November Bonus Story #1 -- Video
Added 2023-11-04 23:44:45 +0000 UTCSeems like this is a thing that pops up a lot when someone in a friend group has a baby before anyone else.. Have any of you with kids dealt with this? tbh I'd be so sad if my friends went to a resort and didn't invite me :/ Thoughts on this one?
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I am Latina , at party’s parents law down their kids on chairs , putting them together as a bed , and then go dance!! I can’t count the amount of tapes I have as a baby sleeping with a lot of noice while my parents danced! 💃🏼
Angie Calderon
2024-09-28 22:39:57 +0000 UTCi have an almost 2.5 year old little girl, me and my fiance both work and we’re fortunate enough that his mom watches our little girl while we work. we don’t go out as often as we used to obviously, but 80% of the time that we do our baby is with us. when she was up to a year old we didn’t go out as much as we do now, but when we did, we went places that were comfortable to take babies and never ever would’ve expected anyone around us to not do something because we can’t. i breastfed for about 6 months and when we went out, i didn’t drink but everyone else did. it was an easy dd! 🤣🤣 there’s nothing wrong with taking your baby places, but it should always be with the expectation that where you’re going is appropriate for baby, no one has to conform to you and if baby become inconsolable, then you have to step away. there was one time i went to a formal dinner, and babies were welcome, so we brought our daughter, but about an hour in , she got really upset. we both stepped out and took turns to try and settle her, when that didn’t work we apologized and went home. we actually had a couple people message us and apologize for us having to leave, but thank us for being respectful to everyone around us. i love my babygirl to no end, and even as a younger mom i know that sometimes you have to sacrifice a little for others & your baby’s comfort. <3 much love
Rose Bostick
2023-11-05 15:15:10 +0000 UTCNTA, if you get told not to bring the baby somewhere and you do it anyway, don't be surprised when you're not invited next time.
TK
2023-11-05 11:07:03 +0000 UTCTough situation.
Sierra Vickers
2023-11-05 01:25:43 +0000 UTCThere's a great app called Peanut that you can download for moms specifically to find other Mom friends. It uses your location to connect you with other mothers and it's like tinder or hinge for moms, and even has support groups! As far as this story: both sides have caused this rift by the new mom bringing the baby when being told not to instead of staying home, and the friends for not being honest about their discomfort with the situation. All people need to understand that the dynamics have changed. As a mom to a 2.5 year old, I know the first year is hard. I stayed home with my baby and went out maybe twice with a friend after I had my daughter for a couple hours. I was breastfeeding, she couldn't take a bottle well since she was only 4lbs.I didn't want her out in public, but I did have a friend come over with her son to hang out with me a few times because she was about to have a second baby & wanted her son to be around a baby before she gave birth. taking INFANTS out to ADULT events and out with people who are NOT YET parents never ends well. They don't love your baby the way you do. They can't understand that anxiety being separated from the baby. They don't want to have to change their norm because their friend has a baby. Especially at 24. I had my daughter at 25, and where I live a lot of the women I went to school with had babies in their early 20s. There are still those who want to enjoy their 20s childfree, and partying + baby do not go together. You have to leave those friendships behind because you're in a new stage of life. It took me almost a year and a half to make mom friends, and I have one friend who is childfree but we've been friends since middle school. It's hard being a new mom and wanting your friend's support, but if you're not comfortable leaving the baby to go to a childfree event, you DO NOT BRING THE BABY. You STAY HOME.
Clarissa Thompson
2023-11-05 00:34:33 +0000 UTC
