February Bonus Stories 2, 3, & 4!!
Added 2023-02-28 00:37:26 +0000 UTCVideo version of February bonus stories.. whoohoo :)
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As soon as I heard that he uses different washing machine settings and expects her to do the same, he was the asshole in my mind. Or at least, they're not compatible. They have different standards for cleanliness and barring health code violations, there's nothing wrong with that. I get the impression that he has VERY high standards, perhaps unreasonably so. Though I'm not denying the importance of getting dishes 100% clean
Emily Crane
2024-06-12 19:51:20 +0000 UTCI’m only through the first story but that is a huge fear of mine in my relationship. I am lazy and hate house chores and I’ll own up to it. My best friend and boyfriend have to remind me all the time that I have to do the dishes or sweep and mop. I’m not incompetent. When i do it, i make sure it’s all spotless. But i have to be reminded of it most of the time and i know that can be hard to handle. I hope that the couple can find a way to work it out.
Becca Venette
2023-06-02 16:56:48 +0000 UTCI’ve never heard this accent before omg I love it
Karly Roux
2023-03-25 21:56:38 +0000 UTCTaylor’s accent is crazzzzyy
Liz Lowe
2023-03-15 21:25:27 +0000 UTCHi!!! Not sure if this helps but I get dizzy and almost faint like that and it is usually a vasovagal response. So it helps if you eat before and bring a sugary drink like orange juice or soda. Chewing gum during and after helps too!!
Katie
2023-03-07 19:58:25 +0000 UTCIts all about stigma, if you can’t understand that I cant help you.
Alex McCarthy
2023-03-04 21:35:22 +0000 UTCi guess this makes sense but i also think regardless of if someone calls it dirty or clean if a person wants to hide they've had an std they will... that goes beyond labels and just a maturity thing. I think there are bigger things at play in this situation like the fact an std can be life changing, permanent, lead to health problems and some are preventable. I think the shame probably comes from that more than a label.
Isabella Reyes
2023-03-04 09:00:52 +0000 UTCglad i could help! a lot of people don’t know what the PDA (pathological demand avoidance) profile of autism. and obviously i can’t diagnose anyone with anything but it really fits and could be a possibility for the person op was talking about
Tori Jeri
2023-03-02 18:54:45 +0000 UTCI’m with Taylor and Justin. I’m a fainter with blood draws too. 27 and my Mama comes with me 😅 Getting better with it though 👍🏼
Strickly Keeks
2023-03-02 17:58:00 +0000 UTCIt seems like you misunderstood the original comment. The point is if we call people without STIs 'clean' then it shames people who do have STIs into silence which ultimately contributes to the spread of STIs. We don't call people who have a cold dirty, they just address it and tell people who they may have exposed, so why should we call someone with chlamydia dirty. It's not being 'sensitive' or an 'excuse', it's just logic. Shaming people isn't an effective way to address the spread of STIs and being mindful of language doesn't hurt anyone
Courtney DC
2023-03-02 05:14:45 +0000 UTCI totally get the terminology of 'clean' around STIs, it's a very common saying to have a 'clean bill of health' etc., but it does contribute to the stigma surrounding STIs. If you catch a 'regular' illness from someone else it's not a big deal and it's just a case of getting treated and moving on with your life (after telling other people who you might have exposed), but for some reason even with some of the extremely treatable STIs they are often seen as dirty/gross which leads people to feel shame and sometimes avoid testing/treatment and (even worse) finding out they have one and being too scared/ashamed to tell their partner/s. Note that this is in no way a criticism, I love you guys and it's so great to see the promotion of getting tested! It's so important Also I totally agree that I'm glad she broke up with him, I would have broken up with him after that text
Courtney DC
2023-03-02 05:00:48 +0000 UTChaha oh god what?!
