(ARTICLE) What To Do If You Are ADDICTED To Toxic Relationships

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When you get stuck in a relationship rut, it can be hard to know if it’s worth sticking around or not… especially if you really love the person you’re dating.

But sometimes, no matter how much you care about your partner, you start to see that they either don’t care about you the same way or don’t seem to be willing to put forth the effort to show it.

It can be tempting to stay for the sake of comfort, but if you’re not receiving the same love you’re putting into the relationship, this is why you owe it to yourself to get out.

Whether they’re romantic or superficial, toxic relationships rely on some type of reward or recognition.

Except the reward is more bad behavior and unjustifiable bullshit you know you can do without.

Why does it have to be so hard to move on?

Because toxic people and relationships are bad habits, and bad habits are the hardest to break.

You signed up for failure because you think that’s the best you can do.

This relationship between you and the toxic person lets you keep seeing yourself as someone who isn’t worthy of anything but mistreatment.

You crave the hardship because you can’t believe you deserve more than being in a relationship with a toxic person using you as a punching bag.

Maybe your whole life has revolved around people telling you you’re worthless.

Why don’t you expect more of yourself and those around you?

People who love themselves refuse dissatisfaction and misery.

People who thrive on misery are toxic. They don’t want to see you happy, fulfilled, prosperous, or achieving all they never could.

It’s important to consider what role these people play in your life, and at what cost you’ll have to continue to sacrifice to keep them there.

In toxic relationships one person does all the taking while the other does all the giving.

People who feel they have a lot to lose don’t want to risk it. If that means holding on to a shitty relationship so they won’t be alone, they’ll cling to it for dear life.

It feels good to feel bad because it gets to be comfortable and familiar. When it’s all you’ve ever known, you get used to it and the pattern continues.

You Need To Sort Out Your Priorities

You’re not putting yourself or your needs first.

You’re not loving yourself and being generous to yourself first and that’s a deadly mistake.

You have to give to the toxic person first because they’re strangling it out of you.

They’re forcing your consent through abuse, degradation and negative belief systems that extract power from your potential to be the person who is 100% fit for a healthy, fulfilling relationship.

If you don’t start giving to yourself that’s when people start taking.

Toxic people only know how to take and have no regard for the damage they inflict in leaving you empty.

If you’re giving more and more to the toxic person, and you are, it’s time to turn the tables.

Your vulnerability attracts toxic people

A confident, well-adjusted person is virtually loser-proof.

A confident person who is aware of their value REPELS toxic people.

If you’re a man with your life together you’re probably wondering why you still struggle with some women.

It’s because a SOLID / GOOD man actually repels away a lot of toxic women.

A person with their head on straight finds scumbags unworthy of attention. A lesser person immediately sees they can’t get what they can so easily from a person who’s self-reliance and self-worth is broken and vulnerable.

Toxic people have a way of choosing open, kind people with beautiful, lavish hearts because these are the ones who will be more likely to fight for the relationship to work and less likely to abandon it and walk away.

Even the strongest people can find themselves in a toxic relationship but the longer they stay, the more they are likely to evolve into someone who is a smaller, less confident, more wounded version of the person they used to be.

Non-toxic people who stay in a toxic relationship will never stop trying to make the relationship better, and toxic people know this.

They count on it.

Non-toxic people will strive to make the relationship work and when they do, the toxic person has exactly what he or she wants – control.

Ultimately, We are who we attract. If we want to surround ourselves with shitty people, we do. If we want to surround ourselves with good people, we do. You get to choose. It’s as simple as that.

You are the one who is entertaining and ALLOWING the toxicity to stay in your life. Remember that.

Toxic relationships take two. People can only do what you let them get away with.

High Maintenance ≠ Money Hungry Bitch

Some people like to call women with standards “high maintenance,” but the truth is that we all SHOULD have standards as long as we hold ourselves to the same ones.

If you’re the type of girl who goes out of her way to make her partner happy, it’s okay to expect the same from the person you’re dating. Settling for less isn’t fair to you.

People just love to claim that women who have higher standards are conceited, but that’s just not true.

You’re not a bad person for recognising your own worth and what you bring to a relationship, and it’s not stuck-up to say that you’re not going to settle for someone who doesn’t love you the way you need to be loved.

It just shows that you’re a confident woman who knows what you deserve in a relationship.

It’s tempting to stay and try to fix it. But sometimes, leaving is the only option.

Before you can begin to build successful relationships, you must have healthy self-esteem.

One of the key things to consider is:

How do you treat yourself?

No one will treat you with respect if you devalue yourself.

You must rid yourself of self-defeating thoughts such as “I’m stupid” or “No one will ever love me” if you want to build relationships based on love, trust, and intimacy.

People who are attracted to partners who hurt them often confuse chemistry and compatibility.

Many women stay in toxic relationships because they consistently put their partner’s needs before their own. Girls are often raised to focus on others and defer their own needs.

Too often they are left with a depleted sense of self and they look for their partner to validate them. Keep in mind that emotional intimacy is not emotional dependency.

The more you view others’ mistreatment of you as something you have the ability to fix, tweak, or amend, the harder it is to develop a positive sense of yourself.

Till next time.