One of my New Years resolutions is to explore non-monogamy
Added 2023-01-27 04:01:00 +0000 UTCOne of my new year's intentions is to explore non-monogamy within my relationship.
If younger me were given a peak into my future and saw that written on my whiteboard, I'd probably choke on my food...
I first discovered this lifestyle choice a few years ago when I stumbled across an Instagram page of an unorthodox polyamorous family of 5 wives who lived with their singular husband. I was instantly intrigued and so began my obsessive (ADHD things) fascination with NM.
I researched the fuck out of it! Read books, watched videos, and even gave advice. But it took me years before I decided to take the leap and implement this way of life into my own relationship.
Wanting to explore NM isn't about my partner not being enough for me, but instead wanting to explore hidden parts of myself, enter the space between platonic & romantic relationships, and leave my comfort zone.
I believe we as humans are quick to settle in many parts of our lives, and once settled we become comfortable. We [can] begin to lose ourselves.
The things that once excited us, our hopes & dreams of our younger selves, the people we used to be.
But what if a night out with a stranger could bring that all back? A flirty conversation could ignite a fire inside of you, and a stroke of the arm could inspire you.
But this is something not to be taken lightly or a quick fix in a relationship. It takes time, communication, research, more time, boundary setting, communication, more time, and compromise.
These topics are always up for discussion and debate, what is your opinion on non-monogamy?
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And we will never stay the same. We're never going to be the same person we were when we first started dating our partner... and that shit is scary!! Good on you for taking the leap, that's a huge step and yeah, it's scary as hell. But the self discovery is so fucking worth it
Jessie
2023-02-05 14:48:38 +0000 UTCIt's a very broad term, you're right! And I think that's the beauty of it, that it can be what ever you want it to be. That it's a choice.
Jessie
2023-02-05 14:46:20 +0000 UTCI think as humans, we don't show all what we are to everybody. So we can be in a relationship for years and maybe never brought up that little detail in the corner of the brain, and maybe that specific stranger will make us feel comfortable to share it just in 1 week. NM is more about finding ourselves, it is about what this other relationship is gonna bring out from me. I had this GF at some point and one day we randomly were talking about NM and we said why not? We talk more and set boundaries and just went for it. It was scary, a challenge , a self discover journey but at the same time, that flirty night brought back that flame inside, the being excited, and all of that made the original relationship to feel closer, we got closer due to it.
R
2023-02-01 23:47:22 +0000 UTCIt is such a board term, and everyone’s personal experience is hard to relate to others. Each relationship needs to discuss and fully understand between them and what to achieve. Solid communication, rules, what ifs, and trust. Back each other up.
Damien P
2023-01-28 12:21:01 +0000 UTC
