Ok...so this is purely my insane ramblings at this point but...
Added 2022-10-20 18:19:39 +0000 UTCAlright my beautiful Patrons...allow me to ramble for a bit?
So I'm currently editing one of the 2 NSFW audios this month and something hit me as I listened to myself making rather...odd...noises for the 1000th time...
I think I hate the word Fuck...
let me explain...
As someone who has spent a considerable time in the BDSM world (almost exclusively as a Dom) I've created a bit of a personal system on how to identify good Doms from bad Doms. Now this includes certain habits people might have, how the approach certain scenes, how they care for their gear and the space they play in, how they treat there partner afterwards and so on and so forth. One of the biggest tells to me though? Language.
Now I'm not talking about foul language in the context that "Certain words are bad words and you shouldn't say them" or anything like that...its BDSM and Sex...at the end of the day...we all like dirty talk (or else...how did you find you're way to ME of all people lol) BUT what I mean is...how does a Dom talk to their Sub and how do they describe what their doing.
For me, I think one of the clear signs of a bad Dom is their overuse of the word Fuck...and I come across this far too often.
NSFW LANGUAGE MODE NOW ACTIVE!!!
Things like...
"Baby I'm going to Fuck you so hard"
"You Fucking belong to me"
"Do you Fucking Like that'
Or anything in which every 10th word is a variation of fuck.
To me, the overuse of the word Fuck shows a lack of imagination as well as a lack of desire in making sure a partner has a good time. For the Doms that want to make sure that their partners are having a good time, language plays a huge role in that. I can always tell a bad Dom when their ENTIRE dirty talk vocabulary seems to revolve around the word Fuck.
Now, I know some out there might say 'But Nomad...Couldn't they be an inexperienced Dom? Maye they just need more experience?" And again, here comes a controversial opinion...But No. You cannot teach imagination, it's something that has to come naturally. Also...usually the people who don't care about their Partners experience won't take the time to learn how to be better because they don't really care to.
I could honestly talk about language and whatnot for an HOUR, but honestly, that's an episode for the Wanderer Podcast...and I' still fighting with that podcast lol.
Alright...Ramble over, time to get back to NSFW editing...thanks all and have a wonderful day
(Yes I used this as an editing break...but I feel like you all know what I' about)
Comments
Don't get me wrong...I LOVE the word Fuck...but in NSFW context I've kinda started to hate it a little bit lol...and I'm just trying to be more varied with how I speak during my content
Ed Lee
2022-10-24 00:44:58 +0000 UTCOk...so first, I'm just going to apologize on behalf of anyone who has ever mocked you because you're nervous or scared of being dommed. It's an intensely personal choice and no one should ever be ridiculed for it. Also I couldn't agree more, I've heard a lot of "Doms" use overuse the word Fuck as a way to try and exert their own will on a Sub. Funnily enough I've always believed that in a Healthy from of a BDSM relationship, the SUB actually has a lot more power than the dom. Everything should really be going at their pace (of course this doesn't mean that the interaction should be only about the sub...but again that's podcast subject matter lol) Lately I've been trying to use some of the NSFW audio work to also show different versions of a DOM while also showing what a good Dom should be, in both hard and soft styles.
Ed Lee
2022-10-24 00:44:38 +0000 UTCHonestly, I tend to agree with this assessment. I'm going to throw myself under a bus here and admit something I usually don't, because I get ridiculed for it. I am scared shirtless of the idea of being Dommed. Normally, if I see an audio or book that says Dom in it, unless there's a "soft" tacked on, that's an immediate hard pass for me. The few times I have tried, the use of the word "Fuck" was almost like an owning mantra. It said less "are you enjoying yourself" and more "you're going to enjoy yourself because I'm so awesome". I love the word fuck as an expression of vehemence or enthusiasm, but in these contexts...I've never run up on it as a pleasant experience. I actually feel more comfortable listening to some of your Dom audios, even though they make me skittish, because of the lesser use of that word, if that makes any sense. I know my experience isn't universal, and there are plenty of people who enjoy the use of that word during fun time. Just kind of sharing my own thoughts and experiences.
Wanderer_Rowan
2022-10-20 20:09:34 +0000 UTCYou know now that you say that I have noticed you stopping yourself from saying fuck in your other audios lol
SunnyRises
2022-10-20 19:44:34 +0000 UTC
