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Dr. Charla Hathaway

Dr. Charla Hathaway

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Mommy Fantasy

Enjoy this romp into one of my beloved fantasies, taken from Tales of Sex Magic. We all have fantasies--gifts from the gods and goddesses--each one of us unique and lovable.  When you get 5 minutes, close the door and sit back!

It's my birthday month, here I am in Austin, TX! 

I recently performed in Astoria, a historic Oregon seaside town dramatically...

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Charla meets Betty Boop

I got to meet Betty Boop in Seaside, New Jersey, after attending the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit in Washington DC with my colleague.

Betty Boop. a carefree Jazz Age flapper girl with her winks, shaking hips and cleavage, was unique among female cartoon characters in the 1930’s because she represented a sexual woman. Other female cartoon characters of the same period, such as Minnie Mouse, displayed their bloomers in the style of childish characters, not a fully defined woman's form...

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Photo from the past

OK, are we allowed a blast from the past every once in a while?  This is the Victoria Secret dress I bought at a second-hand store with my mother's birthday money that started my sex work career almost 20 years ago.  I show up to get photos taken for my escort ad and the  photographer os the best--I got to wear what I want.

A Patreon suggested I share more about the personal stories of my clients.   I'll pick one in more detail for next month.  Your Muse, M...

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Charla goes on the road again with her solo show

I’ll be Austin, TX, with my show, Naked at My Age, at the Vortex Theater, Aug 26 & 27, and in Oregon many places in Sept.

I love telling brave and sex stories and making sex work seem normal. I show up with the bananas and boa, you just show up and enjoy a grandma’s surprising Sexual Renaissance, fraught with difficult and isolating choices, that...

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Charla at Portland's Women's rally, March 2022


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I had an abortion before it was legal

Dear Pioneers of Passion!

Age brings bravery.  At Portland’s women’s rally, I hold up a sign, “I had an Abortion before Roe v Wade, Ask me about it.”  Others at the rally—Strangers?—catch my eye, nod their approval with hands on heart, giving me the 'thumbs up' and smiling through their masks.  “May I have a hug?” many ask, and many offer their abortion stories.  "I love you, I admire you, thank you for being here,.”  Gee, these strangers are k...

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The Third Gender, 'Mahu,' in Polynesia

In Tahiti, I swan with black reef-tipped sharks, gentle sting rays, and rainbows of fish and coral.  My favorite—the fat, lush-lipped, ruby red pulsating clams—looked like lips of smiling and  beckoning brothel queens.

A Tahitian Mahu (though not my Meeta)

I just returned from Tahiti where a beautiful woman ran our rustic beach pension with pebble floors.  Long and stro...

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In the folds

Finding myself in the slippery folds of silky labia, I ask the glittering clit, "How do you like to be met?"   "Ahhhh...Humbly, curiously, and with a beginner's mind!" she whispers.

When I catch up with my friend, Eleanor O'Brian, her flows and flows of vagina silk 'props' are strewn across the floor.  She will take her show Plan V, the Joyful Cult of Pussy Worship to the Edinburg Theater Fe...

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Naked Ocean Swim

Just hours before leaving Maui, I found a naked beach.  What freedom!  What a swim!  And the naked people I met were so respectful and safe feeling.  Nudists shed more than their clothes--they let go of pretentions and divisions.  And since nudist do not conflate nudity with sexuality (very important), nude beaches display better behavior than at regular beaches.  I recommend you, Dear Patreons,  find a club, spa or nudist community near you!  

In...

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The Mermaid of Green Sand Beach

Before the missionaries came to Hawaii, the native Hula dancers performed bare breasted, just like they lived (mermaids, too!).  Early white missionaries, bringing sewing machines and linen with them, quickly change that.  Still today at the Merry Monarch Hula Festival, everyone's covered.

What have we lost?  Did we shame the native people?   Nude beaches in Hawaii are a rarity, sorry! 

Good news in New York City, though. Thanks to DA Braggs, Manhatta...

