I'm sad
Added 2023-11-03 21:22:35 +0000 UTCHello everyone, I just thought about an idea that I can post anything here because it's not accessible to everyone so I feel more comfortable that way.
For a while now especially now at the end of college I just feel so lonely and that I'm doing nothing important or something to be proud of especially my social life.
I only have 1 or 2 friends that I can hangout with "occasionally" and it's hurting me especially because I'm trying my best to make new friends at the gym and nothing is working.
A guy I liked at the gym I spoke to him and tried to start something and offered to play ping pong with him his response was "someday" ...
Then I met another guy that actually helped me during a workout, I saw him again today and said hi, but then when he left he said goodbye to someone next to me and didn't say anything to me...
Now all I feel is like why is no one caring to conversate with me?, what am I doing wrong? Am I not very approachable? All I want is human interactions outside my family, shit is hurting me, sorry.
Comments
Good luck. It will get better. I'm an introvert and a homebody and I also have lots of friends so it's definitely possible!
Colleen Hamilton
2023-11-03 22:09:39 +0000 UTCYes I'll try my best to do so!!
Madvision
2023-11-03 22:04:31 +0000 UTCI'm not sure what it's like where you are, but do you have basketball courts somewhere nearby? If you were to go to play by yourself, you might end up meeting other people there or get invited to join another group or play with someone else who's there solo. Are there any sort of online groups that are specific to your area that have people around your age in them? Starting to meet people online and then meeting in person can be cool too. I meet a bunch of ofmd people at Rhys Darby's comedy show in the summer and they invited me to their Discord server and now I chat with them there and they have events in person. Maybe you can join a space like that or create one? I know that's easier said than done
Colleen Hamilton
2023-11-03 22:03:33 +0000 UTCI just be at the gym or home lol, I love basketball though, and I don't have anyone to play with
Madvision
2023-11-03 21:42:26 +0000 UTCHey, sorry that you're going through this. It can be hard to make friends as an adult and I think that it might be a little harder for men than it is for women too. I find that the best way to form new friendships in adulthood is to meet people through whatever my interests are. In the past, I have met people through activism and volunteer work and parties I've regularly attended. More recently, I'm making friends through the ofmd fandom. Do you have any other interests that might help you meet people locally? I think that sometimes people stick to themselves at the gym
Colleen Hamilton
2023-11-03 21:40:36 +0000 UTCThank you
Madvision
2023-11-03 21:39:55 +0000 UTCI’m sorry you’re going through that , friend! I will say from what little I know about you, you are accomplishing a lot! Schooling, nursing, & YouTube! I admire you doing all that at your young age. Friendships are difficult to start/find & harder still to maintain . Relationships… don’t even get me started. I don’t know how easy it is to meet people where you are, but when I was feeling lonely I would try to go out & meet others. It’s a numbers game. The more you socialize, the better your chances. (This is all coming from an introvert & homebody) . We all go through these periods on occasion, but we feel those feelings, shake it off , & we keep Going. You seem like a great guy! I hope this helped.
Paris Hardy
2023-11-03 21:39:01 +0000 UTC
