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Added 2024-07-10 19:00:07 +0000 UTCThis week, Maya shares highlights from her New York adventure, an unsettling "near-kidnapping" experience, and her battle with burnout. QT recounts her encounters with TikTokers on the road and her struggles with an upcoming trip to her family reunion.
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I just want to say you guys are ALWAYS welcome to vent on the patreon ❤️
Caleb
2024-07-23 13:12:35 +0000 UTCThe only ways to deal with insects are physically removing or using chemicals. All those different mixtures people talk about are just hearsay and there’s no evidence that they actually work. Hosing down the leafs to remove the bugs is pretty much your only option if you don’t want to use chemicals. Diatomaceous earth exists and works like barbed wire for insects but it will kill all bugs, not just pests.
GammaDan
2024-07-22 19:26:07 +0000 UTCYep! It's natural (from a tree) and non-toxic.
Lezzerlee
2024-07-18 22:07:05 +0000 UTCI’ve always felt like the worst part of ocd is being able to see how irrational my fears are but just still being unable to control those ideas
Dyd
2024-07-18 14:23:45 +0000 UTCMy mom has OCD and is burnt out and hearing you guys talk about your experiences makes me understand what she is going through
Fritiof Geisler
2024-07-18 11:25:01 +0000 UTCAs someone who was diagnosed with Specific Phobia, I am so appreciative of QT sharing her experiences with phobia. It isn’t just a little fear of something. It is genuine panic, crushing weight, and severe anxiety. I’ve also had my specific phobia used against me and it’s awful. Thank you for sharing and much love 💛
bean!
2024-07-17 21:31:06 +0000 UTCBeen watching bonus episodes non-stop for weeks and I'm finally caught up. Y'all are great! Wiiine about it!
Victor Diaz
2024-07-16 15:23:13 +0000 UTCOn the intuition vs anxiety thing one thing that helps me is anxiety is a question, intuition is a statement. Idk if it will help you, but thought I would throw it out there
V-Nessa
2024-07-14 21:29:58 +0000 UTCQT, i also suffer from the plane phobia, and I am unfortunately in a place a where I have to go regardless of how I feel... (long story) but I wouldn't be able to do that with out therapy... Also have OCD and severe anxiety disorder. Mine is ALSO focused on me dying (i have an auto immune disease and truly its been rough lol overshare i know.) but quitting therapy would send me into spirals. I would get worse and my friends noticed a lot, much like Maya did this episode. Its almost not an option for me to quit right now. I hope that you don't feel like you're alone, truly the irrational is my reality, and its incredibly lonely, and disheartening. But listening to you describe it helped sm - because its irrational, but its our truth. and it sucks. hope your therapy journey goes smoothly the next go you give it <3
Mia Luna
2024-07-14 21:09:39 +0000 UTCLive in New York and just saw my first lantern fly. Ready to stomp them out
Trophy Kitty
2024-07-13 13:23:42 +0000 UTCJust sammmmeee
Ivyking23
2024-07-13 07:40:31 +0000 UTCalways appreciate how open y'all are about your mental health because it's one thing to think "oh, I'm probably not alone in going through these things" and it's another thing entirely to listen to another actual person inadvertently describing, out loud, how your own brain works.
Noah
2024-07-13 06:03:07 +0000 UTCI have OCD and anxiety as well. I remember being on a plane while we were boarding and I just sat there silently crying because my panic was so heightened. But after sooo much therapy, I’ve been able to work through the invasive thoughts and do things I never thought I’d be able to. You’ll be able to get through it 🫶 don’t be so hard on yourself for your mental health struggles, it’s a process / journey 🧸 💕
alanna kalie
2024-07-12 22:20:52 +0000 UTCHow do I get decko denden
Cesar
2024-07-12 20:18:29 +0000 UTCIt bothers me so much that QT's friends/family mock her for her flying phobia. I'm sorry to hear that happened; you don't deserve that. Driving vs. flying is so small in the grand scheme of things, crazy to bring it up in a situation where you MADE IT to the thing.
Jim
2024-07-12 17:07:20 +0000 UTCjust doing my best hasan impression
MICHY!!!!!
