The Clubhouse Podcast #111 | Topics Thread
Added 2021-06-24 08:25:04 +0000 UTCHey all you sweet vintage lads!
I’ll be back this Sunday for another solo Clubhouse therapy session. Be sure to leave your topics and advice threads in this post ASAP.
I hope you’ve all had a good week. See you Sunday - Tyler
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How's it going Tyler, hope you're well mate. Today I actually require your advice for a long time in a while. I don’t know if you remember the first topic I left last year about my ex-girlfriend, if not I'll quickly summarise. Basically, I was with this girl (her name being Ellise) since we were like 15 and ended up breaking up last February. The reason for this was because for years we shared the same friend group until she met this cunt, I mean girl, at work called Lara. Who long story short, broke us up. After that, I did what all lads should do after a breakup and shut her out. Haven't spoken to her or even heard her name for a year. I did everything to better myself for once, and my life's been really successful since then. Started Uni studying Business Finance and launched a limited company that has come on leaps and bounds. So moving onto the advice. Last night I was out with the boys, and Ellise's name came up. I told everyone around me last year to basically not mention her name, to give me the time to heal. I like to think I'm in a pretty good place now so I asked them out of curiosity what she's up to now. They basically told me that she's fallen off the face of the earth. My mates used to see her all the time the weeks after our breakup but no one has seen her since then. We looked at her Instagram and she's deleted her whole feed. A lot of the boys think she's not friends with Lara anymore and so has kinda fucked herself and doesn’t have anyone. I laughed about it with my mates because it's always nice to 'win' a breakup but I couldn’t help but feel a bit sorry for her as well. At the end of the day we spent 4/5 years together and feelings are so hard to kill no matter how tough you think you are. I'd also be lying if I said I didn’t care about her. A quick side note that's worth knowing is that me and Ellise booked a holiday last year before we broke up, long story short, it obviously got cancelled but I haven't had a refund. I haven't messaged her about it to see if she's been given the refund because I just didn’t want anything to do with her. She also had no way of contacting me. Last night though the boys said I should probably message her and see if she has the money. It's about £600 so not something I really want to throw away anymore. Now I don’t know if this is an excuse just to message her again because I subconsciously want to see how she is, but I'm definitely considering messaging her and seeing what the crack is. So that’s what I need help with, what do I do? Realistically I should see if she has the money because firstly it does belong to me and could also really help out. But I don’t want to risk falling into some kind of trap again because I do know what I'm like with her and I can't be doing that again. I've obviously asked my friends what they think as they know me best but they're split. Some are saying I should try and get my money back but others are saying that I run the risk of falling back into the same cycle again and wind up getting hurt again after doing so well for myself. I know it’s a cliché that always ends up being wrong but maybe things could be different. I don’t know. I've probably answered my own advice here but I'd like to hear your thoughts nonetheless. I'd also like to say, I've never met you Tyler and we've only shared a couple of brief conversations but I really do see you as a good mate. Might be weird to say. You genuinely hauled me through last year and I do give you credit for helping me become the man I am now. I suppose James as well. I've taken on many of your morals and principles and can't thank you enough man. We're all here to help you through whatever you need just as you’ve done for many of us. I hope one day I could buy you a beer in thanks. It may be a shock to you but yes I do have feelings 😊 Sincerely Big Wholesome Boy Barnesy (Josh) 💕
The Biggest of Boys... Barnesy
2021-06-26 17:34:26 +0000 UTCHey Tyler I’m new here as a sweet vintage lad but have been a fan for years! Just wasn’t until now that I was able to pledge! I hope things are a little better this week and that the new job is going well! Just a quick topic for my first but what do you think of Ed’s new song and have you seen the video? Personally I’m loving it and finding it very catchy! Also man your trim is sick best hair out of the pillars mate! Keep on fighting man as Always!
Elliot
2021-06-25 08:11:06 +0000 UTC
