A big warm welcome to new community members Lauren, Alyssa, Kristie, Alan, Christine, Elena, Seline and Fen! You're the reason I do what I do!
Today, cuties, as a follow-up to the LDR video last week, I want to remind you that it's OK to ask for attention, it's OK to ask for alone time with a partner, it's OK to ask to feel special (in the non-monogamous sense).
Today, I offer 3 examples of recent times I've needed to ask for attention, or have been asked for attention, and how we...
2020-04-19 11:00:00 +0000 UTC
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Hi cutie!
The top request this week was to hear about coping with LDRs, since even local partnerships can feel like they're long distance during quarantine. So today, I offer you 10 ways that help sustain my LDRs, and hopefully that will be helpful to you!
In case you don't have 18 minutes to spare, here's a breakdown:
01:47 - Acknowledge Unverified Fears
03:07 - Acknowledge Your Emotions & Needs
2020-04-12 16:26:51 +0000 UTC
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Times are lonely right now, so we can all be forgiven for romanticizing any memory of IRL connection. That said, some people really do need to stay in our past.
So when I find myself feeling nostalgic for a past partner — particularly one that gave me more low points than high ones — I have to check my motives. Here are some questions I ask in moments of vulnerability; hopefully they will be helpful to you.
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1. Am I engaging in selective memory, and if yes, why...
2020-04-05 13:02:39 +0000 UTC
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This is a stressful, uncertain time. So I've put together 10 ways to feel less shitty as we cope with the social ramifications of COVID19:
1. Mind your temperature. If you’re feeling cold, take a warm shower. If you’re stressing and panicking, put an ice pack on your forehead, back of your neck, or center of your chest. Bring your physical sensations into balance, and take some deep breaths. If your day feels like it’s off to a bad start, this is a great way to hi...
2020-03-15 10:05:18 +0000 UTC
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Hi cutie!
As I prep for my international move tomorrow, the stress got me thinking about sustainability during growth. Specifically, how much we need to stabilize our foundation when we go further and build higher.
Today is a short n' sweet video on this topic. I hope it serves.
Sending big hugs
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Morgan
2020-03-08 16:49:18 +0000 UTC
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A big warm welcome to our new community members Emily, Stacie, Melanie, Veronica, Mary Jane, Rebecca, Baylee, Maria and Nadine! So happy to see our extended chosen family expanding like this!
OK CUTIE - Question: do fears and self doubt still creep into your relationship(s)? Does romantic comparison or competition cause you stress?
If yes, I suggest Kathy Labriola's 2020-02-23 13:01:00 +0000 UTC
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Ever been vulnerable, then started second-guessing everything? Brené Brown coined the term "Vulnerability Hangover" to describe this feeling.
In today's Patron Exclusive video, I share 3 ways I keep this reaction in check, so it doesn't turn into self-sabotage.
I hope it serves!
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Morgan
2020-02-09 14:01:00 +0000 UTC
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A big warm welcome to our new community members Ella, Anne, Katie and Köatzin!
So cutie, we've talked about breakups recently, and I want to expand on the post-breakup process. Non-monogamy allows for flexibility, which sometimes means keeping our exes around, just in a different context. But when do we do this? What should we consider?
Today, through the lens of my own recent breakup, I offer 4 things that I keep in mind when renegotiating bounds with exes. I hope it serves!
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2020-02-02 13:00:02 +0000 UTC
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Happy Sunday! And a warm welcome to our new community members Sam, Lauren, Emily, Sylver and Samone!
Today, let's unpack how the book Spiritual Polyamory discusses non-monogamy through a Buddhist lens. (View in browser or on the Patreon app to see excerpts of the book.)
So, I wanted to like this book. I really did. But l...
2020-01-05 20:12:54 +0000 UTC
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Hi cutie!
Originally this was going to be a review of Clementine Morrigan's 35 page booklet Love Without Emergency, but it basically became me saying "yep, I agree" every 5 minutes lol — So instead, I will just give you the link to order it directly from her (just $10, and it directly supports a community member)!
If you're struggling with jealousy, and especially if you're a survival of assault, this shor...
2019-12-22 13:00:00 +0000 UTC
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This interview was a labor of love with cuties Roz, Jaz and Logan of @adventureswithchaco - I hope you enjoy!
2019-12-08 18:03:51 +0000 UTC
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There can be a LOT of pressure on romantic and sexual relationships to be each others' primary emotional support, but sometimes our partners just can't help us (and vice versa!).
Today I share 4 things that guide me toward solutions, when this happens to me and my partners. Hopefully that's helpful for you!
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Morgan
2019-11-24 13:00:00 +0000 UTC
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Let's talk gaslighting, and how to navigate it. Below are 10 recent examples of gaslighting in my own life, and how I responded. Hopefully it can be of service to you!
NOTE : Their comments are in bold, my answers are in italics.
1. "We didn't even really cross a line, it wasn't that big a deal."
"Maybe we understood the g...
2019-11-17 13:00:05 +0000 UTC
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Hi cutie! As you may know, I got married this week! I also got dumped.
In this video, I unpack this as a case study to real-time processing of 2 extremely different relationship statuses happening at the same time. Hopefully it can be of service!
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2019-11-10 13:00:03 +0000 UTC
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Today, let's explore how The Americans defines "cheating" within consensual non-monogamy.
Spoilers ahead for seasons 1 & 2.
First a quick recap of the show: It's a thriller series about deep-cover Russian spies during the Cold War. Elizabeth (Keri Russell) and Philip (Matthew Rhys) are in a KGB-arranged marriage with kids, and live in American suburb...
