Can anyone relate with personal experience? I’m very self-aware, but I’m so stumped on this one.
Added 2023-05-14 05:15:17 +0000 UTCComments
I like this topic though I wasn't around , but it's the trust issues... He must've been played Alot...okay,,,So, why it bothers you? My bad, well maybe you were like that a long time ago,,but you've changed for the better, maybe he reminds you of you then in other words..( no offense now) 2 because your annoyed and you can't deal with that social level,,you gotta tell your friend like it is hes your best friend,he can handle it .. he's annoying you sweetie..
Ignacio Delrio
2025-04-02 15:43:08 +0000 UTCIt may bother you because you may fear that his behaviour can become irrational. I think you’re alerted as to how he may behave in the future. This is probably why it bothers you so much. Because you’re past experience is either clouding your judgement, or giving you a clear view of what to expect if his behaviour doesn’t change, for the better. Stay safe.
Michel Grimault
2025-02-11 08:03:40 +0000 UTCMaybe, although he knows that you just want to be friends with him, he feels jealousy. If that’s the case, give him credit for not hitting on you if you made it clear that you don’t want him that way. However, while he may be doing what he thinks is right, that feeling might influence his thinking in a way he doesn’t consciously understand. Just a guess.
John
2024-11-21 10:06:13 +0000 UTCI don't mean to dis your best friend and all. But it's pretty abnormal behavior of him to assume that.
Jeremy Taylor
2024-11-14 10:19:10 +0000 UTCOr I could take a pepperoni and punch it to his head.
Jeremy Taylor
2024-11-14 10:16:59 +0000 UTCTell him you were out killing pepperoni.
Jeremy Taylor
2024-11-14 10:13:18 +0000 UTCThat guy needs a reality check.
Jeremy Taylor
2024-11-14 10:11:38 +0000 UTCIf I were in your shoes Chloe, I would honestly see his behavior as a red flag. If he is doing this, he may be into you, but for the wrong reasons. He is simping, meaning he is always making himself available to you, and being too much of a presence around you. He may be living a fantasy of how he sees the ideal life with you. This can be dangerous, because it may lead to stalking. He may also be controlling, possessive, and manipulative. If things, like this, bother him, he may not be a true friend, but only wants you for himself, and not entirely in a good way. You need to live your own life, even if that means enjoying it with other people. Living life just to please other people will burn you out. He wants you right now, but he may not be understanding that you may not be ready. He does not sound like a patient person. Relationships happen over time as trust and knowledge of the two of you develops for each other, and that's if there is meant to be any relationship at all. Chloe, you may want to confront him about this, while having friends with you, and establish an understanding. Even if you have to clearly tell him that what you do is none of his business. You may ultimately have to make the hard decision to end relations with him, and move on. He needs to respect you as a friend, and accept your life and decisions. If he cannot, or is unwilling, he needs to walk away and find other people to get acquainted with. He also seems both immature and insecure, so he also needs to grow as a person. If he truly saw you as a real friend, he would respect your space, and not let what you do concern him. This may sound hard, but sometimes tough love is the best kind. He may need to grow, and heal, as a person. He also sounds superficial, and unrealistic, as a person. Chloe, just saying, but you may even want to consider a different social circle of friends. So much of this behavior from people, like this, is very toxic. Sometimes that kind of change makes a big difference. Growth sometimes means letting go of the old and embracing what is new.
Howard D. Glockzin
2023-11-22 20:07:07 +0000 UTCCould be he’s playing a part as a close friend to hopefully lead to something else. If you’re not looking at him that way and his energy is going towards wanting that and yours isn’t. You’re not gonna like it, plus it’s insecure controlling and possessive.
Hunter Ramirez
2023-08-06 15:30:06 +0000 UTCMainly because you're being accused of something he objects to. It hurts because you're being put into a fake scenario and being painted as a different person in the framework of the mind of someone you care for. Meanwhile, you putting in the effort to care for him is getting pushed by the wayside due to a scenario he has pushed from hypothetical to a high probability to damn near reality in his mind
JJ Dale
2023-06-01 05:18:25 +0000 UTCI mean you kinda hit it on the head
Turtle Hunt II
2023-05-26 06:52:44 +0000 UTCIt probably bothers you because you know it's a deflection of their mind. They're putting this scenario on you that THEY would rather be in. It's definitely something most guys are completely guilty of because we're dumb af when it comes to our emotions, but it's not something you should worry about managing on your end. These fellas just like you and want your attention, albeit they're being pretty cringe about the whole thing.
