PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Bad Words!
Added 2025-08-13 01:36:43 +0000 UTCIs it ever okay to say a slur? No. Is it ever necessary to say a slur? No. Is it ever constructive to say a slur? No. Buuuuut..... you're gonna have to hear me out.
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Flashbacks to my own laparoscopic appendectomy. Legit top surgery was a less painful recovery.
dev.l
2025-09-13 22:41:46 +0000 UTCNot sure what is permitted to type on here, but in the 2000's in my 20s, I was well known in my towns gaybar, and I was lovingly called "[towns name here]'s foster flag *without the L* hag. When I talk about it these days, some people outside of my generations young queer experience, clutch their pearls, and find it to be shocking. Usually people who are not in the LGBTQIA+ community.
Amanda Mango Cape
2025-08-26 22:41:02 +0000 UTCI love that you shared your experience. And yes can’t sing all those lyrics. It’s all about context.
Sarah Osborn
2025-08-17 19:15:03 +0000 UTCAustin I wanna tell you that I really appreciate your take. Especially as a biracial person who has had to show a side of me that I didnt want to because some white people around me got too comfortable. Or thought for some reason that because both my parents arent black I would be cool with shit like that. When In reality as a biracial person Im pissed cuz you are disparraging me and my family but Im also pissed cuz you are being a shitty white person keeping that shit alive instead of checking other white people on their racist bullshit. I its truely what you do when no one is watching that is important because that is your truest self. Also while Im happy you said this you are the first white person I have heard out loud articulate that you understand the w with a at the end or the hard er is also not good and way too close to the slur. Which is true because it is meant to be just that. Its was always this person I think is trying to act like a black person and I dont like that behavior because I dont like black people so lets call him a white n word. Thank you for just paying attention and taking time to not be someone that we are explaining shit to that google or a book could teach you. I truely appreciate you and all your content :)
Branden Cook
2025-08-16 07:14:12 +0000 UTCYou actually are agreeing with Zack’s take because he explicitly said “as a non-black person”, it would never be acceptable
Josefa Hernandez
2025-08-14 23:03:59 +0000 UTCI’m so glad I found your content. Every time you post, your empathy is apparent. America really sucks right now, and I need the reminder that there are still people with empathy out there. People like you are little candles in all this darkness. Thanks!
Mindy
2025-08-14 14:56:52 +0000 UTCI agree and relate! Although it’s more of a guy/brother love acknowledgement. But I appreciate when my black friends feel they can trust and include me, and I’m ok with whatever “that’s about.” My dark brown husband though plays around with the n word at home, esp after I told him he better not put ER at the end, but maaaaybe UH is a little better, but he’s not black. But at least he’s not white. I don’t like ever saying that word and I guess he thinks it’s funny to play around with how I respond to non-PC stuff.
Ashley Moon
2025-08-14 14:20:25 +0000 UTCNeed to channel your white hatrid at other groups but tired of getting TV deals with newsmax after? Do you want to hit that hard "r"? Need a new "minority" group to throw your soggy bread of a personality for fulfillment? May I introduce you to Clanker! That's right, the next time someone uses AI in conversation, call that fucker out for listening to goddamn clankers. We lost a lot of good men at Geonosis, Ryloth, and Umbara to those damn CLANKERS and I'll be damned if we let those tin-skinned sons of bitches take over our conversations. Help remember our clones, call an ai a Clanker today.
Ian Wilson
2025-08-14 08:03:50 +0000 UTCI have cringed *so hard* when watching a White drag performer lip-synch to lyrics featuring the N-word...
Tedward Sax
2025-08-13 20:54:53 +0000 UTCTotally agree! Nothing is more validating than being, as my black friends say, “a special white friend”! lol
AllTAllShade
2025-08-13 17:52:34 +0000 UTCSomething we've been discussing in the antiracism group I'm in is why we feel we want that recognition & validation from Black ppl. And how to be intentional about not chasing that. A big part of it comes down to us (white ppl) not having proper community with other white ppl - either bc we've distanced/othered ourselves from them (those are "bad" white ppl & I'm not like "them") or bc we never learned what community is supposed to look like in the first place. But Black ppl have a deep understanding of building & practicing community. I'm NOT saying that's what's happening for you bc obviously I'm just an internet stranger, but I think we should all be aware of that & be willing to unpack that on an individual level. I do understand what you're saying. However, I agree with the person who said it's not our current reality. It feels the same as the "All Lives Matter" nonsense bc *should* ALL lives matter? Yes. But in our current climate they don't. I understand loving Black ppl & counting them as our family members & being genuine about feeling they are important in our lives & wanting to communicate that with them in their preferred lexicon. I do understand the underlying desire but I think in the current state of things, Zachary is right. I appreciate so much that you reiterated that you know it's not acceptable to use that word bc it hammers home (hopefully) that we are trying to be better & do better. And I love watching ppl talk in draft bc I think that's where we open up the most helpful lines of dialogue & opportunities for learning from each other.
Lucertola
2025-08-13 17:17:21 +0000 UTCYoure absolutely correct again Austin. I too have been on the receiving end of the N word from my black friends and I couldn't describe it any better than the orgasm joke you made 😆😆😆 hilarious brother
Anthony Ocean
2025-08-13 13:51:52 +0000 UTCThis is one of those topics where *we* (smart progressive people) understand that nuance exists, but the public discourse would only be poisoned by acknowledging it. Much like you said
Gerald
2025-08-13 12:34:10 +0000 UTCOne of my black friends said “of course” white people should say it along with songs! I was shocked! This was like three weeks ago too. I told him I strongly disagree and that I say “ninja” or “nickel” and he just laughed like “nickel??”
