December Bonus Story #1 Video!
Added 2022-12-07 21:28:11 +0000 UTCLook at me being super productive/not procrastinating and getting this all up early in December. WHAT'RE THE CHANCES?!?! WHO AM I?!
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When Jordan said "if you're happy with yourself you won't be lonely" I was like point-set-match. Right on the money. This "friend" has a weird outlook on friendship and relationships. He is a grown adult not a child, if he needs more from his partner it is his responsibility to voice that not shift the blame to her. Sound like she dodged a bullet because a partner who can't communicate or take responsibility for their own actions isn't someone you want in your life. If anything she is better off without Mark or OP, who both clearly have a false sense of reality here...
Grace Tolliver
2022-12-09 15:07:42 +0000 UTCI can see where the friend was coming from - but let me be clear: this was neither the time or place, or even something she should have said. While I absolutely agree that cheating has everything to do with the person who cheated (that person made a choice to lie and do real damage and not communicate their needs), it is still true that relationships are a dance that require more than one person. I believe that this is where the friend was coming from: that the relationship dynamics/life situation was poor and she wanted (for some reason?) to remind her friend that "it takes two to tango". Again, while that is true, it absolutely doesn't excuse not being there for your friend when they're hurting and already feeling as if they cannot trust someone who they love and care about to be there for them. The position the friend took was more suited to a couples therapist than to a friend who should have given the love and care her friend needed. TLDR; the friend was intellectualizing the situation when that is an inappropriate response, and probably decided to take the role of a therapist/neutral observer more than a friend, which is why she is the asshole.
pokethegary
2022-12-08 05:07:49 +0000 UTCLol I commented too early, top comment on the post says it nicely. But I will add people don't always cheat purely because of problems in the relationship itself - I've known people who cheated who were in loving relationships but they had some extremely poor self esteem and were going through individual mental health issues that led to them cheating which were in no way the 'fault' of the partner. You can be a perfect partner to someone but if they need help, there's only so much you can do for someone who doesn't want to help themself. It's not always a poor relationship that leads to cheating, it's very individual
Courtney DC
2022-12-08 01:50:50 +0000 UTCTotally agree that OP sounds like she's in love with Mark. She goes on and on about him totally unnecessarily... Also doesn't sound like a great friend in general, length of friendship doesn't indicate quality, good on OP's friend for blocking her lol. It is NOT OP's friend's fault that Mark cheated. No matter how you feel in a relationship, it doesn't excuse cheating. If you're unhappy you need to either communicate that to work on it or LEAVE. If you are in a committed monogamous relationship and cheat, you're the bad guy. If your partner is working a lot and you feel neglected then TELL THEM, they're not a mind reader, and if nothing changes after that you can leave! It is totally up to her whether she forgives him or not and it was not a good idea for OP to have given her opinion on what the friend should do in this situation
Courtney DC
2022-12-08 01:47:06 +0000 UTCPerfect day for me to start subscribing :)
Jules
2022-12-07 22:29:50 +0000 UTCDefinitely the asshole lol ... This literally reminds me of my former friend. She sided with my ex who was dating me and another girl at the same time. His "excuse" was that I spent too much time working and with my family meanwhile I drove over an hour every weekend to see him. I'm glad both of them are out of life 😂 🎉
Madiha Munawar
2022-12-07 21:43:18 +0000 UTCYou're a rock star!! 🌟
Katie Phillips
2022-12-07 21:39:34 +0000 UTC
