(ARTICLE) 6 Ways Women Behave Which They Mistakenly Believe Will Attract Men

…but repels them instead.

Both sexes do stupid things to be more attractive, but as a man who’s spent a few years of his life dating women, I’ve experienced a whole bag of misguided female behaviours.

This doesn’t mean there’s a one-size-fits-all approach to attraction.

This also doesn’t mean women only do these things for men. But sometimes, the social pressure from misguided standards gets too big.

Here’s a list of 6 behaviours women mistakenly believe make them attractive — and you need to shed if you want genuine, quality and mature men attracted to you.

1. Not Showing Interest and Playing Hard to Get

This strategy works but it attracts the wrong type of guys.

This is the oldest myth in the book. Women are supposed to act disinterested because men like “the hunt.”

I’m a man. I know lots of men. I talk to lots of men.

Yet, I haven’t met a single guy who told me:

“Man, I wish it was harder to get women attracted to you.”

Here’s what happens when you act like this on purpose.

You get a bunch of needy guys chasing you or a few self-proclaimed womanisers who are just in it for the sport.

The needy ones don’t have options and eagerly await your attention.

The Casanovas usually drop you like a hot potato once they got what they wanted.

If you’re looking for a genuine, mature man, you’re digging yourself a hole by behaving this way.

High-value men have options. If you cold-shoulder them, other women greet them with warmth and interest.

Don’t be cold-hearted and unapproachable.

Do what feels natural, without selling yourself out or playing hard to get.

2. Worrying Too Much About Appearance

Us men are incredibly visual, especially when it comes to dating.

Women’s looks are what men talk about most.

They’re what society cares about most, especially in the days of Instagram, Facetune, photoshop, and high-definition TVs.

Yes, there are men who only like good-looking women.

There are also women who enjoy being good-looking — not for men, but for themselves.

But when looks are all you care about, it gets boring and annoying, regardless of your gender.

Any human being is so much more than their looks. If you reduce yourself to looks only, it’s all people around you will see.

Don’t be afraid to put effort into your appearance if that makes you happy and feel good. But don’t forget you’re much more than just your looks.

3. Having to Be Saved and Looked After All the Time

This doesn’t only hold for women, but men alike.

Nobody wants a baby stuck in an adult body.

If you need support, don’t be afraid to communicate it.

But acting like you don’t have your shit together doesn’t make you more attractive to a man who does.

4. Acting like You Have Tons of Men Interested in You

The Roman Poet Ovid said:

“A horse never runs so fast as when he has other horses to catch up and outpace.”

I don’t know about dating in ancient Rome, but today’s men aren’t horses.

Most men have very fragile egos, and this results in all sorts of funny behaviour. If you bluntly tell a man you’ve got others waiting at your doorstep, one of two things will happen.

1. His ego wants to protect him from “losing” the battle, so he’ll come up with a reason why he isn’t that interested in you anyway, like not wanting a woman who’s involved with other men.

He doesn’t try and withdraws, a concept known as self-handicapping in psychology. Attraction plummets.

2. His ego pushes him to prove he is the best of the bunch, so he tries extra hard. Unfortunately, this isn’t so much real attraction as a need for validation. As soon as he gets it, his ego is satisfied, and he loses interest.

This doesn’t mean you should tell him he’s the only one you think about if it isn’t true. But be subtle about the competition. If you’re a woman of value, most men will know they aren’t the only ones messaging you, and there’s nothing wrong with it. Just don’t rub it in their face.

5. Saying Yes, Being Obedient, and Fulfilling His Every Wish

Most men like to be dominant and lead while most women like to be courted and taken by the hand.

However, this doesn’t mean you should agree to everything and succumb just because it appeals to his primal instincts.

Men hate drama, but what we want even less is a woman who’s got no own opinion and says yes to our every word.

It feels great in the beginning but gets boring quickly.

If you’re a woman and like to be led by a man that doesn’t mean your desires are inferior. Good leadership means responsibility for the one led and needs honest communication.

In the long run, a (quality) man will always be more attracted to a woman he can meet at eye level.

6. Complaining About Men to Show You’re a “Strong and Independent” Woman

People don’t like to be stereotyped and judged. Big surprise, I know.

Yet, lots of men and women do exactly that.

Men complain women are all the same and only want free food and attention, for which they’ll lead you on and trick you into relationships.

Women complain men are all the same and only want sex, for which they’ll make you compliments, buy you food, and pretend they love you.

It must be frustrating to run into the same guys again and again, but as the saying goes:

If it smells like shit everywhere you go, it’s time to look under your own shoe.

Your behaviour and mindset act as a filter.

There are many men out there who are shit, just as there are tons of genuine gentlemen.

But if you keep complaining and judging, the latter will avoid you.