December Bonus Story #3 -- Vdieo
Added 2022-12-10 00:42:48 +0000 UTCWhat part of this story gave you the ick? It was the update for me :/
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From what I've seen from polyamorous couples, this doesn't sound like polyamory. It reads more like she wanted to go and mess around with other people. Polyamory only works if both partners are 100% into and ok with the arrangement.
Allison Schleicher
2023-03-18 19:26:18 +0000 UTCWhat's the card game!?
Connie Scoggins
2022-12-22 04:10:35 +0000 UTCShe watched her husband be miserable for months and didn’t care because she was happy. Then to blame all of polyamory for the downfall of her marriage yeah he is definitely better off and hopefully she grows up. She went about this the complete wrong way and if she does want a genuine poly or monogamous relationship she has some major self reflection to do
Cilla
2022-12-14 20:03:20 +0000 UTCfully agree — was def not polyamory and just a desire for an open relationship. the whole rant about polyamory “not working” was delusion at its finest
Lindsey R
2022-12-12 07:26:46 +0000 UTCThe thing that really gets me is that she tried to convince her husband that “this could be good for him too” and is then surprised when he seeks out someone who shares his same values/expectations, i.e., monogamy. Bc you can’t just convince someone to be poly or interested in an open relationship…so he probably wanted to appease her or was so depressed with the situation and looking for support…obviously he found someone that also wanted something monogamous !!!
Lindsey R
2022-12-12 07:25:45 +0000 UTCexactly…this person was using poly completely wrong and should have just said something about an “open relationship to explore/have other sexual experiences”
Lindsey R
2022-12-12 07:22:30 +0000 UTCThis was the relationship version of fucked around and found out
Blue8Angel6
2022-12-10 23:21:21 +0000 UTCOh I didn’t hear the update. Yeah I think weird and harmful religious bs that it’s sinful, I know people that are completely successful end happy being poly.
Reilly walker
2022-12-10 02:34:25 +0000 UTCI think what makes me angry is the “I will close off the relationship and stop being poly” . so go back into the poly closet? From my understanding poly is a way that people are, and you can’t just not be poly if that is how you relate. Like you can’t ever get what you need from a monogamous relationship. So to me it seems by this situation to be more motivated by having sex with other people which is not what poly is (of course sex is often a component) it’s not “the reason” but people who just want to sleep with other people don’t understand that.
Reilly walker
2022-12-10 02:26:27 +0000 UTCYes Alejandra! Generalisations suck! It's so gross that she's making blanket statements about polyamory based on her experience of getting into this situation (I won't even call their situation polyamory because this was done SO POORLY) with the wrong motivation. It really sounds like she trapped him into marriage then revealed she wanted to sleep with other people, and said she was okay with him doing the same but clearly wasn't in practice, and didn't respect his feelings AT ALL. Gross. When opening up relationships the most important things are communication and boundaries, both of which were clearly missing here. I wish her ex husband and his partner a long and happy life together far away from OP
Courtney DC
2022-12-10 01:11:45 +0000 UTC
