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love that vagina

Right before we posted this video Matt and I were talking in his office about audience reception. Would you be offput by our somewhat sudden inclusion of vulva photographs? Would it serve you to see the diversity of vulvas? 

I explained to him that it can be really jarring. Vulva images are rarely photographs. In educational settings they're line drawings or computer graphics. For a woman, especially, to know that they all look so different and how those differences aren't wrong or bad is...

5 fanfictatious romances between Lindsey and ??

Which 5 characters (from the Marvel Universe or otherwise) would you like me to describe dating? 

https://goo.gl/ZPlcxI

Let's Get Physical Perk

I received 3 of the 30+ surveys that went out about your pledge level perks. What I got from them is that sending bigger packages fewer times per year is a potential solution. So this week I'm working on sending you something and would love your thoughts on one of the items.

Vibrators. I have a lot of from the video we did on holding them without your hands. Not all of them are  high quality but I think there's enough that each of you could have something fun for your collection.&nb...

YOUTUBE LIVESTREAM LINK 12/7/16

GOOGLE HANGOUT 12/7/16

https://hangouts.google.com/call/t4n7b3lgqbbw5hdg6larzzreyae

LIVESTREAM DEC. 7, 2016 at 3 PM MST

Here's a link that I made to the private livestream. If it doesn't work tomorrow then I'll sort out other solutions and send you new information. Stay curious!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbqZlMqNAwA

SEX TIP 11/29/16: Go to bed with your partner(s)

If you stay up on the Internet or watching Netflix, even something as noble as making money working late, then you miss an opportunity to synchronize intimate time with your partner(s). They may be going to bed to really sleep but it doesn’t matter. The consistency of you being there at the close of their day creates kindling for the next day or the day after that. You and your partner(s) being in bed, maybe even naked, is a far more likely path to making out and sex than not. 

Furtherm...

Which topics are you looking forward to most?

The first three options are in the building stages. The others are ideas I'm excited about but haven't gotten started on. I'm curious what your interests are. Please select as many responses as you'd like and let me know in the others box, what else you hope I'll cover. 

Stay curious, 

Lindsey 

What would it be like to date the Avengers

MARVEL UNIVERSE SPOILER ALERT

After watching Captain America Civil War I started to wonder whether or not I’d be able to date any of the Avengers shown in the Marvel Movies Universe. These are some of my thoughts: 

Natasha Romanova, BLACK WIDOW

Natasha is incredible. I would love massaging and stretching out Natasha’s muscles all partner-yoga style, dressing her wounds, and listening to her poke fun of the guys. I think we’d get along well given her deme...

Y'all

Hey y'all, 

I just wanted to write and tell you about my recent travels and learnings. Last Sunday I flew from Missoula to South Carolina (via two layovers) and arrived in Charleston in time to get my mom situated at the hospital for hip surgery. The first days of the trip were about her recovery: making sure she was comfortable, medicated, safe... This was not always an easy task but nonetheless an important one. 

At the same time she and I were navigating our relations with h...

Making stuff

Hey Business Partners, 

Just a quick check-in to let you know where I'm at. Matthew and I had that great trip to LA. We gathered lots of footage for our channel and shot a bunch with others. Things are get posted all the time and helping to improve the reach of the channel so, you know, there's more education and curiosity. 

Today we put out our dungeon video which seems to be well-received by most. Tomorrow we're shooting one about vibrators. We'll be posting a few interviews ...

Smokescreens

Sometimes there are people or organizations who want something to die. But rather than come out and say that they cleverly word legislation to look like do-gooders and dupe the public into killing whatever it is they oppose. This is often the case with abortion legislation. This year in California it's an attack on pornography. 

If you don't know already, I have two episodes about porn, my thoughts and what the research shows are the effects of it on consumers. Basically it can serve valu...

Pinch me

Last week Matthew Gaydos (Sexplanations videographer and editor) and I went to Los Angeles, California to make you some videos and it still feels surreal. We got in late Monday night and spent some time turning our rental into a studio. Then it was to bed for an early morning of shooting. First Kati Morton on the subject of coping with sex negative counselors, then Stevie Boebi for a discussion of vagina confidence. We ate dinner at a restaurant called the Perch and enjoyed ultimate chicken to t...

something

I'm oddly proud of this episode. I know it's something that people are curious about but cautioned not to ask about. I know that I'm cis and have limits to my instructions. I did the right thing though and I reached out to trans men and women who could share their experiences with me. And then I got to write down my own ideas and share them with them. Which, as I hasn't expected, was pleasantly received. Like, I had taught them something about themselves. And that is where my quirky smile is fle...

