November Bonus Story #1 - Audio
Added 2023-11-04 23:40:22 +0000 UTCJoin Lauren and I for this story about a mom who can't leave her baby behind and the other friends have had it. It feels a little similar to the kid throwing up on the $5,000 couch story but I mean that lady had more of a reason to say no kids.. hmm thoughts on this one? For those that have kids, is this something you've dealt with with friends?
Comments
Honestly this episode made me want to scream. My kid was the most difficult baby ever. There is not a world where she would have ever just fallen asleep on her own without endless amounts of rocking or bouncing up and down and being in a baby carrier in a dark room with no sound. Not everybody's baby can just be passed around and fall asleep on people's shoulders. Also, pumping and dumping is outdated information. If you can find your baby you can feed your baby.
John Watson
2024-05-11 13:51:12 +0000 UTCI don’t think they’re assholes. It doesn’t sound like they NEVER want the baby around. Just not all the time. And if mama doesn’t want to leave baby with someone else, then it makes sense that they’re tired of being told they aren’t allowed to drink and have to be quiet
Beccah Lynn
2023-11-11 23:54:51 +0000 UTCHonor the purpose of the meetup is the PERFECT sentiment for this!
Kara
2023-11-11 16:18:15 +0000 UTCAlso, I pray OP and these “friends” have their own village and not ditched by their “friends” because babies aren’t fun.
Shannon Kula
2023-11-07 20:32:23 +0000 UTCHmmm they are ass holes for leaving her out. OP sounds like they are being dramatic. If my friends child was crying out at a restaurant and we were getting stares I would stare right back and ask if they have a problem… maybe that’s just the NY in me 🤷♀️ They could be adult and good friends and lay it out- “hey we are going on a staycation, there will be drinking, noise and late nights”- she may just decide on her own without the “accommodations” for the baby that she doesn’t want to go? If you are not a mother, you do not understand the anxiety of leaving your child- REGARDLESS of being able to leave them with a parent or partner. Also in my overall opinion these are just bad friends. My friends love my babies and have always seen them as humans deserving of time and space 🤣 I could never imagine my friends referring to my kids as “the baby”- also how long are “babies” actual “babies”? Do these people want a relationship with their friends child or no?
Shannon Kula
2023-11-07 20:22:51 +0000 UTCi’m a young mom (22) of a 10 month old. I can’t imagine ever trying to control people and their life for my child. They didn’t have the baby, I did. There’s things I miss out on and there’s things I get to go to with and without the baby. I’m the person that never wants my baby to be a stressor to others and i’m always worried about it (even though she’s a great baby) so I can’t even imagine having this mentality
Cassie White
2023-11-05 19:50:11 +0000 UTCI feel like they aren't even annoyed with the baby. They are annoyed with her controlling them. They can't drink and have to be quiet. Every hang out has to be sitting around and whispering no one wants that. She bring the baby when they tell her not to. She respects no boundaries and doesn't compromise at all. If anything she'll cause the resentment towards the baby by doing this!
Nia Violet
2023-11-05 16:17:06 +0000 UTCI totally agree. There need to be EQUAL effort on all ends. It's sad Anna has no one to help with the baby, but It's valid to want to do adult stuff. It's time for to leave Anna to be a mom if she can't have a life outside of it rn that's that.
Nia Violet
2023-11-05 16:07:10 +0000 UTCOof. Maybe this will sound harsh, but I feel like a lot of mothers think they’re extra special and everyone should accommodate them and do whatever they want just bc they have a kid. While friends should be thoughtful about their friends who are parents, it doesn’t mean that the parent friend gets to direct and bulldoze over everyone else. To me, a mom who insists on bringing her kid to a friends dinner when it’s totally possible to leave them with the other parent or a family member is the same as that friend who insists on bringing her bf to girls night. Honor the purpose of the meetup. If they knew she would bring the baby to a weekend getaway that’s supposed to be fun and relaxing, and it would ruin the vibe, they’re totally NTA for not inviting. She needs to be more considerate and aware that not everything revolves around her now just bc she has a child. She chose to become a parent and hence her lifestyle has to change — her friends didn’t choose that so she can’t force them to.
Cienna Tilgner
2023-11-05 09:11:20 +0000 UTC3 days?! omg.. You're so fast! I'm happy to have you here <3
Two Hot Takes
2023-11-05 00:15:18 +0000 UTCRuff to be the first to have a baby in the friend group… especially being in the 20-25yr range. They’re the first to experience the shift of priorities from themselves to their child and no one else can truly relate to being a new mother quite yet. But i think if OP had told mom about the event and said something like “we want to enjoy spending time with you without you having to worry about caring for baby- relax and take a load off for a night.” there would be no need to lie… lies don’t get you anywhere. A-hole for lying to new mommy, but not for being annoyed of baby. I’m sure mom gets annoyed of baby too lol
Amber Schultz
2023-11-05 00:04:27 +0000 UTCNew to the Patreon fam and I’ve caught up in 3 days- I may have a problem 😂 fav podcast hands down! Happy to be here 💛
Shelly Montgomery
2023-11-04 23:49:57 +0000 UTCThis is another good story for “Misleading titles” https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/s/Lau1exjKpq I believe it’s also on your subreddit
Zori Michaels
2023-11-04 23:48:00 +0000 UTCFirst comment 👀 so excited to listen!!
Emily Dourm
2023-11-04 23:41:35 +0000 UTC
