Mini Pep Talk on Dedication and Improvement.

I don't really believe failure exists unless you're betting on luck. In my own experience, the only times I have failed have been when I gave up. Ultimately this is all false if you are not willing to put in the effort to achieve your goals, ie. you can't be the best chess player if you never play and only sit around watching others, and you can't have a successful business if you spend your whole day fiddling with your guitar and reading (im looking at myself). 

There is a simplicity in thinking this way that makes it easy to accomplish goals IF no negative thoughts creep in. I struggle tremendously with this overwhelming fear of failure that halts me in my tracks before I can fail WHICH MAKES ME FAIL. I unfortunately know I am not the only one who self-destructs in order to gain control of their failure (even when they wouldn’t fail).

I try to overcome this and these are a few strategies I use.

• I make a ton of steps to complete what I need to do, with rewards for each of them which reprograms my brain into finding joy during the work rather than just in accomplishing the task at the end.

• I take a 3rd point of view perspective and look at the situation and ask myself if what I am feeling is hurting me or helping me which can bring me out of a mental block. 

• I ask for help. Sometimes just having a friend sit with you at your desk and be productive (on a totally different task) can make you work so much harder because you feel less alone. If they can do it I can do it type shiii

• Completing a different task. Sometimes getting my laundry done can give me the confidence to tackle harder tasks because I remember there are things I can do.

This goes for all sorts of things. If you want to be the best out of your sport PRACTISE, and if you are practicing and not getting better, take a different approach, look at the way you are doing it. Why isn’t it working, do you have weak areas that are limiting your overall performance? 

I felt very trapped within my problems/thinking my dreams were unreachable my whole life because I never took a step outside of them and tried to figure them out. The most important thing I do now is making short term plans and being able to slowly check them off of the list. Baby steps still get you where you need to go.

I am definitely talking to myself because I need it right now but hopefully this helps one of you too ♡