EARLY ACCESS: Why Millennials and Gen Z Are Cutting Off Family and Friends
Added 2024-11-26 00:19:39 +0000 UTC
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This site is starting to feel like a scam. I’ve PM’d Amir telling him that I’m getting $7.00 removed from my bank account that I didn’t approve and there is no way to stop the charge from my account. I thought $10.63 a month should be enough. . This is the third video that I’m attempting to establish some sort of communication or interaction. I have especially wanted to touch base with the creator, Amir. I have messaged him directly and posted lengthy writings on two videos about going no contact and toxic families. . It seems like the gay community is a secret society. I have never found anyone willing to talk or answer questions. My own experience with gays and trans people in my family is that they fall off the grid. I guess it's not "no contact" if they never tell you anything. Churches are similar in that they form cliques and aren’t approachable unless you are accepted as a part of their relationships, friendships and ideology. What's the deal? . I thought this place would have open hearts or minds but it doesn’t appear so; not yet anyway. I needed help with my son, but maybe this isn't the place. Perhaps if I up my game I may get a response. Good luck to me.
Tracy
2024-12-05 03:45:06 +0000 UTCLet me start out by saying this site is the closest I’ve found to a balanced view for your subject matter. However, the format here isn’t really conducive for open discussions. You run the risk of creating a bubble. You elaborate on some very indisputable arguments, but there is too much repetition. You need more variety of thought. Ok I’ll say it, diversity. . I have questions and issues that aren’t dealt with anywhere. Again, this site is the closest, but if I am going to understand why my son has gone no contact with me, I will need to see my situation addressed instead of the stereotypical ones consistently talked about. I have no Idea what boundaries are. No one has ever said. Those that post about boundaries just suggest that they are very bad without explanation.. . My brother has screamed at my wife on Mother’s Day at our mother’s home and my mother said nothing. My other brother wrote letters to family and friends with lying gossip about us. All of my family relationships have been poisoned. I have evidence. I'm willing to write about many anecdotes. I stood up to them and now they won’t speak to me. It’s why I think that the people who are in the wrong go no contact. They fear the truth. If I have violated boundaries concerning my son’s standards, I don’t know what I did. As far as I know, my offense was that I have differing opinions. I expressed my opinions to my son, a 35 year old man after walking on eggshells since he was in high school. Please don’t roll your eyes when I say I’ve lived this part of my life beyond reproach. I’d challenge him to accuse me of anything but he is no contact. . What about the possibility that the LGBTQIA+ ideology creates such an affirming, friendly community that they brainwash people? I can see why people think that Trump creates a cultlike loyalty by his supporters. I see this when many of his followers can’t communicate why they follow his ideologies. They speak blather. I feel the same way about LGBTQIA+. They can’t tell me what I’m doing wrong. The lifestyle is secretive. They aren't a community as much as they are a commune. I will never know what my son has been told. It's not just. . My firm belief is that anyone who goes no contact should first answer all questions and address all issues in writing. Otherwise it's sus. (Did I use that right?) I have written quite a bit under the toxic families video if anyone is interested.
Tracy
2024-11-30 03:36:07 +0000 UTCTHIS. YES. So eloquently explained. Although the emotional wounds of the trauma still linger, I feel more healed after watching. Thank you❤️
Alissa
2024-11-28 19:03:09 +0000 UTCI'm not one to rant or talk about my trauma BUT I will say that this video resonated with me 10000000% I teared up. I respect you and appreciate you willing to talk about these kinds of things. <3
Marlon Guira
2024-11-27 23:06:44 +0000 UTCI felt that video clip where she was talking about that 'Eureka moment' so hard. That is exactly what happened to me after my mother and I had a huge argument. Something just clicked. She had abused me my entire life, and I realized she was never going to change. I decided to stop holding my breath for a mother I was never going to have. It hurts. I grieve - but I don't want my children to face the same things I had to. I want to break the cycle for myself and for them. I want to be free.
Deborah Browning
2024-11-27 02:54:38 +0000 UTC^This. I never had a lot of friends, and now that I finally made some - I feel stuck in this uncomfortable position myself.
Deborah Browning
2024-11-27 00:38:16 +0000 UTCI went from Liberal and clashing with my parents to independent to republican. not one time did i ever even consider cutting anyone out of my life for any reason. I saw a lot of people posting that they were cutting off all friends and family who voted for trump (2016) on facebook. (main reason i left facebook actually). when biden won, i didnt see any of my republican friends and family disconnect with anyone or threaten that like i did on the left. Absolutely ridiculously, especially coming from the all-inclusive club
Jennifer Michael
2024-11-26 20:02:52 +0000 UTCAnother great video, Amir, totally spot on. I'm a youngish Gen-X with virtually no family ties ever since I was 18. Wish family things were different, but I guess it just wasn't in the cards for me. I considered myself lucky to have good friends and make them my family instead. Now tho in our current political "climate" it feels as if I'm often treading on thin ice with friends. I find myself self-censoring around them out of a latent fear of being cut off (they are all very left-leaning). Although I've always been rather straightforward and unashamed to speak my mind, I often keep my mouth shut nowadays and I hate it. One could argue that I should just get new friends. But it's so incredibly difficult to find new friends after you hit middle age and thus the fear of being "banished" is all too real. Ugh.