Tycurious Sunseeker
2023-05-23 19:59:25 +0000 UTCGoodness you look so cute in this video 👀💖💕💖💋💖
Shadow Strings
2023-05-17 01:15:14 +0000 UTCThis why we need her. She thinking tf is wrong with me not him..
Jacob Zamora
2023-05-16 22:43:16 +0000 UTCI gotta lean toward jealousy, lol - “what, are you with a boyfriend?” could easily mean “why am I not your boyfriend?”
Riley Williams
2023-05-15 13:55:09 +0000 UTCMaybe because he’s jumping to assumptions and you don’t feel obligated to always answer, especially if you’re busy. So since you already have understandable reasons why you don’t always answer, of course it’s going to bother you.
Trevor Rogers
2023-05-14 22:07:04 +0000 UTCJust tell him every single time when you are going on a date. Unless he wants to show up there and ruin it. Then don't take my advice. But you get the point? By telling him the truth every time, even when you are being bluntly honest with him every time, maybe he will eventually get it. Just tell the guy what your doing. He might be jealous. Who knows? Idk. If the jealousy becomes toxic, then probably shouldn't even talk to him too much.
Tomb Deckery
2023-05-14 18:08:07 +0000 UTCWithout getting into his motivations, since you said you don't care about that, the simplest & easiest explanation why what he's doing bothers you is that it's a form of controlling behavior, which is a form of manipulation. Anybody with a decent head on their shoulders and a strong sense of self would be bothered by that. Thing is, that's annoying enough as it is from someone you're in a relationship with, but to come from someone you're NOT in a relationship with? In addition to being annoying as hell, he doesn't really have any right to be that proprietary with you and your time. Might be a good idea to confront him about all this & state that to him unequivocally (in whatever fashion or context you feel apropos). Hope that helps.
Cory
2023-05-14 13:15:22 +0000 UTCEvery friendship has a certain expectation. Sometimes it's minimal, sometimes it's extensive, but it depends on the person. As your best friend, you expect a certain amount of respect from this man, and that includes letting you do your own thing without answering to him about it. There's nothing wrong with wanting a friendship that doesn't involve hassling, and being upset when your friend does hassle you.
Relaxed Fantasy Review
2023-05-14 10:22:02 +0000 UTCHe’s definitely into you and I think why you feel this way is because the feelings aren’t mutual. Your comfortable in the friend zone and he’s not , he’s definitely jealous
Brent Bizousky
2023-05-14 10:00:21 +0000 UTC....it also bothers you because it's like, you're not JUST THERE FOR THEM and you can do whatever the hell you want with your time.... also agreeing with an above comment that it's passive agressive response to him being into you 💕💖💕❤️🌹
Shadow Strings
2023-05-14 05:46:16 +0000 UTCIt bothers you because it's almost like he assumes that's all you do with your time....sounds like he likes you and is trying to piss you off on purpose because he's jealous for some reason....💕💋❤️💕💖
Shadow Strings
2023-05-14 05:42:36 +0000 UTCIt sounds like he might be into you
Jacob M Carver
2023-05-14 05:20:49 +0000 UTCBecause it's clear what he's doing. He's baiting you into discussing dating and potentially sex. It bothers you because it's passive aggressive and coy. I've done it with a crush once or twice as a child, I've been on the receiving end of it as an adult, one instance involving me getting dragged into a love triangle. I don't know how much this friend means to you, so how you approach this is your call. Best of luck.
Fernando Adams II
2023-05-14 05:20:14 +0000 UTCBecause it's a sign of jealousy when he in fact shouldn't be jealous and might not be but that's what you see it as. Just my ✌️🪙🪙
Jason Harrison
2023-05-14 05:18:08 +0000 UTC
