Leaving Old Friends Behind...

Instead of being supportive of her goals and dreams, her friend is doing everything she can to sandbag her goals and dreams.

So now she’s thinking, “Why would somebody who’s so close to me that’s supposed to be a friend do this?”

Guys,

Often times when you start pursuing your goals and dreams you’re going to encounter resistance usually in your inner circle and people that are closest to you - and there is a reason for that.

When you decide to grow beyond your current peer group, people in your life are going to notice that. which leads to them feeling like they’re losing you and they’re going to want to hold you back and keep you where are you’re at.

And other people, just are not going to like the fact that you’re going for things that you want and they’re not.

The most important thing you can do is to take care of you and your actions because people are going to question you.

And then the haters, the people that are just too weak, they’ll just continue to hate more and become such a problem that you just simply will spend less and less time with them.

I think it makes people very defensive when you try to improve yourself.

There you are, with the energy of motivation, goals and a good attitude.

And there they are, still complacent, not getting what they want out of life and perhaps a bit jealous.

So what do they do?

They try to bring you back down to where you you used to be.

That's just not acceptable.

This is the experience of a lot of people.

And so, part of the problem, when you have somebody that’s supposedly a friend that’s kind of sandbagging you, they will reinforce staying mediocre and playing it small.

If you’re trying to kind of escape from that environment and better yourself and you’re surrounded by everybody that’s kind of made the choice to be be average or mediocre, they’re going to hold you back, and they’ll try to talk you into staying average and continuing to do what you do.

Get rid of the "I have to bring up my friends with me" mentality, It's ultimately their decision if they wana level up or not.

Because if you stay at the same level as they are then you validate their life choices, you validate their belief systems.

But like I said, the more you stretch beyond your current peer group, you’ll see that there’s really probably only a handful of people that really support you

So you’ve got to do what’s best for you……FIRST.

And that’s why when you choose to do something, you’re excited about it….

What if 95% or even 100% of the people who are closest to you are like, “Oh, that’s a dumb idea. You shouldn’t do that.” ? 

If you’re full of doubt and you’re not really into it, you’ll doubt yourself more and you’ll eventually quit.

Whereas, if you have a fire in your belly, if you have something inside that’s is driving you to go and experience this new life, this new city, this new job, whatever it happens to be, that fire that you have within you is what you need to ignore the haters and the doubters and the people that are going to try to hold you back you, and continue persisting anyway.

When you resolve to pursue your dreams so you can reach your full potential, you often encounter resistance, criticism and sometimes hostility from those closest to you.

Why?

Most people are living mediocre lives of quiet desperation as they major in minor things. 

Therefore, when you choose to go for what you really want, you are a reflection and reminder of how they are playing small and living a life that is less than they are capable of living.

They will often resent this and try to sabotage you, so you change your mind and return to playing small like they are, thus, validating their mediocre life choices.

Lead by example…..

Some will be inspired to follow your example, but many will fall by the wayside and be left behind, because they are too weak to keep up.

Other people’s weaknesses, flaws and shortcomings are not your fault, responsibility or problem.