tips (for tops)

a while back i promised some dating app advice, keep in mind this is more for wanting to hook up rather than go on a date with someone!

GRINDR:
1) make sure you have a pfp, no need to show ur face but at least give an idea of your body type.
many guys assume everyone desires a "six pack" but that is simply not true, if youre packin some extra weight, own it, make it known. u will attract the type that likes your bodytype. same goes for smooth bodied or hairy. hairy is not "bad" by default like many think.

please do not use an older pic because you "looked better" back then.

2) never dm a greeting only. like just a "hey" and waiting for them to say hey back. someone's inbox can be filled with "hey" and it all blurs into one, why bother spending time just to say "hey" back to many people?

instead, say a greeting, and comment on how hot they are!! let them know theyre desirable.
I often find myself replying to someone who doesnt even say hello, but starts their convo with "damnnn that pic got me acting up" etc... adding some humor is also fun!

then as a bonus, u can also DM them a pic of u! its not rude, its grindr after all, were all on that app to get laid.

3) dont be demanding.
I feel very turned off when i send a few pics, and a guy has the audacity to go "can i see a pic from this angle and that pose?" like...come on man this aint a catalogue. this is what im currently sending u, take it or leave it.

4) your pics

take some pics in ur free time to keep on ur phone for grindr, or other nude exchange pics.
avoid including ur face if discretion is important to you. i personally never care if the face shows or not.

take those pics in the daytime..in some natural lighting if u can. please avoid the classic "laying in bed with the lights off" dick pics, those just paint a picture that u arent putting any effort. i really really dislike those and many others feel the same. dont lay down.

get hard, stand up and take a video of you stroking. phone could be on a tripod or leaning on something...so basically your entire torso is visible. grabbing ur cock by the base... even slapping it onto your palm... slow strokes... all of that can be very hot.

and boom...u can take as many screenshots from that video and now u have something exciting to show. it really paints a picture of what sex with u will be like, much better than just your cock zoomed in. in a dark bedroom.



5) hosting. get that topic outta the way. if u cannot host, let them know. so they can tell u if they can host, etc...

its very helpful to add "I can host if ur comfortable with that" even before they ask if u can.

i hope u guys enjoyed this!! i can add more pointers some other time. u can ask me stuff ur curious about as well below