Johnny 5
2025-08-13 07:20:47 +0000 UTCI’m sorry, are you saying we beat the Republicans by calling black people the N word???
Johnny 5
2025-08-13 07:09:58 +0000 UTCNO THE FUCK I DID NOT!
Austin Archer
2025-08-13 05:33:05 +0000 UTCMy dumb ass decided *four days* after top surgery “yeah sure I can drive from Florida to NC in one shot by myself.” I grew up in the south as the only white kid in my neighborhood, and I will *never* forget being like 8 years old and my best friend Tay’s uncle called her out by saying “that lil white n*a at the door for you!” I get exactly what you mean, it made me feel very accepted. I had a lot of aunties and uncs looking out for me like I was one of their own and it definitely made me street smart before I was ever book smart.
Vince
2025-08-13 05:24:16 +0000 UTCI was thinking about this recently with the song Fu*k the President by Ice Cube. The line "that 'n' is Russian intelligence". I mentally replaced the n word with bigot because it flows really well. And in that case the n word is definitely not meant as a term of endearment so bigot is a perfect replacement.
Lauren Murray
2025-08-13 05:00:11 +0000 UTCWords only have power if you give them this power. In creating this pharisaically hard-line rule you set yourself up as the nanny to be rebelled against and set up other groups as self privileged. No thanks to the grifting performative virtue signal white savior Tik tok. Kid needs to find his bag elsewhere. Libs need to stop self censuring and self flagelating and grow some thick skin, muscle grit and scrappiness. The world we live in is post culture war and now it’s a war of existence. Let’s wait until we’re in the uss enterprise and there’s not 50% of the country seething with blood thirst to have word policing. This is perfect being the enemy of good. We didn’t beat Nazis by saying please, we beat them with bombs, we didn’t beat racists by playing defense, we beat them by burning down Georgia. Sorry for the rant.
Chairdevil
2025-08-13 03:44:46 +0000 UTC1980, I was 17, living in NYC. A black friend drove me to Harlem to meet his mom. He told me I was good because I was a white girl with a nice ass and with a black man. It was awesome. IYKYK about Harlem
Kellie Bishop Porter
2025-08-13 03:31:38 +0000 UTCWhen the song “Best Friend” by Niki Minaj ft Doja Cat comes on I go full out. When the “N” word comes up, I replace it with “man”. 😂 Have since I started listening to it and have trained my brain that it just says “man”
Arial Not Ariel
2025-08-13 02:35:56 +0000 UTCBut officer, it's ok! Austin archer gave us permission! 🤣
Danger Dan Jerz
2025-08-13 02:22:16 +0000 UTCSo the thing is, a hypothetical world where slurs don't have their historical context is made up. It doesn't exist. The only context in this world is hateful. You can wish or hope for a time when slurs don't have the context they do. But they currently do.
Talon Wenberg
2025-08-13 02:22:15 +0000 UTCI, too, know all the words to changes! My kids favorite thing to do is make me play that in the car because I get HYPED
Scott Phillips
2025-08-13 02:19:13 +0000 UTCLouis CK has a joke about how he randomly wanted to use the N word in a non-derrogatory way when a guy did a great job at making his coffee. I won't repeat it, and it's definitely wrong to use that word but his joke highlighted a way that I was like, "I see what you're saying"
Scott Phillips
2025-08-13 02:14:37 +0000 UTCI've done the surgery thing enough times to suggest: Yeah, give it at least 2 more weeks. The pain usually actually hits on day 3 or 4 because that's when the anesthesia from the surgery fully leaves the body to fend for itself and the swelling hits, making the pain kick up for a while. If you're neurodivergent, it can take longer. Neurodivergent people have a kind of hypermobility that makes the sealing take a bit longer. I hope you feel better soon. I agree all the way with the rest. I'm Native American with black family who have said it's okay to use it with them and I still refuse to even come close to saying it. I don't want there to be a day when I mess up around people who don't know my history. And Natives have a complicated enough history with black people for me to not want to start anything. Which makes my favorite songs being Lil Nas X songs a sad thing come karaoke time.
Phina O'Neil
2025-08-13 02:12:32 +0000 UTCYou really need to listen to their instructions about healing, my guy! Hope you feel better!
Scott Phillips
2025-08-13 02:12:27 +0000 UTCRemember, at no point in the video did I advocate for people who are not part of a particular marginalized in group to use slurs about that in group. I repeated several times that we should absolutely NOT, under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES use slurs if we are not part of the marginalized in group those slurs are used against. Please do not think I am asking you to question that position. I am not doing that.
Austin Archer
2025-08-13 02:11:17 +0000 UTCI'm sorry you're still feeling terrible after your surgery, I hope you start getting on your feet soon. Not being able to would frustrate me to no end, I imagine you're in much the same boat. As for your take, I definitely see what you're saying and I think the only reason I'm on the fence is I haven't encountered slurs the same way you have. I'm queer, so me and my queer friends call each other f*g and the like as a fun sort of joke, but that's between people in the community, y'know? I'm definitely gonna sit and think about what you said, though. I appreciate your thoughts and I am so glad I joined your patreon. Love your content
Sethicus
2025-08-13 01:56:56 +0000 UTCI have a horrible subconscious habit of code switching to match the people I'm talking to (your song People Pleaser really hits) and after I listen to an episode of The JAAM, JJ and crew's podcast, I am terrified I'm gonna slip up the next time I talk to anyone. I have NO desire to ever say it but when they are all having fun and going off I feel like if I was there I'd have to keep a hand over my mouth 🤐
Seth Hart
2025-08-13 01:52:17 +0000 UTC
