Pro tip: if you don't want a shitty toothbrush, don't abuse anyone 🫡
Added 2025-04-18 12:34:23 +0000 UTCFor context, I shared a story about dunking an abuser's toothbrush down the toilet.
The rest is as follows:
Person responding to the post:
"it's completely subjective what an "abuser" is though to this person, "he's kinda mean to you sometimes? Oh he an abuser gurl. I'ma do this disgusting and cowardly act now tee hee." (clown emoji).
My response:
"Yeah, because punching someone, raping them, financially controlling them - that's subjective right? Oh wait, no - no it's not. I'm versed in abuse. I was born into it, raised by an abusive father, seen my sister subjected to the hands of a rapist and a coward. I know what abuse is and I know that I can't force a victim to leave. They have to make the choice and be ready to leave in their own time. So, yes, I did take his toothbrush and I dunked it in the toilet. If you don't want a shitty toothbrush, don't assault my family members. Disgusting? Yes. Deserved? Absolutely."
P.S. Being mean is fucking abusive. It's not okay to put your partner down, berate them or be cruel. It is a different degree/form of abuse, yes. But it's still abuse. People think as long as you keep your hands to yourself, everything else is fair game. Shitty behaviour is so normalised in relationships and it's fecking disturbing.
You don't get to treat someone like shit and then not suffer consequences.
Comments
Give them 2 reasons not to brush their teeth: Number 1, and number 2
Neil Winter
2025-04-23 18:42:38 +0000 UTCI don’t think any of us were supposed to know this.
Legion X Fretensis
2025-04-21 01:25:11 +0000 UTCHonestly Tea, i admire Your strength to actually respond and argue with such individuals. For the very long time my "internet life" was ruled by this saying that "arguing over the net is like participating in Paralympics. Even if You win. You're still retarded". So most of the time i kept my mouth shut. If someone wanted to act stupid i usually let them act stupid without my participation, hoping others would see through their stupidity as well. But over time such attitude proved to be wrong. If morons are not kept in check and not held accountable for their words, they multiply and now we can hear wildest theories, sayings and such all over social media and beyond. As for "abuser" - i think that this and many other "strong" words ("trauma" for example) are so overused nowadays that they nearly lost their significance. On the one hand there are people like You, whose life experience is literal hell on Earth and those who brought this to You fill every possible definition of the word. On the other hand there are kiddos with "oh, our teacher made us do so much homework, he's such an abuser" or "my mum makes me clean my room, she's such an abuser. so much generational trauma". Being a victim gained unparalleled "popularity" so people who have perfectly normal life seek the ways to present themselves as tormented, abused, opressed or other way hurt. So, while T.D.F.M.'s response is heartless to say the least, it does not come as a surprise...
Verid
2025-04-19 12:15:01 +0000 UTCSeems mister doest not know about verbal abuse
That_dutch_guy
2025-04-18 20:42:34 +0000 UTCI think abuse is when you exploit someone's attachment or emotional connection with you in order to make them feel bad for purposes of getting them to do what you want. when someone weaponizes your attachment—your care, your love, your need for connection—as leverage. They know you care, and instead of respecting that, they twist it to guilt you, control you, or make you feel like crap unless you do what they want. It’s stuff like: “If you really loved me, you’d do this for me.” Giving you the cold shoulder until you cave. Acting super hurt or upset anytime you set a boundary, so you feel like you’re the bad guy. It’s not just two people arguing or getting emotional—everyone does that. This is deeper. It’s when someone plays emotional chess with you on purpose, especially when they know you're attached and just want things to be okay. It’s quiet, it’s sneaky, and it makes you question yourself. You start thinking you’re too sensitive, or that you just need to "try harder"—but really, you’re being slowly drained.
Moshman
2025-04-18 20:24:26 +0000 UTCdefinitely not self pity at all. i think its great you atleast feel a sense of comfort being so vulnerable online.
Avery
2025-04-18 17:21:19 +0000 UTCTo be completely honest, that's part of being a woman. I don't mean that in a self-pitying sense. I just mean because men and women experience the world very differently, a lot of men just cannot fathom the things women encounter. And as such, they doubt and argue with the experiences women have had. Because they themselves have never experienced it, in their mind, it didn't happen. Sad, honestly. But it's been a thing for much longer than I've been alive. It's part of the package, but it is getting better. And there are definitely a lot more men willing to hear hard truths and experiences that they never would experience themselves. It gives me hope.
TeacupAudio
2025-04-18 17:01:45 +0000 UTCto add i wonder does it ever bother you at all in the slightest that these people pay for your content but you know they are absolutely cunts irl? i couldnt imagine being you and posting a personal experience or moment in general only to have people jump down your throat and especially when youve been so vocal and clear about what happened to you.
Avery
2025-04-18 16:53:35 +0000 UTCoh definitely, i think youve hit the nail on the head there. but i do agree with you on saying a majority of your listeners listen to your content because of the realistic factor to it, as do i. i think its just hard to understand why someone would pay for content, invest their time into listening to it all to just absolutely shit on the person behind it. like it just baffles me and ive seen many times on here or on your twt when someone doesnt like what you post act so entitled like what you post has to suit their every want/need. considering how much you post aswell, theres definitely variety for EVERYONE. or when you post something completely unrelated to the audios, they will act like its getting in their way of life its hilarious. i think alot of "stereotypical" porn that one would regard the "norm" is so accessible that you really have bought into a niche market with what you make. i obviously dont speak for every listener but i think it would be awesome if you did more content that you would be interested in making in regard to real life sex/ relationships.
