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Understanding Mental Erectile Dysfunction: How to Overcome the Negative Effects of Mental Erectile Dysfunction

Added 2023-02-07 18:49:12 +0000 UTC

Mental erectile dysfunction, is a condition that can have a major negative impact on a person’s sex life and overall sense of self-worth.

It can be incredibly difficult to overcome and can lead to a variety of mental health issues if not managed properly.

What is Mental ED?

Mental ED (erectile dysfunction) is a condition in which a guy will experience an inability to attain or maintain an erection when having sex.

Mental erectile dysfunction is NOT a real medical condition, but it's common for people with anxiety, over thinkers and guys going through depression to experience problems getting hard.

Mental ED can be really frustrating and embarrassing for those who suffer from it, and can significantly detract from a person’s quality of life.

Causes of Mental ED

The cause of mental ED can vary from person to person, but there are a few common factors that can contribute to the condition.

Performance anxiety is one of the most common causes of mental ED, and is often linked to a fear of not being able to perform sexually.

These are some of the thoughts that may run through your mind when experiencing this

- What if she thinks it's small and tells the group chat...

- Why can't I get hard when I need to get hard!!

- Fuck, what if I don't even last 5 minutes, what will she think of me?

- Fuck, this is it, I can't get hard. She will never talk to me again :(

A high amount of destress and depression can also be contributing factors, as can physical conditions such as diabetes and cardiovascular diseases.

In some cases, mental ED can be caused by substance abuse, such as alcohol or drugs.

If you are with a girl, try not to drink any alcohol. Alcohol is a diuretic, meaning that it causes a person to pee more frequently than usual and can result in dehydration.

Dehydration decreases the amount of blood in the body, also decreasing blood flow to the D and making it more difficult to get and maintain an erection.

The risk for long term erectile dysfunction has also been linked to chronic heavy use of alcohol

Smoking can damage the blood circulatory system, making it harder for blood to reach the D and get/maintain an erection.

Understanding Performance Anxiety: She is probably more nervous than you are

For women who respect their bodies, sex is a very vulnerable act for them, (especially if it's their first time doing it with you) so believe it or not, they have more performance anxiety than you do.

What women are thinking (when it's there first time with you)

- Is he gonna think my 🐱 is trash?

- I'm bad at sex

- What's he going to think off all of my rolls? (body image issues)

- What if he licks it and he thinks it stinks?

- It's my first time, I hope I don't disappoint him

You might be surprised to learn that she's more nervous than you, even though she has had sex before. She may have had bad experiences.

Maybe she thinks that because it's happening in a public place (like a car), it'll make things less personal and more impersonal.

If this is the case for your girl and her reasons for not wanting to have sex with you are valid ones (such as safety concerns), then respect her wishes and don't pressure her into doing something that makes her uncomfortable.

Performance anxiety is one of the most common causes of mental ED, and it is a fear of not being able to perform well sexually.

You feel nervous about what she’s expecting and what she’ll think of your performance.

You feel tons of pressure to do everything perfectly, and blow her mind from the very first moment.

This can lead a guy becoming more anxious before sex happens, which can lead to difficulty attaining or maintaining an erection.

Being overly self-conscious about your body is a common fear

Being overly self-conscious about your body is a common fear.

It's easy to feel that everyone else is more attractive than you or if your dick size will match her expectations and that your partner will leave you for someone better looking.

Mental erectile dysfunction can cause the brain to become fixated on these fears, which can make it hard for you to perform sexually.

If this happens, try not focusing on how others perceive your body or what they might think of you when they see it naked.

Instead, focus on pleasing yourself and communicating openly with your partner so that they know exactly what makes them feel good (and vice versa).

Besides, if they were never sexually into you like that, they wouldn't be chilling on a bed with you.

Perfectionism can be a problem in the bedroom.

If you're a perfectionist, you might think about sex as something that must be done perfectly or not at all.

This can lead to mental erectile dysfunction and sexual problems that are rooted in fear and anxiety rather than physical issues.

Perfectionists tend to have high expectations for themselves and others, they want everything done right away and they don't tolerate mistakes well.

They may also feel ashamed of their bodies because they aren't perfect or don't look like someone else's idea of "perfect."

These feelings can make it difficult for them to relax enough during sex so they can enjoy themselves fully.

You don't have to wow her with all these spectacular porn video type of moves.

All you need are 3 good positions you can rotate between.

Pick 2 positions of your choice and let her pick 1 for her.

Rotate between those positions.

Overthinking

Performance anxiety is when you worry so much about how you'll perform that it actually impairs your ability to perform. You may even start to doubt that you can get an erection at all, which leads to a vicious cycle of self-doubt and low confidence.

What To Do...

1. DON’T RUSH!!!

A lot of guys make themselves unnecessarily anxious because they rush to be intimate with a new woman as quickly as possible.

A lot of this comes back to socialisation: Guys are taught to think they need to seal the deal as quickly as possible.

I say “unnecessarily” because there’s really no reason to rush yourself. If a woman is interested in being intimate with you, she’s not going to automatically change her mind simply because you’re taking your time.

If anything, not feeling like you’re in a rush to get into her pants will feel like a breath of fresh air to her.

2. FOCUS ON FOREPLAY!!!

Taking your time doesn’t have to be boring.

So many men get into an all-or-nothing mentality around sex.

They either aim for intercourse or they don't even bother.

But again, all of that rushing only serves to make your anxiety worse.

Instead, you can calm your nerves by spending a more time on foreplay.

Don’t even worry about intercourse. Focusing on foreplay will give you a chance to better know her and her body, which will give you a major boost of confidence.

Also, you’re much more likely to help her reach an orgasm with your fingers than you are with your D during intercourse.

I have never met a woman who complains about "too much" foreplay, it's usually the other way around.

Focus on foreplay
Take your time
Don't rush it
When you get hard, go for it

If you don't get hard, play it cool and act as if you don't wana F**k, (this will drive her crazy in a good way)

Don't do this too often tho, because it can make her feel rejected and hurtful feelings can build up towards you until they're no longer able to have an intimate relationship with you

Finally, get fit.

Make sure to be exercising consistently and minimising destress.

You need to be training legs more and doing more cardiovascular exercises.

My favourite lower body exercises are hip thrusts and hack squats. These exercises engage the "pelvic floor muscles" which are what's responsible for having and maintaining strong erections.

https://www.healthymale.org.au/news/male-pelvic-floor-muscles-erectile-dysfunction

Do not forget your cardio, this is required to promote healthy blood circulation through the entire body, without proper blood circulation, blood will not be able to pump down there in order to get an erection, let alone to maintain one.

You also need to drastically reduce the amount of alcohol and smoking you consume.

Of course, make sure to get a good amount of rest every night too. Being exhausted can have an effect on ED too.