. i remember feeling so scared i would lose them. that is so hard to deal with at 14, i still struggle with it at 23. i think OP was definitely the asshole in the beginning, just coming from the 14 year old’s perspective (i would hold a grudge until i died probably)
cccait
2023-12-28 04:14:12 +0000 UTCso glad the update with a happy ending. My original thought on the post was that OP was the asshole. She should have made it less publicly, humiliating, and taken a bunch of pictures with different members of the family the way OP went about it was wrong. I understand it was her wedding, but how hard is it to just be kind for two seconds for a picture and if that picture is so important to you then have someone online for five dollars Photoshop allie out of the picture and keep the photo shopped picture to your self. I am speaking from someone of an experience with us. My mom was pushed out of a wedding picture before and it was absolutely humiliating even just as her daughter I would never want to make someone feel that way when technology these days is so accessible and it’s so easily available to get a picture photo shopped in minutes so glad to hear that she is going to come around and get to know allie because I agreed with the first, it did sound like some resentment
emma
2023-12-24 04:29:30 +0000 UTCNo one gets it right 100% of the time, no matter how good of a parent they are
M
2023-12-24 04:27:21 +0000 UTCI’m 26, and if my sibling’s spouse and little sister had been taken under my parents’ wing bc they had a bad home life, I would be thrilled that my parents were giving what they could to help someone else. Unless OP’s needs had been neglected for the sake of taking care of the other kid (which doesn’t sound like the case) then she has no right to complain about what resources her parents are giving her.
M
2023-12-24 04:14:07 +0000 UTCI’m glad she’s going to make more of an effort to connect with the girl, but it’s going to take a lot of work and probably therapy to work through this resentment. Complaining about their parents using “resources” on her…that’s horrible. That’s a 14yo child who needs love and support, your SIL’s baby sister, an aunt to your own nibling, a child that your family members have loved and made a part of their lives for 10 years. OP can’t control whether or not she loves the 14yo, but she should care about her and her feelings more even just for the sake that people she loves DO love this child.
M
2023-12-24 04:07:25 +0000 UTCThat little girl is 14 years old and has a bad home life and is a part of the family omg I was the 14 year old girl and it was so hard for me so it makes me so sad to hear….. she already knows she’s a burden trust me… didn’t need to be pointed out in that way!
Triste Walton
2023-12-22 21:16:52 +0000 UTCWhen I got married, I made a list of photos I wanted and sent it to the photographer to stay organized. I.e. me & grandma c, me & mom, me & brothers, me with mother & my sister in laws etc etc. It really helped me get what I want and not get flustered! And your wedding coordinator can help find the people and make sure they’re ready so you just stay in a good spot and they swap people in and out! Made photos so easy and quick!
Keitra Calaway
2023-12-21 22:42:35 +0000 UTCOkay I wasn’t sure if I was gonna admit that I cried too! I don’t even usually comment on the bonus stories but I totally teared up too and came to this comment section to make sure I wasn’t the only one 😅
Malia Stewart
2023-12-21 22:15:56 +0000 UTCOoooh right
Katelyn Thompson
2023-12-21 22:14:18 +0000 UTCThe final edit caught me so off guard! Not used to people on Reddit actually being decent humans rather than doubling down. So wholesome!! 🥹
Malia Stewart
2023-12-21 22:14:00 +0000 UTCOh I guess I didn’t hear that part😅
Katelyn Thompson
2023-12-21 22:13:43 +0000 UTCIt was def Jerry - I think that’s why she said it felt like the Twilight Zone
Malia Stewart
2023-12-21 22:12:41 +0000 UTCI think this was about Jerry because she said she lived with him in LA.
Keaughna
2023-12-21 20:09:06 +0000 UTCIs the dad in your story Jerry or your bio dad? Because Jerry had always said he puts his kids fist so it doesn’t sound like him
Katelyn Thompson
2023-12-21 16:50:06 +0000 UTCSo, I have been in a similar situation, kinda. When I got married two years ago, my uncle and my cousin both had significant others. When we went to take a big family photo at the reception, I just said we are gonna do one with significant others and one without. I heard through the grapevine that my uncle’s partner was a bit upset. But it was my day and some of my family members go through partners pretty fast. So I wanted a photo with the “permanent” family members. Fast forward two years and neither my uncle or cousin are currently with those ppl. Ya my uncle had to deal with a bit of drama, my cousins partner didn’t bat an eye. But now I have photos that I can display and not make anyone feel uncomfortable should either of them date another person. Edit: Morgan, something to think about on the day of is to appoint a coordinator to speak on your behalf, so you don’t have to directly deal with that sort of stuff day of. Also, your photographer can also be a liaison when it comes to organizing photos!
Jess Miller
2023-12-19 23:55:49 +0000 UTCIt feels like OP WANTS to not like her not that they have a genuine reason not to if that makes sense. Also the fact that this a child and you're an adult just felt icky. I personally would question if I'd want to marry op 😄 HEAR ME OUT! I have a neice and if anything happened to my sister I become her guardian, is OP going to feel like this about my neice that I love a a daughter? Blood relation has nothing to do with the love a person brings into your life. Not having her in the picture was unnecessary cause she could've done another photo. L
Nia Violet
2023-12-19 21:15:06 +0000 UTCI love that she said the people agreeing with her actually made her realize she was wrong. It’s nice to see someone hold themselves accountable and just be honest with themselves. Perfect example of how we have all done a shitty thing at some point (not ill intended, just not considerate either) but aren’t necessarily bad people. Good to see people actually take the advice they sought rather than looking to validate their shitty actions. That was refreshing 😅
Janessa Luciano
2023-12-19 20:04:37 +0000 UTCi feel like OP shouldnt have JUST excluded the sister. she could have requested the photo with IMMEDIATE family like she said. immediate family to me is the one i grew up with- blood. so just her brothers and parents. i feel like that would have gone over than just excluding the sister
Colleen Schmidt
2023-12-19 19:56:59 +0000 UTCInviting was so stressful lol but honestly we had a limit and if anyone said anything we said sorry we’re at our limit and have big families! Also there is not enough time to take pics with even the people you want to that’s the beauty of a shot list if someone isn’t on the list they are on their own and better be quick !
Madison
2023-12-19 19:54:03 +0000 UTCawww the update made me cry 🥹 i’m so glad OP came around and was woken up by the comments. i can’t imagine being 14 and publicly excluded like that by someone you probably consider an older sibling. i do get where OP was coming from though
Bri Nolan
2023-12-19 19:53:40 +0000 UTC
