Why You FEAR Success (Part 10/10)
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We will all have our own definition of what success looks like with money, career, health life and relationships.
But generally speaking, success can be defined as:
Success = Achieving significantly MORE than what you’ve done until this point today.
Success = You significantly outperforming your current self.
1. Complacency
People push hard to reach a certain level of success and, once they hit that target, they often reduce their intensity.
The drive that propelled them forward disappears because the immediate pressures of ‘making it’, survival or unmet needs are no longer as intense.
This is a natural thing that happens to many people because human beings natural state is to be lazy and to conserve energy.
You must go against the grain of your natural human nature and not allow yourself to relax or get complacent just because you are successful.
And just because you've done more than other people doesn't mean you should relax and do less.
This is also why you should not compare where you are to where other people are.
Because you may find yourself being ahead of most other people, which may lead to you becoming more complacent simply because you're ahead of everybody else.
But where you end up in life has nothing to do with where other people are, it has to do with YOUR potential and what you could do, not what other people have done or what they are doing.
Because there is somebody out there, you’re doing much better than.
And if you look around hard enough, there’s people who will always be doing 10,000 times better than you.
When you're no longer in struggle or survival mode, you have to trick yourself into pushing yourself to go for more even though you already have more than ‘enough’.
And this is a very important mindset shift that any human who's serious about growth and advancement, you must undergo this mindset shift because many of us grow up with the mindset that we need to get to the point of having enough.
And then once we have ‘enough’, then it's okay to relax. And, or, you are somehow greedy or bad if you go for more even though you already have ‘enough’.
You need to Maintain Momentum.
https://www.patreon.com/posts/maintaining-how-89446915
Many people believe billionaires are evil and the main reason why some people are struggling in poverty.
“there are people out there who are billionaires while there are kids out there who are starving and don't know where their next meal is coming from.”
Thats usually what they say.
The fact that there are millionaires and billionaires out there has nothing to do with the fact that there are people out there struggling to eat and pay bills and take care of rent and know where their next meal is coming from. One does not lead to the other.
Just because this is true does not mean that they are correlated or does not mean that they are creating each other.
The fact that one person is a billionaire is not the reason why that homeless person exists and vice versa.
The homeless person does not exist because there's a billionaire.
So this is a concept that you've heard many people throw these things out there because it's a great emotionally triggering talking point that doesn't make logical sense, but a lot of people have bought into it.
This is one of the reasons that people may sometimes become complacent as they become more successful because they have been tricked with this concept that when you have ‘enough’ to be successful, if you keep trying to get more and more for yourself, you are bad or greedy because there are other people out there who don't even have the enough level yet.
So then who are you to be going after more when there are other people out there who don't even have enough?
But you must understand, the fact that there are people out there that don't have enough has no relation on what you do for yourself.
I hate to be the one to tell you this but:
You hitting the brakes on your success is not gonna make a homeless person no longer be homeless.
You hitting the brakes on yourself is not gonna make that kid who doesn't know where their next meal is coming from, get their next meal.
You not finishing the food on your plate is not gonna feed the starving and hungry kids.
Emotionally, it sounds good, but in reality, this not how it happens.
You getting more for yourself does not interfere another person from getting anything for themselves. Unless you are part of a competition.
2. Your Success Will Make Other People Uncomfortable.
Yes, your wins & successes will make other people uncomfortable.
Your success will be a reflection of other people's lack of success, especially those who at one point were equal to you or if you was below them.
People who are your peers
Your family members
People from your community
People you went to school with
People who started their career at the same time as you and now you're 50 levels above them
Again, even though you started on the same level or below them and you have now surpassed them.
This will happen and yes, it will make other people uncomfortable.
Most people = Average / below average.
They're gonna stay that way their whole lives no matter what you do.
Whether you gain a thousand times more success than you have right now or you get a thousand times worse than you are right now, the average people around you will still be the same average people no matter what you do. Your actions are not going to change their outcomes.
Average people feel uncomfortable around you because:
You have very little in common
You have different habits
You think differently around most subjects of life
If average people feel comfortable around you, that's because you are too similar to them.
People feel comfortable around people who are like them.
So if you're hanging around a bunch of average people and they all feel normal and comfortable around you, you got a problem.
Unless you are purposely dumbing yourself down, which I would never recommend.
They SHOULD feel uncomfortable when they are around you.
You are who they could also be, only if they had the:
Discipline
Consistency
Persistence
Willingness
Courage
Work ethic
Mental toughness
Determination
Personal initiative
If they don’t feel uncomfortable, again, YOU have a problem.
3. No Acknowledgment
This is the mindset of :
“what if I do all of this and it's all for nothing?”
“What if I do all of this and I'm still not happy?”
“What if I do all of this and I still don't feel successful?”
“What if I do all of this and I still don't get the girl or the guy”
“What if I do all of this and my company can still fire me at any moment?
“What if I do do all of this and still fail the interview at dream company I want to work for”
“What if I do all of this and still get no view, likes or followers”
“What If I bust my ass trying to build a business just for it to end up failing”
Etc...
People put themselves in these thought processes and then hold themselves back from doing anything and basically have just mind fucked themselves into doing nothing.
WRITE THIS DOWN:
As you become MORE successful, you will receive LESS praise and fewer ‘congratulations’
It only seems like this happens because we see how people treat their favourite celebrities.
But you must understand, those people are only worshipped because of their FAME, not because of the actual success they've created in their profession.
But understand, famous people are an EXTREMELY SMALL percentile of people who are successful in life.
The rest of the successful people in the world are not know by the world like this. They are only known within their communities / industry.
I bet you don’t know who is the top knee surgeon in Australia.
Do you know who is the most popular singer in singapore?
Do you know who is the richest woman in Greece?
Do you know who is operating the most successful cosmetic surgeries clinic in Switzerland?
Do you know the most famous Tik Toker in Mexico?
Do you know who is the the owner of the company who creates your garbage bin bags?
Exactly.
There are many successful people in this world who are not treated like a God and we have no clue about their success.
Success does NOT equal to fame and stardom.
Most people who are successful are not name-brand famous people. Do not be fooled by what you see on TV or in the media that when you become successful, you're just gonna be this famous person.
Most people who are successful do not have that experience.
They are not world-famous individuals.
They're not even local famous.
They're not even state or city famous. Let alone world famous.
Again, They may be successful in their community or in their world, but on an everyday global level, nobody knows them.
Do not pursue or chase success with the idea that everyone will stop and clap for you whenever you are around.
As a matter of fact, most people who are not in your community or industry, will be unaware you are a successful individual unless you told/show them.
Most people who are successful are relatively unknown. They are not world famous.
Most people are not going to tell you how much they're proud of you. There are some who will, but there are many people who won't.
You will be appreciated and accepted less as you become more successful.
Understand this, accept this:
You're creating success - not because it's going to serve your ego based on what other people say - but because it's going to fulfil you based on what you see as your potential for YOURSELF.
That's the reason why you become successful, not because of what you think other people are going to think, say, or do to or for you.
Do you understand?