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Ocean Bare

Swimming naked with the fish in Hawaii.  Can you even imagine fish wearing clothes?

On a secluded beach, I met a young woman, we were both alone in a private spot.  I asked her if she would photograph me swimming naked.  She enjoyed it, and bravely asked me to do the same for her--she'd never sent her boyfriend (who couldn't make the trip), a naked photo of her before.  I know he is thanking me.

I wonder, could a man do the same thing as I did...ask a stranger,...

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Fruit Salad on my body

I went to the Hakalau Farmer's Market down a country road covered with palms tulip trees just north of Hilo, Hawaii.  I bought FIVE plump, juicy star fruit all for ONE dollar!  No kidding!  The woman had just picked them from her tree that morning.  I spent $50 at the cutest country market I'd ever seen, and came home with $500 worth of Aloha!  Such a deal.  I plan to go 'finning with the fish' soon, and meet them wearing my birthday suit just like they will be w...

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I'm in Bed

I woke up slowly this morning. Is that what the longest nights are about.  Take advantage of them--the Light is coming.  Miss Charla

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Wishing you Warm Holidays

I've been enjoying some Holiday dating on Tinder, here's some ideas that make it fun instead of Oh-my-God-is-he-the-ONE!   

How To Enjoy Dating

Flirt—with everyone (the neighbor’s dog?)—Stay in condition.

Date a variety: You miss every shot you don’t take (from a pro bas...

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Restorative Yoga w/ Charla

Ah, restorative yoga, is fewer poses that are held longer, and it's a restful way to end the day.  Time to feel the body from inside out.


Dear Patrons, here I am with friends at Day of the Dead in Mexico.  Thank you, Mexico, for giving us a humorous and celebratory way to reflect and honor the dead.

I went on Tinder!  Every relationship is practice for th...

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Naked Yoga with Charla: Balancing Poses

Why aren't there more men in yoga classes?  Women love men who do yoga, and will dote on them after class.  What a great place to meet cool women.  We think, "Ah, a man seeking balance, not only physical strength, but flexibility, too.

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Charla and Sol's intimacy classes in Playa del Carmen

I honestly love offering intimate communication and touch classes in Mexico where the Catholic Church and 'macho' has shaped much behavior.  Traveling in Mexico throughout my early years and living in Mexico as an adult, I can say empowering women to lead and men to give them the space to do that, will bring much pleasure and grace to a  beloved  Latina cultura.  Miss Charla

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Angel Water Wings

You catch me swimming in the Blanco River in the Texas Hill County on Indigenous Day (overdue rename of Columbus Day).  I'm in a canyon of the Blanco River where the Comanche Indians camped and bathed before me...and probably also made water wings. 

Meet Sol, my mentorie, the sexy 'Romance Ambassador.'  Besides founding Sexy Wellness, she's an 2021-10-15 17:48:40 +0000 UTC View Post

Faking Orgasm...really!

You gotta meet my colleague, Melissa D of BodyJoy Austin!  Here we are faking orgasm, or is it faking conversation?—NOT!

I wouldn’t turn over the reins of my BJ Intimacy School after 20 years to just any foxy, smart, passionate teacher.  Melissa D was my choice to mentor, and she’s soaring to new heights with BodyJoy. Check out her newsletter for innovative opportunities.

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Naked Yoga with Charla

You know, not all activities are made for being naked...like mowing the lawn.  But Yoga, ah, it's made to do outside, in nature, and dressed like nature.  Kinda like swimming with the dolphins.  Standing yoga poses combine both strength and flexibility, so the masculine and feminine aspects of wellness both get a workout, not like football.  Get energized and soothed at the same time--and BREATHE for your health!   

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Take the Egg Timer off Your Orgasm

I'm the Queen Bee  in this interview with Kim, who asks gutsy questions and gets tips on how to take LOVING from OK to OMG!  The Fairy godmother of Sensuality also shares the "Kissing Game" to add spontaneity to kissing.  Have fun, Miss Charla!


