(ARTICLE) 45 Golden Life Rules Every Man (And Woman) Must Learn
Added 2022-04-20 11:56:13 +0000 UTCMost men (and women) drift through life aimlessly – with no purpose, ambition or desire.
Most will choose to ignore this article – I hope you’re part of the few who takes action.
Because if you do. Life will only get better
1. Know Your Freedom Amount
Your ‘Freedom Amount’ is the amount of money you need to never wake up to an alarm clock again.
Work out your expenses, bills, rent and general cost of living yearly.
Then build a business or an investment portfolio which replaces your job.
Unless working that job / business is a passion and you do it for fulfilment rather than just for the money
2. Understand Health/Fitness
Taking care of it is your priority to avoid many illnesses and injuries.
- Basic Weightlifting a 3 times a week
- Healthy vs Unhealthy Foods
- injury and illness prevention
- Cardiovascular health
Understand these fundamentals and get a baseline on your health.
When you are alive and well, you have a million different wishes.
When you are sick, you only have one.
3. You Can Only Save Yourself
If you ever want to be someone of substance – you need to make the decision to be successful yourself.
Learn to take a initiative. It’s very concerning the amount of men I’ve ran into who are waiting around be spoonfed and handheld.
It’s good to seek knowledge, guidance and advice, but wait for some external source to give you a helping hand is a fatal mistake.
4. Knowledge Alone Isn’t Powerful
Imagine knowing the exact blueprint on making millions — but you dont take action.
I encourage everyone to read books.
But then to extract the best pieces of information and use them to your advantage.
You can be the best-read person in the world.
Without taking action — it doesn't mean anything.
5. “Early Bird Gets The Worm”
The earlier you start the fewer responsibilities you have.
As you grow older you will have more responsibilities to take care of.
So right now you should take advantage of your youth and energy.
Starting at age 20 is much different to starting at age 45.
6. Spending to Impress
If you don’t have your financial base in order, you have no business spending money on luxuries.
7. The Comfort Zone
You will never succeed to new levels if you remain comfortable throughout your life.
Comfort is only deserved for those who take risks first.
Easy choices = hard life
Hard choices = easy life
Staying consistent with your health, finances and business is hard.
Choosing to move to a new city / country to study or work and leave all your family and childhood friends behind is uncomfortable.
Choosing to go a whole year (or 2) without actively dating and barely having sex just so you can work a lot and stack money is hard / uncomfortable
But if you grind through the pain barrier. The reward is permanent freedom.
10. You Will Need To Leave Bad / Small Minded Friends
It doesn't matter how long you've known someone.
If they hinder your growth, you have to let them go.
If they steer you towards the wrong path, you have to let them to.
If they want to destroy your progress, you have to let them go.
When you take on the responsibility to improve yourself — the ones who aren't willing to will hate you for improving.
Forget about them.
11. Stop Fucking Around
Everyone tells you to ‘take it easy’ because ‘you are still young’.
Ask people:
What have they done?
Why are they telling you to waste your time?
Have they accomplished anything worthy?
Life has an opportunity cost because the time you waste doing nothing could have been used to progress.
12. On how you look, how you speak and how you present yourself.
Looks DO matter.
First impressions DO matter.
On how you look, how you speak and how you present yourself.
Those who tell you it's all about ‘personality’ are lying to make you feel good.
Instinctively, we have more trust in people when they are in good shape, well dressed and well-groomed.
Compared to the person who is the complete opposite.
Taking care of your appearance is what gets you the job you apply to, the client you want and the female you desire.
13. Your Network = Your Networth
You've heard it a million times because it's true.
“It's not what you know, it's who you know”.
Someone less talented than you gets the opportunity because they know a guy.
This is just a random example — but the concept is still true.
When you become good at conversating with people and listening attentively, you begin to make friends.
14. Failure is not final
Every ‘failure’ is to be taken as a lesson for the next move.
Those who sulk in defeat never try again to succeed.
They have admitted their failure in the moment as final.
Remember:
You're not a failure.
You just failed that one time.
Dont give yourself the identity, use the lesson to succeed.
15. Investing in Yourself is Key
You're never going to be someone of substance if you don’t invest in yourself.
In fact, before any financial investment is made — you need to make a self-investment.
Invest in your skills, health, education, knowledge and anything else which increases your skillset and potential.
Then use these skills to improve the quality of your life.
16. This Is The Best Time To Be Alive
Despite the current global economy and the events surrounding it.
