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Decision Time

Okay, here's what I've decided. We're working on a whole bunch of new merch including engraved Vesper necklaces. I would like to send those to the Lets Get Physical perk level and save the boxes of my sex stuff as a pledge level on the Sexplanations Road Tour Patreon page to raise money specifically for gas. 

November 1 I move away from Missoula to live in the RV until I find a new home. My plan is to drive south through Idaho and Nevada through Death Valley to the Bay Area and the...

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$6969 Results

In 2018 we reached $6969, a goal that I decided to celebrate with 24 hours you'd script. I asked how you wanted me to spend an entire day and then I put those results in a poll and collected totals. The results are in a pdf attached below. 

Even though we are no longer at this amount, I'm still working on celebrating our achievement with a day you plan. I anticipate it will be before we move on November 2nd, hooray!

Thank you for your patience!

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Poll Question

As you may have heard from this video about 8 projects the Effing Foundation supports, we are going back on the road November 1, 2019. My house is half-packed and half-a sprawl of sexuality stuff that I want to put in boxes and send out as perks. I’m thinking about one of more of the following options: 

  1. Make a box of random goodies for each Sexpla(i)naut pledged at the Lets Get Physical perk level as one of their packages. 
  2. Send everyone at the Lets Get Physic...

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New Video on Sex Stats

This week I woke up prior to recording this video. I took a shower and ate breakfast then decided that I did not want to wear make-up. Despite trying a variety of brands, I have an allergy to things on my face and every time I wear it my nose runs, my eyes itch, and I get slightly irritable. I've said it on the show and the podcast, I think, that wearing make-up is my least favorite part of my job. So, I didn't. And I didn't wear a bra either. I wanted to feel great and I did. 

Whe...

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Back from vacation with a bang

This took a long time to make but we did it! Thank you for all your help!

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Out of office

As you know I'm taking some time away from the internet. I'm all packed to go on a week long rafting trip in Idaho and for the next two weeks there won't be Sexplanations' episodes coming out. I was trying to do a livestream to compensate/let the broader audience know about this but it didn't happen. I got some gnarly spider bites on my face, I wasn't feeling keen on screen-time, and scheduling was more than my little heart could handle. I will try to livestream when I get back -- mostly so w...

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What topics do you want me to cover next?

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Working on tote bags

One of the perks for those who donated to the Sexplanations Road Tour is a tote bag. As you may know I've been working on this for months and months. We had a design but people wanted something a little different. So I put this one together. What do you think? Still not right? Any stats you'd like to change? I'm going to change the sperm in semen to 0-5% but other than that I need your help knowing if there's anything that needs changed. Oh and please tell me if want version 1 or version 2 or...

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Thoughts on Boric acid suppositories?

I've been approached by NutraBlast to partner with them on a video. I've put messages out to my medical professional contacts but I thought there might be some insight that you have too. What do you think?

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37 Clit Pics


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August Update

1. It turns out that Sexplanations videos are difficult for people to find on Youtube. Even typing 'Sexplanations' in the search box isn't producing results for some people. And those who have notifications turned on still aren't getting the vids in their sub boxes. I'm going to bring it to YouTube's attention again but in the meantime, just know that there are 340 something episodes and I will be uploading the last three months of them to Patreon to help those out who've requested a more dir...

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August Poll

I'm working on moving from Missoula, Montana to an undeteremined location or locations. The plan is to leave in October and rent out my house until I'm 100% committed to selling it some time in the future. This means downsizing. For this poll my question is: what do you think I should do with all the sexuality books, movies, props, clothes, artwork etc. that I've accumulated over the last two decades?

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Script Review

I wrote a short script on delayed ejaculation and thought you might like to review it. Have I made errors? Mis-aimed? Done harm? Is there anything I can do to make it better? 

We shoot tomorrow morning so there isn't a lot of turn around time but I'd still love your feedback. It's nice to share with you and be vulnerable in this way. 

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NEW video!


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Topic collection

While I'm waiting for today's episode of Sexplanations to upload for the fifth time, I'm working on a comprehensive list of the topics I want to cover before retiring from the show. Don't worried I have well over 100 commitments to myself, let alone the content that others have requested.  It'll be a couple years, at least.

I know that at some point I asked what YOU would like me to cover before I retire and many of you responded but I can't find that list. If you know where it i...

