(Article) Understanding The Secret Language Of Women

This will be the first of many to come.

*They usually take me a few days to write and properly put together so be patient and DO NOT RUSH ME*

In this Article how to properly communicate with women and what they REALLY mean when they say certain things.

You'll also learn:

• Women communicate
• How they understand what is communicated to them 
• what changes their mind
• Be able to decipher the true meaning behind a woman’s words
• To be able to accurately read a woman like a book 
• To be able to speed read situations 
• To learn to recognise down-to-fuck signals when they occur, so that you can capitalise on opportunities when they appear.

Part 1: How to Decode 

Part 2: The Context of Relationships

Part 3: How to Speak to women 

Part 4: The Evolving Culture and its Impact on the Female Mind

Part 5: What is SubCommunication?

Part 6: Specific Word-by-Word female Examples. What women say vs what the really mean 

Part 7: Noteworthy Maxims

Part 8: Important Concepts in Frame Control

PART 1: HOW TO DECODE WHAT WOMEN SAY

Don’t believe the concept that women are just like men. Women operate differently than men.

Men talk in a masculine style of communication.

Women talk in a feminine style of communication.

Don’t judge a woman’s feminine style of communication with the rules of masculine style of communication.

Men talk to achieve a specific purpose. 

Women talk just to boost their mood.

Men will talk to exchange ideas related to achieving a specific goal.

Women will talk to achieve an emotional high, and to boost their ego. For women: talking is a form of therapy

Men meet up to do and get shit done.

Women meet up just to talk and experience a good time.

Men talk to solve problems- talking is a means to an end.

Women talk just to talk - talking is an end unto itself.

Don’t talk to a woman the same way that you would talk to a guy.

Men are direct in their communication style.

Women are indirect in their communication style.

When a relationship obstacle occurs, masculine men tend to confront the issue head on.

When a relationship obstacle occurs, women will often be passive aggressive and drop hints about the issue.

Men state their intentions blatantly and overtly.

Women state their intentions subtly and covertly.

FLIRTING

Flirting involves showing interest in a woman in subtle ways that keep her guessing. Women get turned OFF and bored if a man gives full validation immediately because it removes the thrill of the chase, and the excitement of figuring him out. 

Women are TURNED ON by mystery, they get bored when full-disclosure is given. 

Remember: women value what they work for. The more time a woman invests in thinking about a guy and solving the mystery, the more she becomes hooked.

Men say what they mean, and mean what they say.

Women say one thing, but can mean something entirely different.

Men talk to convey logical information.

Women talk to convey emotions.

Men talk to exchange facts with one another.

Women talk to exchange feelings with one another.

Don’t take anything a woman says personally. If a woman says something insulting to you: don’t take it to heart, because she is just expressing how she feels at the moment, and her feelings are subject to change. Change her mood, to easily change her mind.

Don’t accept a woman’s first response to you to be set in stone. As she gets to know you more, her attraction levels can spike, her mood will change, and behavioural response can shift radically in a positive direction.

Men care about the truth. They have an open mind to accepting the truth - as long as sufficient evidence and a strong argument is presented.

Women care about believing what feels good. They see what they want to see, and believe what they want to believe.

Men process the world based on facts.

Women process the world based on how they feel.

Miscommunication happens when a man uses his information based perspective of understanding the world to interpret and attempt to understand a woman’s emotional way of communication. Miscommunication happens when men use their masculine language to understand women

Men make their decisions based on what they want and cold logic (which stays the same).

Women make their decisions based on what they desire and how they feel at the moment (which can change).

RELATIONSHIPS

Masculine men have a stronger frame (perception) and lead a woman - mentally, logistically, and physically.

Submissive women have a weaker frame, and submit to a man’s view of the world - following his lead.

Even if a woman’s frame is very strong, your frame must be STRONGER. A confident man has a bullet-proof frame. He inspires women to follow his lead. A submissive woman is a sexual woman.

When expressing a problem, men want solutions.

When expressing a problem, women want empathy. 

You want the woman to be more drawn into your world than you are drawn into her world for the sake of sustaining attraction. A woman should be pulled into your perception of reality more than you are pulled into her perception of reality. 

CONVERSATIONS

Men talk about abstract concepts and philosophy.

Women talk about gossip, food, and shopping - down-to-earth concepts.

A woman’s favourite subject of conversation is herself, and about things that directly benefit her. When talking, show how what you’re saying relates back to her - even if you’re talking about yourself.....AKA....LISTEN!