Two Hot Takes
2023-03-02 01:12:52 +0000 UTCAlso thank you for pointing all that out I am grateful because I had never thought of autism or anything so now I have more things to look into myself! :)
Aja
2023-03-01 18:27:55 +0000 UTCI was feeling something like this at the beginning too- when it says she zoned out I relate so much- any time my dad of boyfriend told or tells me to do something- I kind of zone out too, get angry, ashamed or sad, and don't want to do it because they are so mean about it- it makes me NOT want to do it - or to do a bad job because I don't want them to be all happy with my doing what they forced me to do and getting their way..or something like that- not really exactly sure what it is but I have ADHD PTSD and anxiety and I find I LOVE to clean and organize- but only when I want to and not if someone else is forcing me to do it.
Aja
2023-03-01 18:26:52 +0000 UTCI don't think they were saying they don't get tested...they're just saying maybe use a different way to explain. Forgive me if this is not the intention of the commenter, but how I understood it is it's kind of like saying someone is a "retard" if they have a mental disability...or calling someone with ADHD a "spaz"- sending love and good vibes to all! :)
Aja
2023-03-01 18:22:41 +0000 UTCi don’t get it . if you’re not clean you’re not clean. everyone is so sensitive. stop making excuses to not get tested
Big daddy Hevo
2023-03-01 14:43:04 +0000 UTCdefinitely think the wife has severe executive dysfunction and that she def could have ADHD or a PDA (pathological demand avoidance) profile of autism (or even both tbh). because when i think about it, the only way i can truly get myself to do things is when there’s other people involved but not when other people TELL me what to do (PDA) and like he said she cleans when friends come over but i think she’s too comfortable with her husband to do that on a regular basis. i’m not sure if OT is used for adults, i think it is and i definitely think she could benefit from it. i recommend looking up PDA profile of autism, it’s pretty interesting and it sounds very similar to what he’s describing.
Tori Jeri
2023-03-01 06:52:45 +0000 UTCI can think of a couple things worse than dish soap 😅
Morgan kelly
2023-03-01 05:40:37 +0000 UTCUp until the edits on the story with the dishes, I was totally thinking that OP's wife was struggling with depression or something. When you read zoning out I was thinking dissociation. Still could be a factor of course but this is one of those stories where her side would be interesting
Logan Bateman
2023-02-28 22:02:51 +0000 UTCHey! Super friendly tidbit, in the queer community at least we have really tried to refrain from using the word “clean” to refer to someone who does not have an STI as it creates a stigma surrounding a very normal part of life and others those who may possibly have or have had an STI. This is really crucial as to not further shame people from getting tested as there is such a heavy stigma around this topic. Love the show and really appreciate how you try to make it a safe space for everyone ☺️
Alex McCarthy
2023-02-28 14:33:07 +0000 UTCI didn’t know about my older sister who died as a baby till i found her pictures. My parents were 19 and it was their first child. They didn’t want to talk about her. 🤷🏻♀️
Torii Shmori
2023-02-28 12:41:42 +0000 UTCMost departments of health do free testing!! That’s why I think it’s so crazy that not everyone goes and gets tested after each partner. Even full panels don’t include herpes cause the results have a 50% false positive rate, and my friend’s doctor even told her not to worry about telling her partners that she has it since 70% of the population has it. Plus most people don’t know that in order for accurate HIV testing, you have to wait 2-8 months, unless you pay like $150 more for early rna detection.
Arden
2023-02-28 05:18:20 +0000 UTCOmg, only sharing because this is Patreon 🫣 I am all for the STD screenings! That guy was a major red flag all around in my opinion. Before I got with my now husband we were both sewing our wild oats LOL so about a year into our relationship I get pregnant and they do the screening, typical for early pregnancy, and it comes back I have an STD 😐 we had been together a year!!!! And no one ever cheated. No signs or symptoms on either of our parts. We both had NO IDEA. If it weren’t for my pregnancy we wouldn’t have known- because unlike Morgan, I didn’t get regular checks. I was a little unsafe. Also, I ended up miscarrying that pregnancy and have always wondered if it was because of that. Soooo.. be careful out there folks!
Jessica Jessup
2023-02-28 05:09:35 +0000 UTC