If we take a look at the quality of life today and the resources available to us.
We are living in the best time alive.
We don’t have to hunt and scavenge for food.
We aren't constantly at war for survival with one another.
It's your time to take advantage.
This is the easier time EVER to become a millionaire.
17. You Need Mental Strength
The world is not a fair place and life is harsh.
You will have moments, days and even weeks where you feel everything is against you.
In these times — mental strength is necessary to overcome any emotional decisions which negatively impact your life.
18. Discipline Is Happiness
Junk food, buying random things, over-watching TV.
These are temporary pleasures that give you a 5-minute dopamine hit.
But then make you feel terrible afterwards.
To those who realise they have potential and are wasting it — the effect is worse.
I promise you, the only thing that will give you permanent happiness and a sense of satisfaction is being disciplined with everything.
Not only will you be happy for succeeding, but you get the feeling of overcoming the competition.
That's even better.
19. You Must Know How To Protect
As a man, it is your duty to protect yourself and your loved ones.
A weak man is a dangerous man for the wrong reason.
Learn martial arts, get in shape and perfect your body language to stand tall and confident – but don’t use this power to start unnecessary fights.
It’s better to be a warrior in a garden than to be gardener in a war
Be capable of protection.
20. You Must Know How To Provide
As a man, you must also provide for yourself and your family.
Being an able-bodied male who relies on others is looked down upon.
You have the ability to earn money, build wealth and provide the necessities of life — yet you want others to do it for you?
Take initiative.
21. Dont Dwell On The Past
Those who live in the past never have time for their future.
Your High school/college/ university days doesn't matter anymore because it's over.
What matters is now.
Similarly, you do not waste time focusing on what went wrong.
Because that is also over.
22. Your Reputation Is Everything
Trust takes years to build but moments to destroy
You may be known as a person who is trustworthy and reliable.
But if you make one mistake — it's over.
23. You Can’t Change Certain Things
Who your parents are.
Where you were born.
Your skin colour, height, any other permanent physical features.
People spend abnormal amounts of time worrying about factors out of their control.
Instead of focusing on improving the things they can.
24. You Can Change The Rest
Your fitness level.
Your financial status.
Your friendship group.
Your value to society.
25. Price Doesn't ALWAYS Equal Value
Often, if something is expensive, it’d usually mean it’s of better quality.
But because something costs 1000s doesn't mean it's worth it.
Just because something costs £100 doesn't mean it's not.
The difference between rich and poor people is they think in terms of cost-benefit analysis.
Look at the cost of what you want.
(money, time, resources)
Now look at the benefit you gain
(save time, make money, gain access)
If the benefits outweigh the cost. You made a good decision.
26. You’re already miles ahead than many people around the world.
Let's take a step back and appreciate what we have.
I'm making these assumptions:
- You live in a first world country.
- You have internet access.
- You’re relatively young.
- You have a roof over your head, access to clean & warm water and clothes to wear.
You are further ahead than most people.
27. Life isn’t fair
And you shouldn’t expect it to be.
Others will be born richer, smarter, more intelligent or have a better upbringing than you.
You may also be the above in comparison to others.
Circumstances are entirely unique.
You can only play the cards you were dealt.
Don’t complain. Just do your best
28. It’s Not All Hard Work
If it was only about hard work, the coal miners would be the richest people in the world.
They work really hard.
There are other factors involved such as location, education, IQ, environment, networks, mindset.
The combination of these factors makes you successful.
Hard work is the first step to success and there's no elevator for you to jump on.
29. The Person You Choose To Be With Is A Financial Decision
Most young men dont want to hear this because they think I'm being harsh.
Remember what I said about life? It's harsh.
The reality is, your girl is a huge financial decision which most men dont take account of.
And if you get married, you’re going to be spending (hopefully) the rest of your life with this person.
You need to make sure they are on the same page as you on building wealth and a family.
Whilst still providing for them and your family.
30. Money DOES buy happiness
The ones who say money doesn't buy happiness are either too broke and salty or they’re so rich money is no longer ever an issue for them.
31. Confidence is Everything
Aside from discipline, confidence is everything.
- How you think of yourself
- How you walk, talk and present yourself
- How you communicate with others
You can even sell something to people if you act confident and come across like you know what you are talking about.
32. Avoid Comparison
At the start — it's fine to compare.
If you're not doing anything worthwhile. You should be looking at others with inspiration (not jealousy).