Your support

This video was made by you x2. First off because you support the existence of Sexplanations. Without a sponsor like Adam & Eve, it's really on Patreon to carry us through the production. Ad revenue is about $30 per episode... and this week, our video was demonetized before we even made it public. So in addition to spotlighting your support at the end for being our sponsor, I also want to thank you here and now for supplementing ads. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also, your responses to the...

Should'ing on myself

http://www.poll-maker.com/poll810219xF0784942-32

I thought it would be interesting to see what your thoughts are about my thoughts. I've been thinking a lot about how to improve myself and the channel and there's a lot that comes to mind ranging from responsible to ridiculous. 

By clicking on the link above you get to help me with direction. You get to prioritize my next moves! Choose as many o...

LAX

I've been trying to hold off on our big trip to L.A. until we raised $5,400 on Patreon but it's slow going. Which is not to say I'm not incredibly thankful for all your contributions to this effort. You're amazing. What I'm trying to say is that I've booked tickets anyway and October 3rd is the big day!The plan is for Matthew and I to spend five days there packing in as many collaborations,  good food, and beach time as we can. So probably no beach time but it's all good, we have an awesome...

False alarm

The podcast is just now getting set-up, at the time I wanted I to meet with you. I don't know if we'll actually be able to do the Livestream *imagine me totally bummed, again* I think you're all amazing and I promise to make it up to you. 

Livestream

I'm thinking about trying a Livestream again in a couple hours. I've been avoiding them because the last four experiences have been bummers. There's either been no sound or no video, I can't see comments, or be public with more than just ten hanging out. Gah, it's been frustrating. That said, I'm going to try again. This time differently though. I'm going to the big office where Crash Course and SciShow are and I'm borrowing their high-speed internet and private conference room. I'm going to sho...

Writing a book

Months ago I signed with an agent to hold a flame to the book writing process. My friend, Hank Green, tells me that it's a valuable way to support myself so I put it on my to-do list. I have some ideas but nothing feels good, maybe because it's not a Sexplanations' episode, it's a book!? 

So I thought maybe you could help. What do you think I should consider when writing a book? What shouldn't I leave out? What would you read?

Warmly, 

Lindsey

ANSWERS!!!!

Did I answer your questions?

Your ballot is here!!!!

http://www.poll-maker.com/poll776607xE64511f7-31

Sex Tip!

Something you may not know about me is that I’m sensitive to sounds and light and generally low-radar sensations other people might just overlook. Like right now I’m aware of my dog snoring, the chickens squawking, the clicking of my keyboard, the shadow-dancing of leaves on the windows, hair tickling the back of my neck, my jean shorts riding up, the couch cushions pressing back on my spine, the dryness of my nostrils, and the allergy-irritated puffiness of my eyelids. A lot, righ...

Has Lindsey been having sex?

I think the last time I wrote, or the time before that I had said that I kept coming up with great sex tips while having sex and wanted to make more of an effort to write them down so you'd, you know, know about them (and the frequency of my playtime). Your Sexplanations-less inbox may indicate I've done nothing intimate.... but it's not true! I've actually just had a different revelation about sex, that it's important for my family. Let me explain. 

You see in my private practice I work ...

Inspired

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ot31Ravybo0

Recently I sent out a variety of glow in the dark condoms to $32+ patrons and became very familiar with the cost of condoms. They weren't cheap to buy and they weren't cheap to ship. I mean, for the amount of pleasure and safety they facilitate I think they're worth it BUT now, NOW, I have a brilliant way to get them for way less. 

It's time to re-visit how...

What do you think?

Thank you to everyone who put their votes in for this video. It was challenging to make but I feel pretty pleased by the end result. What ended up happening is that half of the information I collected was left out to make an second episode on how body image directly affects sexuality. Please share this if you enjoyed it and stay curious for future ballots and livestreams. 

**I'm foster parenting a 5 year old right now and our city is booked as far as daycare so working has become more cha...

Voting for videos

http://www.poll-maker.com/poll753558xEaB0489E-30

I don't know if I'm selling these topics well. So if you can leave some comments about how you imagine your topic pick being addressed that would be great. My hope is to cover every topic that I ever think about but I love having you as partners in prioritizing. Thanks for the feedback!

~Lindsey

July Updates

Dear Sexpla(i)nauts, 

I wanted to tell you that I'm thinking about you and hoping you're well. It means a lot to me that you support us each month. Immensely! 

Sometimes perks don't get out to you like I intend. I'm behind writing sex tips and sending out packages; we haven't had a livestream recently or at least not a functioning one. This isn't because I've forgotten about you or my commitment to you; it's a lot of other reasons. 

One reason is that I try t...

I love this woman!

Thank you all for supporting my endeavors, for allowing me to make content that's important to me rather than what will sell to advertisers. It means so much that I have this special memory with my grandmother and more info on my own sexuality. You're awesome!

Dr. Robert Sternberg has a theory for you!