Ladies, Here's What It *REALLY* Means When A Guy Say's "Let's See How Things Go"

It sounds chill and no big deal when a guy starts off a relationship like this, but what's he actually trying to say?

After hanging around waiting for him to make a move, you've had enough and decide to ask him about being official or taking things further (marriage) You go into this chat thinking it'll turn out well. 

Maybe he'll want you to be his girlfriend on the spot, or he might say he's been wanting to ask you the same thing. 

No matter the small details, you're pretty sure you'll end this talk as an official couple or moving ahead with marriage plans, happy and head over heels.........

.........Just to find out he’s not nearly as enthusiastic about it as he pretended to be.

He doesn't seem as happy, excited or enthusiastic about the idea of being together as you thought. 

Instead of agreeing to be your boyfriend or talking about marriage and only dating YOU, he takes his time, hesitates, and then says, "Let's just see where this goes."

The BIG Mistake Women Make 

When a guy says, "Let's just see where it goes," a lot of women, especially if they really like him, tend to think it's not a big deal. 

They think maybe he just doesn't want to rush and put a label on it right away. You don't want to be annoying so to avoiding coming across like you want to push too hard and risk losing him, so you tell yourself to be patient.

And unfortunately, this is what leads to women wasting YEARS of their dating years with a guy who does not have any long term or serious intentions on her. 

As a woman, it's CRUCIAL to set a deadline. If things aren't official or moving towards marriage (if thats what you want) by a certain time, it's time to move on. THIS IS A NON-NEGOTIABLE. 

Otherwise, you'll keep getting led on with empty promises and false hope because you enjoy his company and 🍆

Here's What It REALLY Means

He's already made up his mind about what's going to happen and where things are headed. 

He's figured out if he sees you as a long-term partner or just a short-term thing. And if he's serious about you for the long term, he wouldn't say those words.

"Let's just see where this goes" is a vague and non-committal phrase. 

It lets a guy have the benefits of a relationship with you while still keeping his options open in the dating world. 

He doesn't have to change anything he's doing. This gives him more time but doesn't offer you anything valuable in return. He enjoys the best of both worlds, while you're left guessing and hoping he'll eventually commit.

A man who truly wants to be with you will make it clear and tell you exactly what his plans are with you. You will not be confused.

If a guy  wants you, he won't delay, play around, or leave you wondering. He won't risk the chance of another guy (or girl) grabbing your attention. You'll be sure he's into you because his actions will clearly show it.

Let's see where things go = It’ll never be you, and I’m entertaining you until someone I like more comes around.

This tactic lets him easily avoid taking responsibility for leading you on and the result, which is you developing strong feelings for him.

He'll defend himself by saying, "Don't blame me. I told you upfront. I never said I'd be your boyfriend. I didn’t make any promises to you."

What Should You Do If a Guy Says This to You?

Step back from this relationship, because chances are it's not going to develop into something stable and long-term. 

A man who's just into 'seeing where things go' isn't cut out to be a serious boyfriend. Don't waste your time trying to change his mind. Walk away with your head held high. Save your affection for someone who won’t waste your time, someone who doesn't keep you hanging, and is SURE about wanting to be with you.

Final Thoughts

When a guy says, "Let's just see where this goes," it might seem harmless, but it's usually a warning sign. Sure, there might be some exceptions, but most of the time, it means he's not planning on a serious relationship with you. 

He's likely keeping you as an option. 

It's tough to walk away when you have feelings, but more often than not, it's better for you to leave that situation and not having your time wasted.

- Till Next Time