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Charla's Naked Yoga is back! Mountain Pose and more!

Dear Beloved Patreon Fans, 

Here we combine love of the body with love of the outdoors!  In my second Naked Yoga lesson, I move from Child's Pose into Mountain Pose, and let you know yoga is more than fancy poses, it's where your body stays tuned to move with ease in our everyday tasks, both large and small. Yes, yoga is an everyday sport, and I've been doing it for over 40 years.  And it's fun to do naked, too!  Join me!

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Naked Yoga w/ Charla

My first Naked Yoga lesson for you, Dear Patreons, will have you breathing and moving together.  Even from your chair!  And you'll feel like a kid--I did!  Remember when we played Naked Native!?  If you don't--no worries, Play it NOW-- it's more fun as an adult, anyway.  

My girlfriend who vidoed my yoga series said I was brave.  Funny, I didn't feel particularly brave.  Maybe I'm just lucky--or have done a lot of de-shaming work in my life.  I st...

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I meet a man while on vacation

Vacations are such a perfect time to flirt, take risks, extend friendliness, while all the time you tell the truth, keep an open heart, and let others choose how they may.

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3 Slips and Counting

Dear Patreons, 

I meet an Alabama man who wants to model his vintage women's lingerie for me.  Playing with layers of silk, this lucky man gets Charla's 'Finishing School Tips for Boys'  (taken from Tales of Sex Magic & Healing).  This gentleman shares a great story--how he fell in love with women's underwear.  So guys, if you haven't already, go buy yourself a pair of silk undies!  And women, buy your man a pair--we DO get all...

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The Sex Workers Parade

Dear Sensualists,

With Pride Parades (and month!) upon us, I realize how much I long for a Sex Workers Parade.  For twenty years as an erotic muse, educator and bodyworker, I have hidden it, and struggled to make my life presentable. When asked at a party, “What do you do?” I invent respectable answers like ‘relationship coach.’

Here’s my fantasy…

The Sex Workers Parade

Not sure what our flag would look like

Or what my sign would...

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10 Mistakes Men Make, 10 Mistakes Women Make

Good sex is changing bad habits that don't get us what we want.  Many men and women do these 10 things that kill good loving, or cancel out good touching and kissing. Avoid these pitfalls and turn your sex life into timeless and treasured moments!  Miss Charla

10 Sex Mistakes Men Make

1) You kiss her too soon

2) You kiss her too hard

3) You kiss her too wet (mouth mauling)

4) You go for the nipples, not the breasts

5) You go for t...

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We're Not in Kansas Anymore!

Dear Ones,

Please enjoy my 4 min. story from my latest award-winning video "Tales of Sex Magic & Healing."  Those of you at the $10/mo tier can see the whole show.  And at the $5/ mo, my first show, "Naked at My Age," about me getting into sex work in my 50's,  I will repost Naked with improved sound!  I love telling you stories, my sexy family, and hope they encourage you to value, trust and share your own!

Here's my thoughts on a somber topic in the news ...

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I think I need a hat...or some tattoos

DearTribe, 
I invite you to a sexy movie night, a video showing on April 14 of my newest show, "Tales of Sex Magic & Healing."  I'm hosting with Deborah Sundahl, world renown expert on female Ejaculation, and Deborah and I will host a 30 min Q&A with you after the my video.  For more info and to reserve a ticket go to screening,  Join us Sexy Muses for a fun movie nigh...

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Charla puts on her Mae West

Mae West, Hollywood sex star from the 30’s, helps me be a Rad-woman. She quipped, “I believe in censorship—I made a fortune out of it.”  See her documentary on Amazon, Dirty Blonde. Mae radiates confidence, and here’s a video of me doing a few of her one-liners…

Mae was a pattern breaker—she broke the Patriarchy mold…

Boys—get to know and reason       Girls—get to feel and emote

Boys—get angry   &nbs...

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