2024-07-12 17:06:15 +0000 UTCi just started taking some vitamin D and i genuinely feel a little better. gd i love this community ♥️
FullPlaid
2024-07-12 16:52:06 +0000 UTCSwift is so LA
Mitch Mitcherson
2024-07-12 13:11:46 +0000 UTC:)
ChubbyHobo
2024-07-12 07:27:46 +0000 UTCI can’t wait for Maya and QT to react to Jojo Siwa’s new music video 💀
Veronica Hampton
2024-07-12 04:23:50 +0000 UTCFor QT’s garden - marigold & dill are good companion plants to help with bug control. Dill will attract ladybugs which will help kill other bugs like aphids etc. spiders are also carnivorous and helpful. Neem oil is a natural repellant that can help. You can also you sticky traps for some bugs.
Ellen Wardle
2024-07-12 02:30:46 +0000 UTCNot Maya calling Chappell Taylor 😭😭😭
Jack Fitzgerald
2024-07-12 00:09:28 +0000 UTCmaya’s teeth look whiter this ep i wonder if she’s doing anything different
samilovee
2024-07-11 23:35:01 +0000 UTCGardening help: you can sprinkle cinnamon on the topsoil surrounding the plants or spray neem oil+water around the plants to help with pests (:
Grace
2024-07-11 22:20:36 +0000 UTCWas wondering why I wasn't seeing Maya go live much lately : (
Marshall Christensen
2024-07-11 20:23:27 +0000 UTCListening to qt talk about flying helped me recontextualize that I am working through similar stuff. I will definitely be bringing it up to my therapist lmao. I hope you can enjoy the car ride and the family reunion despite everything!
Purrcy
2024-07-11 19:38:51 +0000 UTCI also have OCD and used to have a therapist that specialized in OCD. He would have been thrilled to hear I bought an airplane ticket and was extremely stressed out about it. He would have still been very happy overall if I had cancelled the flight because I had booked the flight in the first place. Doing that was straight up exposure therapy, which was basically all my OCD specialist had me do. That was an incredible step to take.
Noley Fresh
2024-07-11 18:53:41 +0000 UTCtheres this chair that was all over my tiktok that had a big seat for people that like to cross their legs qt should look it up
Tina
2024-07-11 18:05:40 +0000 UTCThey are both in therapy (what they've said from other episodes). Therapy is a working process though, and everyone's progression is different, it could take one person a couple of weeks to work through something whereas with others it may take many years.
FrostWolf
2024-07-11 17:47:55 +0000 UTCre: burn out. burn out is fucking scary man. ive tried it all to cure it. exercise, nutrition, sleep, active rest, inactive rest, therapy, meds, meditation, yoga, weed, mushrooms, etc. but these are just optimizing me and my response to my environment. its not changing my environment. sometimes we take on too much and there doesnt exist a solution to fix it. it requires rehabilitation. rehabilitation requires us to let go of some of our burdens. when i was homeless during my senior year, i did yoga basically every day because i need to go to the gym for showering, brushing my teeth, and what not. i was surprisingly less burnt out.... but i was still burnt out, not to mention the trauma i discovered later from being homeless (no longer homeless, long story). it wasnt until this past year when i had a good four month without any commitments. i was still researching but i didnt have to answer any emails or whatever. i felt life returning to my soul. i didnt feel like a robotic machine. long term excessive stress can cause semi-permanent psychological damage. maybe its not that. maybe there are somethings that can be changed here or there and youll feel your normal self again. whatever it is, youve got a community who supports you and who believes in you. ♥️
FullPlaid
2024-07-11 17:36:30 +0000 UTChi QT! not sure if you’ll see this but i’m an engineer who helps design planes. if you have any questions or want to chat about anything, i’d be happy to help!
Jason Keeler
2024-07-11 17:30:58 +0000 UTCoh cool. i usually go to tan for 5 mins every few days for a vitamin D boost (i know tanning is bad), but i will definitely have a look at picking up some vitamin D. i appreciate you sharing.