2019-11-03 13:01:00 +0000 UTC
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Hi cutie!
This is a very broad overview of how I stay patient during the slooowness that is evolving poly boundaries, and growing as people.
I offer a few core focuses that really serve me well during hard conversations. Hopefully it can be of service to you, too!
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Morgan
2019-10-20 12:00:03 +0000 UTC
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Hi cutie!
Today's bonus video is about how I process my needs in real time, especially the ones I fear expressing. I hope this is helpful to you!
Hugs
M
2019-10-13 13:30:25 +0000 UTC
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The following contains spoilers for Netflix's She's Gotta Have It miniseries (Episodes 1 & 2).
She's Gotta Have It is a mini-series adapted from Spike Lee's 1987 film of the same name. Today I'll break down the first two episodes, and explore the series' portrayal of ethical non...
2019-10-06 12:00:02 +0000 UTC
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Today, I chat with hierarchical spouses Laura & David (together for 10 years, poly for 4).
Feel free to skip to the timecode of your choice!
0:33 - Opening the Marriage
2:50 - Defining (and Evolving) Boundaries in Hierarchy
6:58 - Safe(r) sex practices
10:26 - Discussing Jealousy
11:37 - Meeting a Metamour
14:04 - Coming Out... Carefully.
17:38 - Strengths & Struggles After 4 Years
Who else do you wan...
2019-09-29 12:00:02 +0000 UTC
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Saying no to friends or partners can be uncomfortable. We need to draw lines and set proper expectations, but don't want to cause harm to them, or the relationship.
I don't use the term "people pleaser" because the more accurate phrase for me is "conflict avoider." Too many times I've either gone along with something I wasn't that happy about, or I've made up an excuse, to avoid conflict. Both of these tactics are short-term fixes that can cause major rifts between me a...
2019-09-22 12:11:02 +0000 UTC
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Hey cutie!
You ever been told, "just talk to them about it"? But how do we even start? Or what if we already tried, and it went terribly?
In this video, I offer 10 phrases that help me express my needs effectively, by owning and reporting how I feel, without attacking my partner. I hope it serves!
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Morgan
2019-09-15 16:27:56 +0000 UTC
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Today we look at how to self-advocate (if you choose to) around non-monogamy, especially with judgmental or defensive family members.
Willow Smith is our case study!
(see the full Red Table episode here: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=419568041972431 )
Hope it serves!
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Morgan
2019-09-08 13:00:26 +0000 UTC
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Hi cutie,
Today, I'm sharing a piece that I basically just rewrote from scratch, based on an archive post from 3 years ago. I want my Patreon archive to stay fresh, so I'll often go through and update points on which I've evolved. But when I saw my old Relationship Escalator post, I knew it just needed a total rewrite. Let's jump in.
We often talk about divesting from the Relationship Escalator, and moving away from mononormativity. But what does that literally mean?
2019-08-25 12:01:00 +0000 UTC
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Today, I chat with Brody @brody_polinsky about the following topics! Feel free to skip to the timecode of your choice, if you don't have 12 minutes to spare!
0:17 - Choosing Solo Poly over "Don't Ask Don't Tell"
3:24 - Realizing they're Transgender
5:09 - Gender Dysphoria during Sex
&...
2019-08-11 12:00:02 +0000 UTC
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The following contains spoilers for Black Mirror (Season 5, Episode 1: "Striking Vipers").
Is it possible to have a virtual reality metamour?
Black Mirror, if you haven’t seen it, is a dystopian anthology that explores the intersection of tech and sociopolitical dynamics. In “Striking Vipers,” the premiere episode of Season 5, two straight men hook...
2019-08-04 12:05:29 +0000 UTC
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Trying a new format this week, let me know your thoughts!
Today we look at how to push back on ignorant questions about non-monogamy, while staying composed and not getting defensive.
Angelina Jolie is our case study! (P.S. it's a super old interview, this is the highest resolution I could find, but hopefully it still translates ok!)
Hope it serves!
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Morgan
2019-07-21 11:59:59 +0000 UTC
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If you're hungry for even more chats about non-monogamy, here are some cuties with a lively and nuanced podcast!
Hope it serves.
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Morgan
2019-07-14 12:00:00 +0000 UTC
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Interview Number 1, baby! These interviews are 100% funded by patrons.
Today, I chat with Sierra @alkalineasfuck about the following topics!
Feel free to skip to the timecode of your choice, if you don't have a full 20 minutes to spare!
1:21 - Boundaries
3:05 - Transitioning into a V Relationship
7:14 - Safe(r) sex practices
9:05 - Streng...
2019-06-30 12:00:00 +0000 UTC
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I’ve been searching far and wide for more complicated polycules in pop culture. (By which I mean — “we have plenty of triads on TV, where are the quads and beyond?”)
Enter Hollyhock’s 8 dads on Bojack Horseman.
(This contains spoilers for Seasons 4 and 5 of Bojack Horseman.)
If you haven’t seen the show, it’s a ...
2019-06-23 12:01:00 +0000 UTC
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We hit our 50+ community goal! Big thanks to Crystal, Kara and Madeleine for putting us over the mark!
Next I’ll start interviewing poly folx from all over the spectrum of relationship styles, genders and orientations!
Stay tuned, and keep spreading the word, cuties. Thanks so much for making this happen!
💜💙💚💛🧡❤️
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Morgan
2019-06-18 08:52:39 +0000 UTC
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