The heat
Added 2024-05-30 11:07:14 +0000 UTCThe way I was raised, the only appropriate time and place for complaining was directly to the person who either caused the problem, or has the most power to fix it, with the intention of informing them that there is a problem that requires fixing. If something cannot be helped, it is not a problem, but simply a part of life, which won't go away no matter how much you'd complain, so there's no point in complaining at all. And if something isn't big enough of a problem to need fixing, it's certainly not big enough to complain about.
My partner was raised differently, to him complaining is just what you do for conversation, it doesn't mean anything more than that.
So I'm still at a loss of how to respond to repeated complaints about something I'm already aware of, and cannot help in any way. I know that it is hot. I know he doesn't like it. I can't fix it, he doesn't expect me to, and he doesn't want me to. He just wants to continue to repeatedly inform me that it's hot in here and that he doesn't like it.
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Depending on whether I share the complaint or not I might reply with "I know, right?!" or "I'm sorry, that sucks" so the person complaining feels heard and understood. It's what I look for as well when I complain.
Sonya Alexandrova
2024-05-31 02:34:03 +0000 UTCI'm not sure that I verbalize my misery as much, but I absolutely FEEL like Blue does when it's hot.
Charity A. Petrov
2024-05-30 20:01:32 +0000 UTCI love the heat and love my fans. I miss having a fan in the wretched cold time
Xacarith
2024-05-30 18:08:06 +0000 UTCThis perspective is what I needed today and maybe help me focus my energy to save it for things that can be fixed. Sometimes, though, we complain out loud in case someone in earshot does have a solution we did not know was an option or even tenable; a cry for help that may get an answer.
SparkleMotion
2024-05-30 14:47:29 +0000 UTCFeel this so hard, especially when sleeping. I like it cold, my partner likes it warm. I turn up the A/C and he steals my blankets :P
DiezlWolf
2024-05-30 12:54:09 +0000 UTCis blue saying "let's install an AC"?
Koda
2024-05-30 12:15:52 +0000 UTCRepeatedly complaining and detailing the nature of the complaint can be very relaxing for some. It's me. I'm some.
Rain DeGrey
2024-05-30 12:09:54 +0000 UTCI’m like Blue, especially when it’s hot weather.
Jessica
2024-05-30 11:25:50 +0000 UTC
