August Bonus Story #3 Ft. Chris Klemens
Added 2023-08-21 23:45:40 +0000 UTCTW**see below!
Chris Klemens is back and giving some takes! I held Chris captive for over 2.5 hours so I could make sure I got a story for Patreon for y'all, and this was a tough one!
TW* talks of miscarriage, stillbirth
Comments
I wish I could totally see what we are talking about
Amanda
2024-09-09 21:40:23 +0000 UTCTBH it’s NAH. Like it get, but it’s a little weird. And I’m sorry, but it’s not MIL wedding day. It’s her sons wedding day, not his siblings. The loss was for MIL and by extension her son, but he doesn’t seem to have to same feelings as she does about it. It doesn’t seem like he was even alive yet when she lost them. And I know I’d personally feel a little weird about my mom asking that of me, but I’m adopted and that changes things a little, though not much. I’d just hope people wouldn’t ask me about it, because “thanks for coming to my wedding! Oh those pictures? No, not us, they are of my siblings 👍🏽” just really does not roll off the tongue. Also, Chris is amazing! Have him back whenever you can!
kayk64
2023-08-29 23:04:41 +0000 UTC‘50K WHAT A DEAL!’ 🤣
Tayler Hammond
2023-08-25 02:40:56 +0000 UTCI love y’all’s energy podcasting together ❤️❤️❤️❤️ was laughing out loud with y’all
Emma Streitenberger
2023-08-24 23:16:25 +0000 UTCI LOVE Chris!! Can't wait for him to come back again. I've been watching him on YT for years so I love this crossover <33
Camryn Garrett
2023-08-24 22:51:42 +0000 UTCThe photos can be somewhere else....the MIL could get a locket with there photos and have it be wore by someone. My biggest thing is that it's something the fiance doesn't care about, you feel me? Weren't we all on the "it's about the couple" train? I think this is creepy and MIL need therapy. The examples you used the COUPLE chose to do because they wanted to. If this was the MIL wedding sure! Not mine. This is not a funeral.
Nia Violet
2023-08-24 22:12:27 +0000 UTCLoved this bonus story!! Im on team Chris for cohost!!! 🥰 you two seem like your best friends the conversation flows so naturally, couldn't stop smiling listening to the podcast today!
Taylor Bonngard
2023-08-24 21:39:54 +0000 UTCI've had a stillbirth at 34 weeks and would never ever ask this of someone. They deserve their wedding day to be about them. The mom can carry a picture on her or something if she needs but I think she needs therapy.
Keri Flock
2023-08-24 17:43:35 +0000 UTCAbsolutely love Chris!!! His reactions are everything!😂
Perla Chavez
2023-08-24 15:09:51 +0000 UTCShe literally showed me this Facebook group like 2 weeks ago, same thing sperm donor guy trying to pay his way through med school
Jenna Heil
2023-08-24 14:47:23 +0000 UTCOMG I think one of my friends is a half sister in the new tht episode today
Jenna Heil
2023-08-24 14:46:56 +0000 UTCI love this podcast so much and Chris!!
Yvonne Acosta
2023-08-24 14:10:29 +0000 UTCI love Chris!!! Loved todays episode and this. I found her update. Disappointing for her 😭
Sammi
2023-08-24 14:07:06 +0000 UTCADD CHRIS TO THE COHOST ROTATION!!!
Cordelia Bell
2023-08-24 13:31:17 +0000 UTCYaaaaaayyyyy first thing Thursdays I jump on spotify to listen to the pod. I was so excited to see Chris back on today!! I definitely vote he's in the regular rotatation with Lauren, Alejandra and Justin!
T-Bahn
2023-08-24 12:51:53 +0000 UTCYou and Chris becoming besties… it may be the wine but FUCK. Y’all the the friends I knew I needed separately… but together ?!? Can I please be the 3rd wheel bestie
Erica Harmon
2023-08-24 05:54:21 +0000 UTCI’m someone who struggles with severe fear of infant loss that escalated when I was pregnant with my first. I have seen photos of stillborn children and have found it incredibly triggering. I don’t think the MIL is an asshole at all but I wouldn’t want the photos at my wedding either (OPs comment saying it’s gross is so wrong though, there is nothing wrong with photos of them and I think they are incredibly important for the families). I think the alternative suggestions are amazing and is what I would agree to, I thought having a plaque/flowers to represent them would be the way to go.