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from Dr. Doe

I just got back from the post office where I mailed the latest round of Lets Get Physical packages. Every time I do this it reminds me of all of you around the world making the lives of others better through sex education. Like the 15 year old who sent me an email from Fairbanks, Alaska today:

You have given me understanding and enjoyment in my sex life. You made me the best partner I could be even if I haven't had sex yet. You made me understand more about myself and your videos ha...

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Do I have genital warts?

This is the most recent episode of Sexplanations. A big high five to all of you who made it possible!

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Hi from Dr. Doe

Hello Sexpla(i)nauts, 

I'm on the way to Canada. We have less than a month to go on the Sexplanations Road Tour and then we're back in Missoula with a regular studio to shoot videos and all the time to podcast and cuddle with my dog and plant dahlias and go rafting.  I'm excited! Even though I'll the experience I'm ready to get back into a routine and get you your perks!!

Yesterday I bought some treats for those of you pledged at the LetsGetPhysical level and for those...

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My real estate fantasy

I've wanted to move away from Montana for many years but I stayed until my kids graduated high school and were self-supporting. Now is the time for me to experience more of the world in a thorough way so I've been looking at new communities to live in and as you may know, my focus has been on the area right around Chattanooga. I'm on Zillow a lot as a treat for working and I've found that real estate is much cheaper in Tennessee than in Missoula. In fact, I'm currently running a fantasy in my...

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Montgomery has been added to the road tour


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Video Topic Poll

We haven't done an official poll of topics in a while so LETS DO IT! You may vote for as many options as you like. The responses with the most votes will be prioritized to the best of my ability.

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Which of these sponsors would you like me to continue or start working with?

I've been approached by more companies to partner on videos. This is really helpful financially but I want to make sure it is also cool with my audience. On the positive side they're all brands that I think have value to the audience and they usually give great deals. On the downside some of your precious time is going to advertisements. I'd love your thoughts and please know that I will do my best to make the ads as sex educational as possible so it's more of a win-win situation. 

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Road Tour Updates

Dear Sexpla(i)nauts, 

I'm writing from Utah. I just stopped to hike in Ogden before getting back on the road toward Salt Lake City.  Tonight I'm doing a show at Bad Ass Coffee there in SLC.

The Sexplanations Road Tour has been a whirlwind. Starting January 2nd we went for almost two months through seven states and five countries. Then for the last two weeks we were back in Missoula, Montana to rest before beginning again yesterday. 

Yesterday I spoke in Idaho...

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Question 5/5

This last question for today is: 

DEAR SEXPLA(I)NAUT, 

WHAT IS ONE THING YOU WANT ME TO DO IN THE LIFETIME OF SEXPLANATIONS? **I may have done it already and that's cool too**

Curious, 

Lindsey

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Question 4/5 & announcement

Starting the last week of February I'm going to be producing Sexplanations independently. That means no longer working under the Complexly umbrella.  

Complexly is really important to me; they've been a partner from day one so this decision took a lot of thought and comes with a lot of emotions. The plan is that Complexly gets to focus on other educational projects and I can try new things with Sexplanations. Win-win.

I'm nervous but excited and would love your feedback on ne...

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Question 3/5

I want to Patrecon in November, a conference all about Patreon and I wanted to get your feedback on some things. One was the suggestion to not show the amount raised per month. A lot of creators are doing this now and it was recommended to me with the caveat that I check-in with all of you first. What do you think?

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Question 2/5 : at-home birth control

I'm being courted by two different ad agencies to partner with companies that offer sent-to-your-home birth control. I haven't committed to either so I'm in uncharted territory as a sex educator loosely working in advertising. If you have any suggestions that would be really helpful!

If you aren't sure how to navigate this but want to help choose the brand here's what I can tell you:

Brand A: It seems like they're less established so not available all over the country. They do emp...

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Questions for you! 1/5

This week we're going to a brothel in Nevada to record an episode or two of Sexplanations. We have an interview with the madame and some of the sex workers, then maybe a tour. I'm most curious about how to become a madame so I wanted to do a whole episode about that but maybe you have some better ideas and or questions that you would like me to ask their crew. Here's a poll:

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NEW VIDEO!

I’ve wanted to make this video for so long and I’m so excited that it unfolded better than I could have expected. Andy Smetanka created vivid story-telling graphics, Matt Whitman from the 10 Minute Bible Hour double-checked my sexplanation and taught his own version, and Maia Ledesma cut it all together beautifully. 

I’m so grateful that YouTube provides a platform and an audience for conversations like this, ways to effectively dismiss sexual shame and embrace thoughtful liv...

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Hello Portland!!!


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