“If they can do it, I can do it too”
-You
But, once you have started your journey on whatever task you want to achieve (health, wealth, relationships).
You only compare yourself to yourself the previous year.
If you have improved, you go again.
If you haven't, you analyse why and go again.
Comparing to others at this stage will leave you with a false sense of achievement, or sadness.
33. Habits Determine Your Future
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit”
— Aristotle
What you do today won't seem like much tomorrow.
But in 1 year I and you both will find out the results of our habits.
Make sure they are good ones.
34. Emotional Thinking Destroys You
Difficult situations require logic — not emotion.
The natural human state is to act emotionally. WRONG!!
Emotions lead to mistakes, mistakes lead to losses, losses lead to sadness.
Whenever you're in a situation, you need to think logically.
“Whats the best play here?”
Not
“Oh my god! What do I do?!”
The first statement is cool, collected and ready to overcome the obstacle.
The second is frantic and embarrassing.
35. You Are Replaceable
Your job may say goodbye to you without hesitation.
There’s people who have worked for their employers for decades — only to be let go.
So how do you counter this?
Start investing your money.
Leave your current job for another if you get a higher offer.
Every 2-3 years, ask for pay raises and promotions.
I’ve made an article on how to negotiate a higher salary.
Don’t settle and get comfortable.
36. Don’t Follow The Crowd
Even they don’t know where they are headed.
Listening to whatever society says is a first-class ticket to failure.
You need to be your own man.
Your family wants you to take the easy and most safe route.
Live the life you want to live, not the one you THINK you should.
37. You Don’t Always Want To Be The Smartest In The Room
The feeling of being the most accomplished and/or smartest person in the gives you a false sense of security.
You feel like you ‘made it’.
In reality — you're just getting started.
The thing about this is, it's uncomfortable to open that door to enter another room.
You don’t want the feeling of knowing there are other people behind those doors that are richer, smarter, more attractive, stronger, healthier or better connected than you.
Those same people dont want to open the shiny gold door in front of them.
There's always going to be another room.
Enter as many as you can.
38. Don’t Bother Trying To Change Others
If you have read the above point, you will realise that the more valuable you become, the more rooms you enter.
This is because you have exited your comfort zone and decided to improve yourself.
Others won't bother.
Your friends and family might be comfortable with mediocrity — and that's okay for them.
Don’t try to change them, because they don’t want to.
You’ll drive yourself insane by trying to do this.
39. Luck Can Be Created
There are two types of luck:
Blind Luck — You win a lottery ticket.
Manufactured Luck— this type of luck you create by constantly being in motion.
Always pushing forward. Always planning the next move. You're bound to get lucky.
40. Be Selfish Before You Are Selfless
Put yourself first and make you are good before you start trying to “give” abs lookout for others.
It’s okay to be selfish, especially when you’re in a phase of getting your life together.
Sometimes being “selfish” isn’t a bad thing.
There are times when being selfish is the right thing to do for yourself.
These are also times when taking care of yourself is necessary.
Some people will be salty, but they don’t matter anyways.
Anyone who has real love for you will never resent you for looking out for yourself first.
41. Life = Sales
When you think of ‘sales’ you assume the salesman in a flashy suit trying to rip you off.
But when you think deeper — life is sales.
When you go to a job interview — that's sales.
When you convince your parents to buy something as a child — that's sales.
When you’re trying to get a girl out on a date — that’s sales.
When you want to land a client — that's sales.
Everything is sales and you are always selling.
So get good at it.
42. Shut Up & Listen
Do not ignore this rule as it will take you a long way.
This is a simple thing to do, but not easy.
People love talking about themselves.
If you can just shut up and listen to others attentively in conversation — you will be favoured.
If someone else is skilled in something you wish to be skilled in. If they are teaching, just listen.
43. There’s Never A ‘Perfect’ Way
Understand that we are all different and what works for others may not work for you.
This doesn't mean it won't work. You just have to figure out another way to do it.
Something which suits your strengths and still gets the job done.
There are a million ways to make a million.
44. Stand Up For Yourself
Have boundaries and enforce them when needed.
Do not let your time be wasted and do not waste the time of others (it’s too valuable)
Learn when and how to say ‘No’.
45. Be Good To Good People
Cleaners, Valers, Barbers, waiters and waitresses
Anyone in the service industry – compliment them on their service and if you can afford to, tip them for their work.
Till next time.