FullPlaid
2024-07-11 17:17:09 +0000 UTCBuying the tickets for the plane WAS progress, QT, even if you decided not to go. You already acknowledge that you have an irrational fear of flying, so the path to overcoming your fear has already began. Nonetheless, you have a lot of stressors on that day that will make it extremely difficult to face your fears on this particular occasion. Don't look at the choice to drive instead of flying as "regressing". Your overall mental health is more important than immediately addressing a phobia. You will have better opportunities to face your fears, but do not hold it against yourself that you still have them. You are making the mature decision based on what you're going through. F the haters. Sorry if this comes off as parasocial btw, hoping maybe others will appreciate this advice if not QT herself.
Blubbleboi
2024-07-11 17:16:36 +0000 UTCPlease don’t feel bad for complaining or venting!! We (the patrons) are here for both of you💕 and honestly sometimes it’s relatable and makes me feel better!!
Lindsey
2024-07-11 15:37:08 +0000 UTCI was watching Maya stream and she mentioned a vitamin D deficiency. I am on antidepressants, have two therapists as well. I was still having issues and it turns out vitamin D deficiency causes depression symptoms. Started mega dosing a rx vitamin D and it’s been a drastic improvement.
Kellie Ruby
2024-07-11 14:52:46 +0000 UTCWas going to comment too. I did the homework and watched it and I’m dying to hear QT talk about it more.
Morgan T
2024-07-11 14:28:08 +0000 UTCon the topic of Lanternflies...I lived in Philly about 4 years ago when their population was peaking in the area. I lived in an apartment complex with a balcony and spent an afternoon as an assassin. From *just* my balcony (on a 9 story apartment complex) I killed over 200.
Tuesday
2024-07-11 14:10:35 +0000 UTCI feel like I learnt a lot about QTs fear from this episode. "Just face your fears head-on" is a lot harder if you can't sleep from it, and get into OCD patterns.
Ruben
2024-07-11 11:32:44 +0000 UTCFor a sad episode I’ll recommend 2 sad songs that I’ve listened to a lot at low points in my life. Monster-Danielle Bradbery Mr/Mme-Loïc Nottet
Mikey
2024-07-11 08:40:14 +0000 UTCAre the girls in therapy...? I feel there is not much standing between them and some semblance of mental relief through therapy and/or other mental health resources. Therapy rocks
Nolife.Nick
2024-07-11 08:36:13 +0000 UTCSo that bug might not have been a caterpillar QT. Look up tomato hornworms. Or if someone else sees this that knows her tell her
Jaded Kills
2024-07-11 07:44:56 +0000 UTCHasan is an asshole, to add insult to injury he even gives shit to QT about her OCD which she can't help.
FrostWolf
2024-07-11 07:09:20 +0000 UTCI can totally relate to when you're talking about OCD, QT. I suffer from it too and I have all kinds of different fears/obsessions I have cycled through in my life. For a while I have had a fear of driving on the freeway and especially going long distances on it.
FrostWolf
2024-07-11 07:08:45 +0000 UTCWym? It's just Mario Goatse
FrostWolf
2024-07-11 06:34:06 +0000 UTCI love that recently Maya made fun of Hasan for saying Chapell Roan sounded like Taylor Swift
Paula Mejia
2024-07-11 06:12:30 +0000 UTCTbh I’d consider the auction if it was a cake or something less weird, but nevertheless slay QT lol.
George Nelson
2024-07-11 06:12:12 +0000 UTCAudio listeners... she's sniffing the chair (and I'm not even trying to make a joke)
Phuong Le
2024-07-11 03:19:23 +0000 UTCso is this DCC netflix series discussion ever happening? I renewed my membership to watch it 🤣
This Guy
2024-07-11 02:46:43 +0000 UTCHow much for the chair, gonna have to bid on that 🤣
RathOX
2024-07-11 02:20:31 +0000 UTC???????
loofilovegood
2024-07-11 01:12:29 +0000 UTCyeah the thing about East Coast is that we get all the seasons - and some of them are shitty! humidity blows!
Marc !
