Well, it comes down to how does it reference? Always see a reference track as the song before or after your song on a set. How does it compare and contrast? Adjust accordingly
Now for specifically this case, either remix your music to fit "club bangers" or stay true to yourself. In between solution is a multiband dynamic that side chains so that you "auto club" your music.
Club systems tend to have a front of house guy (speak with him) or a set and forget limiter/multiband limiter. They work the same way any limiter would work so if you slam them too hard the track will distort and loose low end plus transients. If you do not even come near them nothing happens. The front of house guy may have also dynamically EQ'ed the room for build up.. but that is about it regarding sound going away. Non of that is the problem at hand though. The problem remains the source itself being more experimental vs club mixes.