Tidymalism
2024-11-26 17:28:15 +0000 UTCGreat video and topic! As a proud "geriatric"millennial and mom of 4, I have learned 1. Setting boundaries with family members has made the no contact and cutting off way easier...they just naturally fall off cuz I no longer put up with ish. 2. It has opened my eyes to examine my own parenting style and work to have a meaningful relationship with my kids. I don't want them sitting in a therapy chair talking about how I traumatized them. If you know better, do better. And that's what I'm doing 🙂
LexyMay
2024-11-26 15:05:50 +0000 UTCI'm Gen X and cut off my family for years. Best decision ever. We're in contact again but that was after years of therapy on their part and me setting very strong boundaries and not bending on those boundaries. We don't owe our happiness and well-being to anyone. Your comments on how our bodies respond to our thoughts are so true!!! I felt that on so many levels. When I got away from negative people I got sick less and less often. It's crazy how much our mind and body are so connected.
Melanie and Drew Phoenix
2024-11-26 13:25:04 +0000 UTCAs someone who is Gen X, there are many of us who cut off our own family due to an entire childhood full of abuse and neglect. Many of us can completely understand Millennials and Gen Z because we chose to do the same after a lifetime of dealing with that abuse. Many Gen X may not have cut off exactly at 18, but along the way in our adult life, we decided that it was ok to cut off family and others in our lives who were toxic and/or abusive. I always said I wouldn't do the same to my kids that was done to me, and I followed through with it. However, too many Gen X also just fell into the same trap as all the previous generations even though they said they never would do XYZ when they have kids. Cutting off family/friends because their politics don't perfectly align with yours, you are definitely the problem. Another good topic for you to cover would be the reverse that I see also being more prevalent now versus previous generations; parents cutting off their Millennial and/or Gen Z kids.
Alyare Morgan
2024-11-26 02:59:46 +0000 UTCYes, i knew this as well. To add upon what you said though, I believe it's a little more dependent on whether or not an individual has a nontraditional belief. I find from personal experience that pagans in particular and people who don't jive with the Christian and catholic faiths put more stock into the covenant and water of the womb parts. It's been my understanding that similar to Christmas, the phrase was adopted and changed by established religion.
Chris Cummings
2024-11-26 01:52:31 +0000 UTCi just want you to know that this comment resulted in me doing a 15min deep dive into the origins of "blood is thicker than water" JUST so you know, the "blood of the covenant" line has no historically accurate source, (not one that can be found), and most likely is a modern reinterpretation of "blood is thicker than water". HOWEVER, the idea/ideals of putting chosen bonds above familial ties (which 'blood of the covenant' references) does predate "blood is thicker than water", even being referenced in the bible and some ancient theology. i hope this was actually interesting for you and i didn't just waste 10 minutes writing this lol
milk
2024-11-26 01:37:34 +0000 UTCIm sorry, i really have to point this out every time I hear someone bring it up because my mom would use it as a way of manipulation. The saying "Blood is thicker than water" is incomplete. The actual phrase is "blood of the covenant is thicker than water of the womb" The essential message behind this phrase is that the relationships you choose are stronger than the relationships you are born with.
Chris Cummings
2024-11-26 01:11:12 +0000 UTCyeah i basically just don't tell people what i'm doing in life anymore, i find it's the easiest way to keep people out of your business while still maintaining a relationship
milk
2024-11-26 00:55:51 +0000 UTCI am from Generation X. If my political views are a deal breaker for someone I'm not going to be offended, I'm not going to try to chase them to get them back, and if someone cuts me off then they have cut off the possibility of changing my mind. I will go on with my life and let other people go on with theirs. We are an entire generation of people who stood for ourselves very young and aren't going to change that because someone might get offended.
Mark F. Crist
2024-11-26 00:52:31 +0000 UTCFrom my experience, friends aren't real. Your family will stick by you through thick and thin, but friends will ditch you over an Instagram post. (Your experience may vary, this is just my experience.)
Cameron Mitchell
2024-11-26 00:41:49 +0000 UTCI'm sorry you're dealing with this. It's so unfortunate how divisive people have become over politics it's ridiculous. Let alone the sheer disrepsect.
Amir Odom
2024-11-26 00:41:08 +0000 UTCI agree! I almost wanna no contact the "no contact" people. lol
Amanda M
2024-11-26 00:40:18 +0000 UTCman this year has been a wild learning curve for me. i've learned a lot about how shitty my family is, i could write an essay on it. i'm not so extreme as to go "no-contact" (although ngl i got pretty close to that point a few months ago), but i've had to learn a lot to realize when someone in my family is using me. it's been a hell of a journey
milk
2024-11-26 00:24:33 +0000 UTC