2024-07-11 01:05:40 +0000 UTCThis was a really enlightening episode, it was very interesting to hear more about QT’s experience with OCD and about Maya’s burn out. Thank you for sharing, and congratulations to you both for 2 years of many of our favourite podcast! Thank you for sharing and for all the clips and I’m really glad to be a member of the patreon
Elijah
2024-07-11 01:01:51 +0000 UTCQT! You kick ass for growing without pesticides! I have a deep love for organic gardening. A hard lesson I had to learn was that sometimes you're just going to lose some stuff to nature when growing food. But... absolutely try neem oil and diatomaceous earth! Google for specific instructions for each kind of plant. I promise even more success if you can identify the bug(s) attacking your plant, so look up pictures of common garden pests to compare with what you've got. Epic Gardening on YouTube is a terrific organic gardening resource. Look up "companion planting". When possible, grow a big variety of plants including native wildflowers and grasses so you'll bring in the predator bugs that will feed on the pests - it won't *solve* the pest problem, but it helps keep a better balance. I'm so sorry about the essay 😅 Good luck!
Ed Castillo
2024-07-11 00:37:55 +0000 UTCthere is nothing better than a chappell roan outro (especially red wine supernova)
LunaticLynn
2024-07-10 23:33:59 +0000 UTCHearing Qt talk about OCD is so validating I have it and flying is torture. The only thing that helps me is taking a tranquilizer and telling myself that I have no control and if the planes going down i guess i’m going down. Even then the OCD finds something to grab onto. It’s so exhausting.
Evie
2024-07-10 23:06:49 +0000 UTCMaya: it may sound strange since he's such a different figure in many ways, but Linus (from Linus Tech Tips) had a similar burnout experience years ago and felt LTT could crumble, and I think you guys were in similar positions of being both the figurehead and the ship runner of your respective organizations while also juggling many other things. It's a long shot, but he may be someone who could give you actual advice instead of just the generic advice you'd find online.
IntakeCinema
2024-07-10 22:57:02 +0000 UTCtake a xan and a bottle of wine for the plane / J
AnimeArmored
2024-07-10 22:31:02 +0000 UTCtldr lanternflies destroy our crops and trees and they have no natural predators, although there's been some sights of native species of birds starting to eat them ! unfortunately they run rampant in my area :(
River Shepe
2024-07-10 22:29:20 +0000 UTCWe had issues with slugs getting to our garden and are having good luck with diatomaceous earth (which is like powderized rocks and fossils of algae). You sprinkle it around your plants. It’s non toxic
Steve Schroeder
2024-07-10 22:18:13 +0000 UTCQt I can recommend neem oil for pests! :)
Melanie Stewart
2024-07-10 22:13:42 +0000 UTCI am in a similar situation with burnout, just qualified as a radiation therapist ( people who plan and deliver radiotherapy) and I’m living all that I worked for, yet I feel so down and burnt out. Makes you question everything.
Rebecca chapman
2024-07-10 22:11:21 +0000 UTCMaya, if you hate men (I do too) Lyft has a setting that let's you only ride with women. It's called 'Women+ Connect' on their app and it's free :)
Darkrow
2024-07-10 20:56:19 +0000 UTCWell seeing as how I’m going through a separation/divorce I welcome this depression episode! Does freak me out about dating in the future cus wtf? Sounds scary lol
Jose Marin
2024-07-10 20:47:57 +0000 UTCummm QT have you tried just getting on a plane?? (I am very smart btw)
MICHY!!!!!
2024-07-10 20:42:20 +0000 UTCI love these episodes. I'm literally burning in my 12 hr shifts in 90+ being outside all the time. Idk, sharing each other's troubles don't burden but feel more comfy to me. Thank you for sharing!
Torayume
2024-07-10 20:25:53 +0000 UTCWelp, who ever posted plane videos for that heart rate stream aren’t funny 👍
ROGO27
2024-07-10 20:12:48 +0000 UTCwe love complaining on the patreon. wahoo !!
metoniiia
2024-07-10 20:01:57 +0000 UTCQT, have you checked out NOCD? It could be a good resource until you get a new therapist.
Lilith
2024-07-10 19:36:14 +0000 UTCat the NC state fair they had signs around with pictures of lattern flies that said to kill them if you see them lmao
jenn
2024-07-10 19:27:53 +0000 UTCwowie
shpence
2024-07-10 19:27:06 +0000 UTCwowie
AxialMars
2024-07-10 19:00:42 +0000 UTC
