sexplanations

Updates from Slovenia

1. Thank you for all the messages regarding villains and STIs. I agree that villainizing STIs is not the way to go but my intention was more to associate them with the compassionate outlook on villains. More on this later. I may change directions regardless. 

2. I was invited by a school here in Slovenia to speak with their students about sexuality. It was one of the best experiences I've had and I'm really excited to tell you more about it when I'm better rested. 

3. I've been...

Hi from Slovenia, asking a favor

I'm at a hotel that looks over Lake Bled in Slovenia. I've been traveling through beautiful countrysides and eating amazing food for a week. The tour group is full of strong relationships and the guide is excellent. 

How is this my life? Answer: a really great deal on travelzoo.com and a lot of hard work supported by you. 

It has been a great time away from home but I'm not away from work. When I'm not climbing stone walls from the 1500s, studying Balkin culture, sleeping, or e...

All Sexpla(i)nauts get a ballot

As you may know I'm going on tour, taking an RV to places where sex ed is needed and I have  enthusiastic consent to teach. Everyone who contributes on the Road Tour's Indiegogo page and/or Patreon page will get link to choose where we go. Below is one for you too. 

WHERE SHOULD THE RV GO? Link 2018-11-10 04:57:35 +0000 UTC View Post

I've missed you!

Hi! For technical reasons I haven't been able to get on this particular Patreon account and send you all the things. Now I'm back though and so excited! As I've said before you're like a relationship, a business partner, a long-term companion. When we don't talk, it really does feel like there's something off in my world. 

Okay so updates: I tried to sing. I wrote sex ed lyrics to Queen's Bohemian Rhapsody and then a friend's brother played the instrumentals and remixed my voice and anoth...

Working with BetterHelp

Last week I received an email from our contact with BetterHelp who suggested that we hold off on plugging their online counseling service (BetterHelp) until a controversy they're in settles down. Basically their website had legalese written in fine print which excused them from any responsibility for the quality of the therapists/counselors. In so many words, 'whether or not our service is provided by licensed professionals isn't on us.' Even though, BetterHelp actually has a really sound interv...

Preview

On Wednesday October 3rd, 2018 we'll be publishing a Sexplanations video that announces something I've been working really really hard on -- a tour -- THE SEXPLANATIONS ROAD TOUR. 

As you may know the tour is based on the work Hannah Hart (MyDrunkKitchen) did years ago, where she drove around the country meeting with fans at food banks to volunteer. My partner and I bought an RV and we'll be doing a sex ed version. It'll be totally free sex ed for anyone who shows up where we land: public...

Question 2

What day should we launch the tour fundraising? October 1st is the beginning of the month. October 3rd is when the Sexplanations video about the tour will announce everything going on. October is in between. I'd like to go with Oct. 1 because it gives us two days to work out any problems and gives people on Patreon, Twitter, Tumblr, and Facebook a head start on the getting perks. But, I want to know what you think. 

Question

How long do you think we should set the Indiegogo campaign duration for regarding the Sexplanations Road Tour? 

Naming the road tour?

We're debating about possible names for the Sexplanations road tour. Do we want sex in the title? Will people know how to spell Sexplanations? What website domains are available? What's easy to remember and fast to say? So here are some options please choose which ones you like. THANK YOU. 

Updates

1. I got a new phone. It's a Pixel 2. I love Google -- it does everything I ask -- but the camera and I are not friends yet. I'll keep you posted. 

2. Plans for the Sexplanations Road Tour are well underway. We're working with a sex positive non-profit so that all donations to fund the project are tax deductible. We have a website name and there's a tech/graphics team building the site to be sooo pretty and user-friendly for you! On Tuesday I go to pick up the motorhome we'll be living ou...

5 ? survey. Please answer. THANKS!

Here's a link:

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSekCPtIRuHrp1g7BzMDEKaXvuHjiDGAIEcHdMnSagQXP4p4iw/viewform?usp=sf_link

I think you're awesome!

BEHIND THE SCENES INFO:

1. The white stuff on my head is yogurt.

2. NordVPN approached me about sponsoring a Sexplanations’ video and I got really excited. Usually the show is sponsored by sex-related companies (sex toys, lubes, and erotic films). For a tech company to reach out is a big deal and it says a lot about them. They’re not afraid to be affiliated with healthy sexuality and they value what we’re doing.

So once NordVPN and I decided that yes, it would be great to work together there was some ...

Question

Adam & Eve (online sex toy mega store) has asked to sponsor more videos, (two per month instead of one). I'm really excited about this because they're incredibly wonderful to work with, their product makes sense for our content, and it strengthens our income stream, but I want your take before deciding. 