Avery
2025-04-18 16:50:59 +0000 UTCT.D.F.M is an immature man-child who would fall to his knees begging for forgiveness if someone threatened to show that comment (likely others he's made too) to his mother, sister, grandmother, or any friend or boss. Congrats dick, you proved that you are today's garbage person of the day, hope you enjoyed it.
Iam
2025-04-18 16:21:33 +0000 UTCWell abuse is abuse doesn't matters if physical violence is used or not, the mere fact that the idiot doesn't haves enough brain to understand that fact, is clear view that he has his head in his own butt, i feel bad for his response to your post
Not_Akai
2025-04-18 16:11:52 +0000 UTCI think that's unfortunately part of the problem. I try to do more nuanced, real-life experiences in my role-plays. You know, things that real women experience - not always orgasming, not wanting to do certain sex acts, having experienced SA, but so many men just don't want that in there. They don't want reality. And I get it, to a certain extent. Sometimes, you just want to switch your brain off and have pure fantasy. But porn is a fantasy. A complete and utter fantasy. It's a story made up to get us off. Even the more realistic depictions of porn are not that comparable to real people having real sex. It never will be and that's not a slate on either porn or real sex. I just find it funny that a lot of listeners enjoy the performance of women, but don't seem to value or respect women in the real world - or the experiences of those women. Because they're basing their understanding of women through the lens of media, particularly porn. I'm not saying this is the vast majority. I actually think a big appeal for the majority of listeners is the honesty of my content, the fact that not all porn needs to be pure, orgasmic magic. But there is also a loud faction who simply don't believe there's a difference between women in porn and women in real life. The women in porn are happy, elated, coming every minute - so, why aren't real women? Because porn isn't reality.
TeacupAudio
2025-04-18 15:50:57 +0000 UTCi find it odd how so many men will consume your content but the moment you say something based on your personal experience they take it as an attack upon themselves
Avery
2025-04-18 15:36:14 +0000 UTC💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Lost Puppy
2025-04-18 15:24:53 +0000 UTCWonderful response as always Tea. And a shity toothbrush? Priceless 👍
Phoenix Brave Hideki
2025-04-18 15:18:34 +0000 UTCIf I remember correctly he was fainly arrested near christmas last year. Don't know for how long though
jakk
2025-04-18 15:12:47 +0000 UTCYeah weird seeing my face/ comment (the top jakk comment) on pateron. Also yeah that guy clearly don't understand shitty people deserve shit if there no saving them
jakk
2025-04-18 15:10:55 +0000 UTCI am so sorry you have to deal with fucking clowns like that. Stupid motherfuckers on the internet will pick any reason to have a fight. Be well. And I hope that you have to deal with ShitTeeth McDoucheCanoe for as little time as possible.
The Atheist Reverend
2025-04-18 14:57:05 +0000 UTCThe most common people to tell you that it's "subjective" what an abuser is, is the abuser. For example, whenever anyone accused my mother of being abusive, her favorite response was, "I'm a ninety pound woman! I can't be abusive to a growing young man so much bigger and scarier than me! That's just not possible." As if there's only one type of abuse to exist and only one kind of person who can commit it. I really wish I'd put her toothbrush in the bowl at some point before getting out.
Blindluck92
2025-04-18 14:28:31 +0000 UTCSounds like some fool on twitter.
Jeremy Knight
2025-04-18 13:47:18 +0000 UTCTea proving once again why she's awesome.
CurrentlyEatingPies
2025-04-18 13:06:28 +0000 UTCSorry you had to deal with this, theres no level of cruelty that can be subjective. Abuse is abuse
FrickPick
2025-04-18 13:05:49 +0000 UTCAt the end of the day it's still abuse no one can spin it around. It's amazing the dude tried that...
Ronald Green III
2025-04-18 13:02:49 +0000 UTCYikes.... that's absolutely insane
Jessi V
2025-04-18 12:59:53 +0000 UTCAct like a shitbrush = Get the shitbrush. It's very simple!
Spaghetto!!!
2025-04-18 12:49:33 +0000 UTC100% Never understood the concept of partnering with someone you're always pissed at Gotta love when people talk as if they understand the entirety of a situation
rolotony97
2025-04-18 12:48:51 +0000 UTCI swear people really need to keep certain opinons to themselves.
Boopman
2025-04-18 12:46:27 +0000 UTCI hope you got the poopy bits in the brush.
LordTreeGnome
2025-04-18 12:42:18 +0000 UTCIt seems like that's the type of person to turn a blind eye to abuse in their own life, because how do you even come up with that take. Abuse is abuse. I've unfortunately had to see it happen to my mother as a child, that shit is disgusting. If I ever have to (hopefully not), I will make sure there's piss in the toilet when I dunk their toothbrush😂
Kari
2025-04-18 12:40:40 +0000 UTCI'd say this is like an amateur tip honestly
DeWalt Power Tools
2025-04-18 12:35:52 +0000 UTC
