About Overfitting

Destin, Matt, I don’t really post very often. But I think this episode has wrecked my brain. After listening to this episode. I had an inner action with my 15 year old daughter, and as per her many times there is a conversation with correcting or addressing an issue with a teenager, she left the conversation in tears, and as it is per said outcome when I looked at my wife her Skal, let me know that I had probably address the situation wrong. And I realize that I over fitted my daughters comment to previous teenage Snark when that probably wasn’t what she was doing. I need help. I am told that my statistical model is also very much like Destin’s. How do we as Parents strive to: 1 recognize patterns that are either good or bad in our children so that we can praise or correct 2. And here’s the big one recognize when we are over-fitting those patterns and causing a worse situation. Would love to hear a book episode for the entire Wingfeather Saga.

Kalo

I had this similar discussion with my wife (referring to end of episode discussion). I explained my reactions to her actions or words or attitude is built off my data set I’ve collected over a decade and I can infer what she is thinking or what her motives are. 9/10 times it causes further argument in the matter because I’m assuming something that is not the case in that specific matter. My overfitting often gets my in trouble, but for the life of me I can’t turn it off LOL I think it’s just hard wired in us as humans as a defense mechanism and we can’t help but to rely on past experiences to translate the present. It takes effort and disciple to not fully rely on the data set and take each event as it comes with an open mind and assumption of positive intent, because I too, Destin, tend to lean towards negative intent from the other party and it isn’t constructive in my relationships with those I care about most. Thanks for the episode!