Okay, real talk for a second... When it comes to sex, what actually makes someone feel compatible with you?
Added 2025-12-08 15:04:03 +0000 UTCComments
With the "when it comes to sex" phrase in mind, I have to be honest that I don't have the varied experiences to compare and contrast partner differences. A lot came down to compatible enough because that's who was willing. In spite of that, being able to pay attention and read her body movements, the sounds she makes, her pace, muscle tension, responsiveness, breathing, etc. allows me to adapt and bring her the pleasure she craves at that time. So the compatibility comes down to a willingness to take the time to give and have the same returned to you, sometimes simultaneously and other times taking turns. Compatibility implies it's working for both of you.
Darrell
2025-12-12 23:18:08 +0000 UTCMutual physical attraction (or lust) coupled with initial likeable personality (affection).
Grouchy Vince
2025-12-11 08:54:38 +0000 UTCSo many things go into that chemistry that it can feel daunting to list them all. But if I'm focusing on one area, it's in how she signals her feelings about sex. If she's comfortable with ribald talk, while staying clever, witty, and knowledgeable, that's a big hint. If she wears clothes or adornments that show understanding of "sex culture," that's a big hint. Especially if she wears her kinks out subtly so that those in the know can find them: huge hint. If she is unabashedly comfortable in her femininity and unapologetic about her love of men (and women: I love a bisexual girl). But, most of all, when she sees the flags I fly, and she shows them appreciation.
Eli Israel
2025-12-09 17:17:17 +0000 UTCBack when I was dating (yes, that takes us all the way back to the 90s), I was looking for someone who could see me in the long term. I had my share of relationships that burned hot for a couple of weeks, with good sex, but the desire to keep seeing each other fizzled. They did teach me that physical compatibility had more to do with how much I liked the person than anything superficial about them. In other words, the more I liked the person, the more I was attracted to her. As I think back on my dating history, I realized that my perspective had changed with the bad relationships that I had, well, one in particular. I dated this girl in college, whom I convinced myself that I was in love with. She was smart, fun, but also bossy, pushy, and quick to get upset over little things. I put up with all of that because I thought that was what you were supposed to do when you are in love. Then she cheated on me, begged for my forgiveness, and when I gave it, she dumped me. It took me a long time to get over that, but when I came out of the other side of that dark tunnel, I found myself drawn to girls who were different. When I met the girl who would become my wife, she was the polar opposite: kind, sweet, caring, interested in me, liked many of the same things I did, wanted to share her interests with me, and there was also that intangible energy between us. She didn't want to get physical too early in a relationship. I had to steal a kiss on our third date. But as much as I wanted to sleep with her, a hug and a kiss at the end of the night still made my heart skip a beat, and I knew that the physical intimacy would come with time. Once we did sleep together, I felt like my stamina was lacking, but it was still great. Over the years, we have both gotten much better at knowing how to please each other physically, but the connection that we get with just being with each other is as great as the first time.
Matt D
2025-12-09 16:09:55 +0000 UTCThanks for sharing!
Lovely Dutta
2025-12-09 13:14:12 +0000 UTCThank you for sharing!
Lovely Dutta
2025-12-09 13:13:55 +0000 UTCThat makes sense!
Lovely Dutta
2025-12-09 13:13:25 +0000 UTCI hear you!
Lovely Dutta
2025-12-09 13:13:16 +0000 UTCThat's really well put!
Lovely Dutta
2025-12-09 13:13:05 +0000 UTCQuite interesting π
Lovely Dutta
2025-12-09 13:12:43 +0000 UTCI don't think I've ever sat down to think about it. I have always been a person that acts on instinct, but if we are going to quantify it. I would say openness and a playful spirit. Someone who likes to keep things light and airy.
Russ
2025-12-09 13:00:21 +0000 UTCFor me I think that it starts out with a physical attraction or attachment, it then moves into a feeling of being seen and ultimately the spark that ignites the fire it is most certainly the right kind of energy or desire to want to have a shared experience with me at a level of spiritual, emotional and physical presence that is almost like a ceremony. I dont find sex to be something to take lightly ; it feels more like baring my soul and is a very vulnerable place to be in . Quickies are great every once and a while. My perfect match sexualy is a woman that feels the same way and wants to make love for extended period of time and sometimes multiple rounds . I know it is a great match when she feels the same about all of the above , wants to feel my cock deep inside of her for hours feel the energy flow its about the journey not the destination. Another huge compatibility thing also mutually want to given and recieve lots of foreplay , In and out of the bedroom, including sexy flirting. Of course an adventurous attitude is a bonus . It always gives me great pleasure to see how much I can open my partners flower and then feel it open even more and be in total extacy together. Thank you Caitlin V β€οΈ
Raymond
2025-12-08 17:13:19 +0000 UTCthe vibe between us. The real change happened when she finally felt safe enough to start asking for what she wanted. Not always a straight ask but moving my hands where she wants them at the time. We were able to sync so much better after we understood erotic blueprints and why I was always all over the place. Now we can stay centered together and the dance is passionate and exciting.
Chad G
2025-12-08 16:06:41 +0000 UTCGood question and I wish I was qualified to have an opinion. I donβt really think I am.
Don Whitehead
2025-12-08 15:40:29 +0000 UTCFor me it is about being in the same ballpark when it comes to her openness to everything sexual. For example, my first wife wasn't at all interesting sexually. She didn't want to do doggy style at all (which works for me because I love looking at women's shapes) and she didn't even like cowgirl - especially reverse cowgirl. In short, I was much more interested in experimenting with different positions and toys than she was. My current wife is very much aligned with me - maybe even a bit more adventurous than me - which is perfect. She has opened my eyes to a few things including prostate massage and she loves to be tied up (among other things) - all of which was new to me.
Tommy
2025-12-08 15:21:36 +0000 UTCThe connection 100% if I fell wanted / desired in all directions sexual and life its on like a switch. She can just talk about how she needs something from me and its stimulating. And if if its that she NEEDS something sexual its of to chart.
Mick Peterson
2025-12-08 15:16:42 +0000 UTC
