Dr. Charla Hathaway

Charla gives you a flirting lesson

Flirting is like unleashing a fountain of goodwill you have within you, that keeps getting replenished as you give it away. Yes, in a way you flirt for invigorate yourself. Flirting is 'attention' without 'intention.' It is not manipulative or coercive, it is a gift. How it is received is not up to you,, rather the other person. You offer a genuine ‘noticing’ of something beautiful about that person, and you simply decide to say it instead of keep it to yourself. Maybe the person just had...

Flirt because you can!

Flirting is like unleashing a fountain of goodwill you have within you, that keeps getting replenished as you give it away. Yes, in a way you flirt for yourself. Flirting is 'attention' without 'intention.' It is not manipulative or coercive, it is a gift. How it is received is not up to you, rather the other person. You offer a genuine ‘noticing’ of something beautiful about that person, and you simply decide to say it instead of keep it to yourself. Maybe the person just had a friend ge...

Naked Chef Charla serves you a Love Sandwich

How to make a Love Sandwich: Take a slice of bread, um smell the earthy goodness! For the first layer of bread--VALIDATE your partner, such as, “Oh, it feels so good to be with you on the couch right now.” Next comes the middle layer, or gooey jam (yum!). Here's where you make a REQUEST for something you want, like, “And, I’d love for you to lightly touch my shoulders and back of neck with your fingertips for a couple of minutes.” Request one thing, be clear, shor...

Men like it slow

We hear it from women, and I hear it a lot from men. I've coached 10s of hundreds of men into astonishingly intimate 'slowness.' Often we just don't know how to slow down. Think of ways that have worked for you, and expand upon them. Mature loving is like a juicy pie where 'intercourse' is but a slice of it, not the whole pie. Let's cook up some rich recipes, coming up this July, Nude Chef Charla cooks for you in her magical kitchen. Watch for her.

2025-06-27 23:01:01 +0000 UTC View Post

On my way to the bathroom

Woke up thinking about you, my Patreons, and snapped a photo of me on the way to the bathroom. The joy of casual nudity, in the house, in the garden, in the neighborhood on a bike. Let’s imagine a community with sexy shenanigans like the Bonobo pod I visited at the San Diego.

If you have time for ...

I'm ON today, short notice

Dearest Patreons,

Here's a great interview with a somatic male muse--my counterpart!--and so glad that he's available for coaching men and women just like me. Here we are shaking the sexy fruit from the trees--you'll love him, James Humecky.

More soon on playing naked (well, Naked at my Age) at th...

Illegal in Nicaragua

Can you believe a country makes it illegal to be naked on a beach when the best thing they have is miles and miles of pristine, secluded beaches? I had fun breaking the law for you! I'll be taking off soon for the Orlando Fringe Festival presenting, Naked at my Age. It's the largest fringe in America and I'll get to see other shows (100!) and meet the artists. A theatre orgy! Here's 2025-04-28 21:21:58 +0000 UTC View Post

A naked yogi invites you to the water's edge!

My Dear Erotic Adventurers,

I love doing naked yoga and would love to teach a class with all of you in it, all of us naked together! Why not!

I wrote a love poem to a man I just spent a coupe of weeks with here in Mexico, but who I may never see again. After we parted ways, I bravely sent it to him. So often we feel beautiful things that we never tell each other--not me, no longer. I'll share my poem with you, too:

I remember you…sl...

On a tropical morning, I notice my body

I notice what I want—value it, trust it, communicate it. Desires are our highest intelligence, they steer us towards uncharted Wonder. Choosing what happens on our body is a Spiritual Act--more important than any fancy things we do to each other.  Choosing, moment by moment, how we want to touch and be touched is the Soul of Sex. 'Choice' makes our bodies feel safe, sexy, loving, respected--it is the heart of sexual empowerment and the fountain of erotic joy.2025-02-28 06:39:54 +0000 UTC View Post

Mermaid spotted on the malecon in Mazatlan

My dear Patreons, I woke up this morning in Mazatlan, Mexico, with a Mermaid in my bed! I've been enjoying some great Tinder dates here, speaking half in Spanish and half in English over a coffee. No need to take class. People everywhere love to share the beauty of their hometown. Traveling solo, I'm writing a mini-book, Why I Love Dating!

Mimes on the Malecon in Mazatlan. Don't know why ...

Clarification on Looking for a good Man post

My friend is looking for a man who will pay the whole tuition for the couple's retreat, Finding the Sweet Spot, which is in Dec $4600, or in Jan $4800. I just wanted to make that clear. Thanks, Charla

I need a good man!

Looking for one good Patreon man to help me out! My friend, an intimacy lovely teacher who offers snuggle labs, wants a partner to take her to my couples workshop, Finding the Sweet Spot, Feb 8-15, on Coco Beach, Nicaragua. You'll both learn a lifetime of skills in authentic relating and touching (clothes-on, nonsexual). What an opportunity! Please contact me about this chance in a lifetime to go from Don ...

ooops!

I meant to include a link to the intimacy retreats in the last Patreon.

A song for you

In the Heart of Darkness a hope lives in everyone's heart, that our humble being may in some way help another and be of service to humankind.

I presented Naked at my Age, my show about getting into sex work, on a rooftop patio in San Miguel de Allende, and my new friend,  Kate Van Doren of 2024-12-18 23:40:07 +0000 UTC View Post

Patreons, join me on a pristine beach at a cozy resort this Feb and let me lead you in relaxing, gentle activities that will bring more pleasure and intimacy to your one wild, wooly, and precious life!

