(ARTICLE) Talking To One Woman A Day: It's A Numbers Game

Most men would ideally prefer to deal with women who rank as a 7,8, or 9.

However most men also just stay indoors all day swiping left on dating apps. What you have to understand is that, majority of women who are of that level are not on dating apps, nor will there be even be a high chance of them responding to your DM.

For online dating to REALLY work for you, you'd need to have an amazing profile which displays an interesting lifestyle. It's got nothing to do with the amount of followers you have or if you have a blue tick or not.

Here is an article I wrote that breaks down how to do this: https://www.patreon.com/posts/49610622

If you want to have an active dating and/or sex life, you have to get enough approaches for the numbers to work.

Because even if you’re very good, 40-50% of the girls you approach won’t give you a number.

Of those who do, another 50-60% will flake out or ghost you.

Some girls will have boyfriends/husbands

Some girls are not into men

Some girls aren't into your physical appearance.

The average guy will MAYBE speak to 1 woman a month.

If you speak to one woman a day whilst you are out going about your life, then that's approximately 28 - 30 new women a month.....and 300+ women a year. 

And about 50-75% of those who text back and seem interested will actually come out on a date.

That means if you approach 20 girls in a week, you’ll get probably 8-10 numbers, 3-5 will respond, and then you end up with 1-3 who actually want to go out on a date.

The great thing about speaking to women in REAL LIFE is that you chose them, not the other way around. 

On dating apps, girls are the gatekeeper–if she doesn’t find you attractive, she’s not swiping on you, which means that for most guys you’re not going to match with women who are all that attractive.

So yeah, the numbers seems shitty–but that’s 1-3 new girls every week who are hot enough that you decided to approach in real life.

So why is it a numbers game? 

Because there are any number of reasons she might not give you her number, ghost, flake, etc:

• Maybe she has a boyfriend or husband? Most hot girls have at least someone around they can bang or who wants to bang them, and that guy for sure has a leg up on the player in terms of comfort, if not also value.

• Could be the wrong time of the month–maybe she’s in that part of her cycle where she’s looking for more sucker-type behaviour.

• You might not be her type. Maybe she likes black guys and you’re white, or vice versa, or she like big guys, or skinny guys, or artistic hipster type guys, or clean cut preppy types.

• She also might be in a super busy cycle of her life with work or school or both. Maybe she’s a single mum.

• And any number of other weird circumstances could apply–she just broke up with her boyfriend, she just had a date last night with someone she likes, she met someone else, she’s just downloaded Tinder and is busy swiping away, she’s questioning her sexuality, etc.

The fact is, all the above factors transcend just about everything under the your control–no matter how fucking strong your game is, how alpha you are, how high your SMV is, there are circumstances in a girl’s life that will make her a no girl for you. And this is further exaggerated by the fact that young, hot women live in a state of abundance where it’s easy for them to get lost in all the attention they’re getting on social media and dating apps. not to mention the fact that women are super flaky to begin with.

However, the fact remains that outside of a strong social circle, the best possible way to present your value as a man is through approaching a woman in a respectful, but flirty way with strong game. If you do it right she knows everything a girl needs to know to want to fuck a guy.

You’re an alpha–a confident man who’s socially calibrated and outcome independent, dominant, and abundant. This means you’re more likely to be fun, interesting, and good in bed.

Yes you read that right.

When you do cold approach correctly, you will come across as abundant. Because when the girl starts hamstering, she knows that a guy who has the sort of confidence and social skill to get her number off the street gets other chicks, or already has other chicks which is why he DGAF.

Till Next Time.