How To Know If She Wants To Meet You (Again)

This message is for men, however this message can still apply the same for girls and women.

It's just that men experience this FAR MORE than girls/women do.

It's really common for guys to get mixed up trying to figure out if a girl/woman is interested in seeing them again. 

Especially if she's still chatting with you and replying quickly, but somehow, she's never available whenever you suggest hanging out. 

She seems interested, but then there's always an excuse when it comes to making plans.

Understand This: 

Fuck all of those techniques and strategies you see online to 'make a girl/woman like you' 

The best way to judge a girl's/woman's level of interest in you is by how available she makes herself for you when you want to meet up with her.

What's the point of all the techniques, speeches, one liners, her replying fast, laughing at your texts, just for her to start acting flakey when you suggest it is time to meet up?

A girl/woman who is interested, will find a way to meet you, no matter how jam packed her schedule is.

If a girl/woman is into you and genuinely wants to meet up (again), she won't just shoot down or ignore your plans without offering an alternative. 

If she's busy and can't meet on the day you suggest, she'll say something like,

"Oh, I'm sorry, I can't make it that day, but what about some other time? Maybe next week?" 

She'll help set up another day. If she's really interested in seeing you, she'll make sure to lock in a specific day, time, and place to meet. That's a clear sign she wants to spend time with you.

As a guy, you must understand that girls/women are none-confrontational and don't really have it in them to turn a guy down in a cold way, especially if you have not been bad to them. 

Very few women who are not interested will say "Sorry, I don't want to meet you again"

If she's just trying to be polite and isn't really interested in meeting up, you'll notice she will text you back, like your pics but she never seems able to commit to any plans that you suggest. 

When you attempt to set a specific time, she'll give you the run-around with, 

"Oh, I'm not sure of my schedule. I'll have to get back to you." 

Or she'll start to take super long to respond. They do this hoping you eventually get the point.

And then you'll probably never hear from her again. 

Here Is What To Do

What you're going to do is give her a chance to either do what she said she would, like getting back to you, or not. If she doesn't get back to you, it's clear she didn't care enough. 

No-one forgets about things they care about.

If you had the winning numbers to the lottery ticket to give her, do you reckon she would forget or delay in getting back to you?

Listen, she wasn't really interested in seeing you or making plans. So, when you give her space, you're making it super easy for her to decide if she wants to be with you and put in the effort. 

The best girls/women are the ones who are enthusiastic in meeting you. Not the ones where it feels like you had to kind of convince her to see you... or where she is just coming because she had nothing better to do and you're offering a nice date night.

People get busy, that's totally OK, so If she's busy but still wants to see you, she'll suggest a different day or time. 

If she's not interested, she'll just leave things hanging. 

When she says she can't make it and you respond with, 

'Alright, no problem. We'll figure out another time,' 

You're leaving the door open for her to show what she really wants.

Me?

I personally ask women out one time (2 times if they're a super baddie) and if they happen to be busy and don't offer an alternative, I will probably never ask them out again, unless they came to me and suggested we link up. 

Don't get it twisted, I will still be nice to them, i will still entertain conversation etc.... I just wouldn't ask them out.... unless they bring it up. 

Get it? Good.

The reason I can do this is because:

• I have leverage
• I'm not lacking for options
• I have purpose (I would get the same joy from going to the gym or staying at home saving money and doing some work) 
• I have an abundance mindset (I know there is lots of other girls who would love to meet me)

However if you are not in a similar position, I would recommend asking her 3-4 times maximum as she may be in a different headspace in a few weeks time.

Ask her once every week, or week and a half.

The excuses she gives might seem reasonable and perfectly logical at first, but the truth is, she's just not willing to make the time for you. That's the real indicator of her interest. If she makes the effort to see you, great. If she keeps feeding you excuses, then you've got your answer.

It's okay to pursue and show interest but you should never chase someone who does not want to be caught and if you start always asking (more than 3 times) it can comes across as begging and you will probably become annoying to her.

She will start getting pissed off when she see's your name pop up in her notification.

It's similar to when you receiving sales calls from annoying companies who keep on asking to donate money even though you said no for the past 5 times.

Summary

The ultimate way to know a girl's/woman's level of interest is by how available to she makes herself for you when you want to meet up.

Ask her out 3-4 times as she genuinely could be going through a lot (work, school, family) and she could be in a different headspace in a few weeks. 

If she ALWAYS seem to have something coming up and doesn't find a way to make plans, she is not into you. 

Don't start being the guy asking her every week to meet if she hasn’t tried to make plans, it will annoy her because then it will seem as if you're not getting the point and remember, most women are not confrontational.

So it will just lead to her not responding or leaving you on 'READ' and this can lower your self esteem.

Don't let it confuse and stress you out further, there are tons of girls/women who would love to meet you, she is not the only one on this planet. 

Move on.

Let me know if you have any questions.

- Till Next time