I love teaching these retreats, Being Me Loving You for women, and Finding the Sweet Spot for couples and paired friends. I love seeing the faces of students in class awash in soft pleasure and acceptance, and glowing with inner peace. I love to hear the 'ahaas.' I offer a special price for you, Patreons! Please contact...

Soft Cock Appreciation Week

Dear Men--and Women who Love Them! My friend Erica Leroye, is on the frontlines of men's sexual health and pleasure and is passionate about educating and supporting people going through and preparing for erectile changes. She is now the new hostess of the 3rd annual FREE Soft Cock Appreciation Week coming Nov 10-17. This onli...

Playing for you in the Fall light

My sister erotic performers danced, sang, tied ropes and wielded floggers at a Whore’s Night Out at the Vortex Theater in  Austin, TX, last week. I presented my solo show, Naked at my Age, about the joys of sex work, and my sexy colleagues joined me with their own acts.  Together we celebrated and 'reclaimed' the word Whore. Enthusiastic, sell...

I interview cocks--and they can be very...humorous

....and wise. Have you interviewed your cock or vulva today. How are they doing? Here Ernie's cock, who calls himself "Oscar," and he has some great advise for Ernie to lighten up and smell the roses! 

Patreons, I just finished performing at the Vancouver Canada Fringe where I sold out my entire run of 8 shows of  before getting a standing ovation in Los Angeles with <...

I wake up tasting you

I wake up with longings to taste you again...

I hope the lingering summer brushes your skin with the softness of rose petals, and fills you with remembrance of joys gone by, and a glimmering nudge of the times to come, dressed in coolness and the color of fall. Much love to you Patreons as I take off for Canada Fringe and Los Angeles with my show, Naked at my Age, schedule.

And an Ero...

Here's my dessert poem I was teasing you about

I am pulled into a salty arroyo of life and death, Your hot rod burns into me, Undulating to some primordial rhythm of the dessert, Our bodies held together by breath and sand, we are gripped by life and swallowed up by the waiting Universe.

You are my Dessert Lover

I am pulled into a salty arroyo of life and death, Your hot rod burns into me, Undulating to some primordial rhythm of the dessert, Our bodies held together by breath and sand, we are gripped by life and swallowed up by the waiting Universe.

To you, my Patreons, I wish a hot, sweaty summer of underachieving, forgetting, doing it wrong, and being sloppy. All the the things we are not--let's be, how would that change our loving? I'm taking a clown class and seriously learning to do it wr...

Siren Charla is calling you to frolic on the beach with her.

Dear Patreons~-Your Erotic Muse, is calling you to Coco Beach, Nicaragua (20 miles north of Costa Rico), for an intimate retreat of great food, relaxation, connection & erotic inspiration, February 2025.

 What if, in a safe place, you were allowed to notice what comes up for you in the moment and could express it with ease…and without expectation? 

What if you could expand y...

When I Fuck You Now

 Finally, we can let go of fucking to get something, prove something, or out of expectation. Mature eroticism we can enjoy the surprises and freedom of fucking. We can dive deeper in to the soul, the abyss, the mystery. Dear Patreons enjoy my thoughts on why I fuck now.

Sweetly, Charla

Charla on Coco Beach invites you to a Retreat 2025

I’m offering two wonderful experiences on remote Coco Beach in rustic southern Nicaragua (just 20 miles north of Costa Rica) next winter and, YOU, my Patreons, are my first invites. Join me for Intimacy in Paradise and enjoy relaxed, intimate learning interspersed with time in the pool, walking the beach and playing in the waves.

Being Me, Loving You workshop is for women where we get sassy, find our t...

Is this a poem

In the wee dim hours of the early morning, I write down my musing and fantasy, and wonder does it quality to be a poem. I'm not sure, you decide, and enjoy either way! Miss Charla

I want your Sweet Surrender

What happens when a strong man--usually so capable and in charge--just gives it up?! With my Lady Handcuffs of silk ribbons and feathers, I want to tie up your Man Hands , so I may may set your free and have my way--and taste your Sweet Surrender!

 I went to the Oregon Coast last weekend when 50 shades of grey turned into 50 shades of blue and green. Is this the same ocean we share with Mexico? ...

Being ME while Loving YOU

Dear Patreons,

I'm on my rooftop terrace in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, after presenting my play, Naked at My Age, to a house full of friends. I've been asked to present next winter at San Miguel's most historic and beloved brothel, Casa de la Noche. What a dream to present my play about the value of sex work in a famous woman-lead brothel with all the painted ladies on the wall. My message of sexual and reproductive freedom rings true in Mexico where a woman's cooperative in Gua...

On a deserted beach in Nicaragua dancing with the waves and wind

My dear Patreons, if I could be naked I would, a conservative country like Nicaragua must be respected. But I feel the salt and the sea through my very being and I send you greetings. I watch the baby turtles hatch and make their way to the mother ocean. Humbling, the braveness and instincts we all have to go back home, home to authentic self and those who cherish us. Dance with me! Miss Charla

Is this a Poem

For those of you who missed my sexy Valentine Poetry zoom, here's a poem for you.

Inviting you to a sexy Valentines Zoom show

Dear Friends,

Join us for some Valentine’s yummies.  Juicy readings by some of my most juicy friends.  You may have your camera on or off! But we entertainers are ON!  Invite your friends.

Lovingly, Miss Charla

2024-02-12 18:53:11 +0000 UTC View Post