Here's a link to a googleform with my questions -- it's anonymous and pretty short: https://goo.gl/forms/wh6...

Want to be part of a think tank?

Hello business partners, 

Lindsey here. I'm taking a quick break on my couch with my brindle dog to write and tell you about my latest trouble-shooting endeavors.

1. My iPhone 7 -- which I chose for it's water resistant capabilities -- has been water damaged to the point of death. I cannot retrieve anything from it unless I drive three hours to a workshop that will charge me $400-500 to work magic. My plan is to see how much or how little is saved to iCloud then reflect on what all ...

Plan my 24 hours - SURVEY!!!

SURVEY: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Sexplanations6969

A big thank you to all the Sexpla(i)nauts who helped us reach our goal and made suggestions for my 24 hour celebration. This survey is a list of the suggestions you submitted (minus some overlaps or things I'd like to make into full Sexplanations' episodes). Please choose as many as you like and I will do as many as I can using the survey results to ...

I love this episode so much

Thank you for helping me make it!

Updates

Sexplanations is very close to reaching 500K subscribers. I seems that the video we did a while back on cucking was hosted on  a main page of YouTube and created a huge spike in our analytics. We're close. Really close. 

On the downside, Patreon is having to age-restrict content and the Patreon page for the Sexplanations Podcast requires you to click that you're 18 or older to view it. We've already contacted them about this, mainly to protect this page from the same censorship and h...

topics in the queue

Maia - the other half of Sexplanations - and I have a spreadsheet we share to keep track of topics and sponsors and shoot times. I tried to fill it out with the next few months with ideas I have for videos (see a section above). Based on experience the future will not actually pan out like this. New ideas proceed others all the time and things shift order quite a bit but I thought you'd like to see what I'm mulling around in my head. Most of these are requests you've made and some are my persona...

Seeking suggestions

In the coming weeks the DFTBA (merch distribution company) website will have a brand new shiny layout and our online store will have a sweet remodel. In the meantime I'm wondering what you like and don't like about the look and functionality of our page: https://store.dftba.com/search?type=product&q=sexplanations

I've created a poll of things you might think for you to just click through...

Sex Tip - June 4, 2018

I hope you all received your coloring books with masturbating tips. Here's a new list of sex tips:

1. Avoid mirroring, or at least what I mean by mirroring. We have a tendency as cognitive beings to think that if we touch someone softly, they'll touch us softly back. But if they don't like soft touch and they're under the same impression -- they may touch us with a harder touch to try and get us to mirror /them/. It's a silly cycle and in the end nobody is getting what they want and sometimes ...

Poll results and incels

I did a poll asking which topic you'd like me to cover next and the topic with the most votes was involuntary celibacy. I've been doing research and I'm familiar with the kind of terrorist mentality that some people who identify this way have. They call themselves incels and they've been responsible for at least four mass shootings in the US. 

I want to cover the topic. I think that education about misogyny and violence is important but my concern is that an episode which will in part dis...

What would you like to see more of on Sexplanations?

There's a discussion about whether or not we should schedule a bunch of collabs for VidCon this June and I brought up that when we have guests on the show the views are noticeably lower. That being said, lower doesn't mean less valuable so I'm posting this poll to get some feedback from you. What would you like to see more of on the channel and are collabs with other youtubers high up on the list. 

hangout link

LIVESTREAM TODAY @1:00 MDT

I'm worked up about sexual politics. I'm mad. It's a huge problem. It feels impossible to overcome. 

So I'm doing this spontaneous livestream on my person channel, DoeEyes to focus on the solution. I'll be available to answer your questions and talk about cool things in the works to make sex education and freedom more accessible.

LINK: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xHjDV_iZ28E

I need to talk

There's a lot on my mind and I've forgotten lately that you have been a great source of guidance for these kinds of mental battles. So if you're up for a walk through of what's going on in my head and have some experience to share, I'm open to reading it. 

Alabama. I have two seventeen year old daughters who are graduating from high school this year and I've been telling myself, since I started fostering them in 2013, that I would leave Missoula when they were finished with school and rea...

Please listen to 45:20-46:27

Thank you for helping me make this

Which topic do you want me to cover next?

Sex Tip

Re-watch the Sexplanations episodes on sexual arousal (where I roll into a tent) and orgasms. Then see if you can track your own arousal stages and or your partner(s). 

Do you lick your lips before you come?

Do your muscles begin to contract?

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I'm so glad that you're in my life!