(ARTICLE) Who Should Pay On A Date – Men Or Women?

This post is mainly aimed at women but guys can read too.

Ladies,

Whether you believe in chivalry or not, you have to admit: it feels nice when the man you’re attracted to treats you to a cinema date, a meal, or an ice cream.

It signals that he is attracted to you, that he appreciates you, and wants to impress you. It makes you feel special.

Women are “equal” to men now, and they’re more than capable of paying for their way.

They also have tons of ways to meet men, from social media to dating apps to the workplace.

With that being said, should women still expect men to pay on dates?

The short answer is: yes.

The correct dating etiquette is whoever initiated the date should pay.

It’s similar to inviting a friend over for dinner.

Would you expect your friend to bring the ingredients for you?

No.

You’re the host, so you supply the dining experience.

Should your friend offer to bring something as a gift?

Sure, it’s polite, and it shows they have manners, but you don’t expect them to.

Another example is if you invite a client out for lunch, would you expect your client to pay for half of the bill?

Of course not, that’s insane. Whoever does the inviting always covers the bill. It’s basic common courtesy.

So if a man asks you out on a date, he should pay.

Whether he plans a walk in the park and you stop for ice cream or he books dinner at a fancy restaurant, he should offer to pay.

You also have to remember that this is dating.

A man asks a woman out because he’s attracted to her and wants to get to know her.

He wants something from her.

He either wants:

a) a casual or serious relationship,

b) he wants to sleep with her.

Should a Woman Ever Offer To Pay?

Of course, you should. It’s polite.

It also shows you were brought up well and have manners.

Especially if you’re a few dates in. It’s polite to offer to pay for the tip or to get dessert. You’re not a freeloader.

If you like the guy and would like to get to know him more, you could initiate by offering to get the next date.

Can a Woman Ask a Man Out?

In my personal opinion, it’s not a good idea for a woman to ask a man out.

Firstly, it changes the dynamic entirely and turns the woman into the pursuer. There’s nothing wrong with being the pursuer, but you need to realise that the tone you set at the beginning will frame the rest of the relationship.

A woman should only HINT or SUGGEST about doing things together and he should have enough IQ to be able to pickup on the signs and make the decision.

If you’re the one who has to do all the asking out, it’s likely you will also have to pay for dates and take charge in other areas of the relationship.

Before you know it, you may be doing everything, and end up becoming a weird girlfriend/mother to him, which isn’t fun or attractive.

Some women enjoy being dominant and always in control, but many women feel frustrated and hurt in this type of dynamic.

In the long run, they burn out from having to do everything and end up resenting him for not being “man enough.”

Closing Thoughts

Men have always had to win women over throughout history, so women need to understand their worth and own it.

Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and allow men the opportunity to impress you and prove that they’re worthy of being with you.

Just make sure you’re a woman who’s also worthy.

Till next time.