In hindsight: this also applies to the long term dating-before-sex phase. I would have a habit of being passionate by lifting her as I hugged her when greeting. She would say "Put me down!" every time (not angry, just a little embarrassed and impatient). But the one time we got see each other after a month or so separation (business, family obligations, etc.) and I greeted her with just a quick kiss and hand holding, she gave me a disappointed look and said, "You use to pick me up and hug me". The relationship fizzled after that. I hope others read this as a cautionary tale .... passion begins BEFORE first time sex.
Grouchy Vince
2025-07-23 01:28:10 +0000 UTC
SUCH a good video! This is so important. All the parts are key, essential. Thankfully I do a lot of these things and always have as a way to just let my wife know I'm really thinking of her all the time. I find a cute pic on my phone of her and send it to her and say something like "you look so adorable here!" or "wow you look so pretty your hair its perfect" stuff like that. One thing that drives her crazy but she thanks me for later is she'll announce a chore "she has" to do and then I wait a little and I do it. I don't tell her. If she catches me she kind of gets irked a little, but then after her guilt wears off, she's thanking me even more for helping, and she usually does the "I'm going to shower after this show and get ready" which means sex is happening that night. But she also shoots me the random "love you!" texts during the day too, and we touch each other in playful ways during the day and night, and I always try to give her some ear massage or hand massage randomly whenever I can. Caitlin you are VERY WISE in the ways of intimacy!!