Autumn Christenson
2023-08-23 20:01:47 +0000 UTCI’m highkey way more focused on the prospect of cloning my dog 😂 how have I never heard of that???
Christy
2023-08-23 02:06:24 +0000 UTCSo glad you read the story I suggested! I loved your guy's reaction and was surprised you guy's came up with the same exact ideas my sister and I did. I can't wait to watch the video version! 💜
Natalie McCall
2023-08-23 00:54:45 +0000 UTCLoveeee Chris’s idea of the embroidery or necklace. I think do that either way as a sign of respect for your new mother in law. Or mom picking the photo up when she walks to her seat. Since she *does* have these photos at other events this is something clearly important to the mom, & honestly something OP should have anticipated. What would make this event any different for mom?
Shelby khan
2023-08-22 19:20:17 +0000 UTChell NAW I ain’t having no dead babies at my wedding 😂😭😂😭😂😂😂
L
2023-08-22 16:00:26 +0000 UTCAw thank you! ❤️ He is very much part of the family in a healthy way. For the first Mother's Day I made her a wooden wreath with all of her kids and grandkids names on it, including her son that passed and she has it hanging in her home. This year I made her another gift to hang on the wall that was a shadow box with a faux flower, and her fathers ashes on top of a resin piece with Amethyst and two palm sized hearts (one in the shadow box) of just his ashes in resin and one in a velvet bag so she can keep her dad close and hold it when she misses him. My sister in law had a custom pillow made for her on her birthday with all five of them of them on it. But it was the cartoon likeness of each of them, so for her son who died she made him the most handsome one on the pillow. They always talk about how smart and funny he would've been!
Clarissa Thompson
2023-08-22 15:31:37 +0000 UTCI got tears in my eyes reading this. ugh. Your outlook is such a breath of fresh air compared to the story
Two Hot Takes
2023-08-22 15:09:07 +0000 UTCI would say No assholes here, i get that the mom is coming from an emotional place but this wedding has nothing to do with those babies imo and the bride and groom are allowed to say no and have the day be just about them. I think the mom can have a locket or something with pictures if she really wants them there. I also think she needs therapy for her grief.
TK
2023-08-22 07:33:24 +0000 UTCMy mother in law had a son before my husband, and he died shortly after birth. She gave me two of his onesies for my daughter and a night light she painted while she was pregnant. She has a chest of things that were meant for him. I've been with my husband for four years, I gave birth to my daughter in the same hospital she gave birth to all five of her children in. Her son has a sign with his name on it in the hospital and I saw it after my daughter was born. She started a group for women in similar situations. Just this year I saw photos of him where my mother in law and father in law were holding him, he was wrapped in a blanket and looked like he was sleeping. I started crying in the hall when I saw it, because she had shelves specifically for photos of her kids, and the photos of her son who passed are the tiniest size in very old frames. I call my fiancé my husband but we have yet to get married, but when we do I think I will do something like leave a chair for him during the wedding next to her!
Clarissa Thompson
2023-08-22 02:11:15 +0000 UTCAwhh I love you guys hang in there!!
Two Hot Takes
2023-08-22 01:41:43 +0000 UTCThat just felt a bit too accurate for me and my life 🫣
Mady Mak
2023-08-22 01:29:57 +0000 UTCI agree with you! Super insensitive. I have been to many weddings where there was a tribute and mention of lost loved ones, and it’s obvious that this has affected his mother on a deep level and she should be more supportive and find a tasteful way to incorporate his siblings as well as maybe others that have passed that have meant something to both of them. Also think it’s real weird she was like “and he doesn’t eat vegetables til he met me” what did that have to do with anything 😂
Sammi
2023-08-22 01:21:36 +0000 UTCI love the suggestions from both of you! I personally was thinking it would be nice to have one seat reserved with their names and/or maybe a wreath of flowers or a bouquet. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to not want to reserve three seats for them tho. What gave me the ick is her talking about how it’s “gross and weird” to include them. The way she talks about her MIL’s losses like that is super insensitive. As someone who has experienced losses and had much of the same shame put on me (from a doctor no less), I hope OP never has to be on the receiving end of these types of comments
Courtney DC
2023-08-22 01:01:25 +0000 UTCMorgan keeping me fed while my life falls apart is so good 🙏🏼
Saylor Neely
2023-08-21 23:47:11 +0000 UTC