Men care about how what you say teaches them something new -  the educational value of your communicational content.

Women care about how what you say makes them feel something - the emotional value of your communicational content.

Women live for good emotions. What she cares more about than anything else is how you make her feel. She feels what you feel because of mirror neurons. When you feel AMAZING, then she will feel AMAZING. Feel joy and enthusiasm for life; let that joy overflow in your words.

Men focus on the content and the rational arguments behind issues.

Women focus on the context and how issues make them feel.

Men are moved by solid logical arguments - that are backed by evidence.

Women are moved by stories, and appeals to emotion.

He who controls the narrative, controls the relationship. Have the stronger frame. Be an effective story-teller and use stories to embed important values that you want her to internalise. 

THE EVOLVING CULTURE

The new generation of women is being raised by the internet (TikTok, FB, IG, OnlyFans etc), and this is impacting their ability to effectively socialise with men in a traditional relationship context. 

A beautiful women who posts photos of revealing clothing for a quick ego boost and is constantly being hit up by men through her IG feed: compromises her ability to pairbond in the long-term. 

Hookup culture has cheapened the traditional long-term relationship, and has made it easier for women to “hit the next button” the moment something goes wrong in a relationship - instead of trying to fix it.

SUB - COMMUNICATION

• Don’t always take what a woman says at face value. 
• Don’t always interpret her words literally. T
• here is more than what meets the eye. 
• Learn to see past the shallow surface level, and uncover the deeper truths of the situation.

What a woman says, and the true meaning of the situation are often polar opposites.

 Be a stickler for finding the truth of the situation. 

Don’t be an idiot “Yes Man” agreeing with everything she says just because she has a vagina.

WHAT IS SUB - COMMUNICATION?

Sub-communication is the implications behind what a woman is saying. 

For instance: if a woman asks “How many women have you slept with?” 

The sub-communication is that:

• She is interested enough in you to shit-test you. 
• She is testing your composure. (Because a lot of guys fake their confidence)
• She is trying to set the frame that she is THE BOSS of the interaction, and it’s your responsibility to answer her directly.

The correct response to a shit test is to agree with the negative and amplify to set the frame that you’re a man who *GETS IT* and keeps his social power.

After all, women are attracted to POWERFUL men - not men that give away their power. Hence, you respond with a cocky and funny line (instead of getting defensive and justifying yourself to her)

The key is to always communicate with extreme levels of confidence. Whatever you say, you have to own it 100%.

WHAT WOMEN SAY VS WHAT THEY MEAN 

"I’m busy.”

translation:

“You’re not a priority.”

A woman always makes time for things that really matter to her. If Drake called, her schedule would suddenly “free up”.

“You’re a player!”

Translation: 

*What you just did TURNED HER ON.*

She deemed what you just did to be so effective that it couldn’t be accidental; she assumes that you’re too good to not have experience. This can only hint at a woman’s desire to fix you, and “build a better sucker.”

*Dont try to ACT like a player if you really ain’t t, if a woman sense that...its a HUGE turn off*

“He’s an asshole!”

Translation:

”I am sexually attracted to him, but am very frustrated that I can’t control him.”

“He’s creepy!” or "You’re creepy"

Translation:

“He is not sexually attractive to me.” 

If he was a high status man showing interest then she would be very responsive to his behaviour, but she views him as a low status man and thus expresses her revulsions with remarks such as these.

“Maybe.” or "I'll see"

Translation: “No.”

A woman will try to avoid uncomfortable confrontation, so they will use softeners and white-lies to ease the tension. Some women will avoid saying “no” directly because of a fear of being seen as a bitch.

and most men cant handle rejection without getting angry

*She mentions her underwear or talks about her body*

Translation: *Make a move on me.*

She is thinking about you in a sexual light. She is sexually attracted to you, and desires to be desired by you. She is baiting you into making a move by playing female game.

“I like going to XYZ type of places."

Translation:

“I want you to invite me on a date.”

Her fragile ego, fear of being judged, and fear of rejection prevents her from directly asking you to ask her out, or to ask you out directly herself. Hence, she is using a hinting tactic known as Third Person Framing.

“Stop.”

Translation:

“Not now, but maybe later.”

In a legal context, don’t have sex with her at that moment to avoid getting a rape charge.

*Silence* e.g. she doesn’t respond to texts, or calls

Translation: “No.” or "I'm Not interested in you"

again, Women are passive, they'll drop subtle signs hoping you get the idea

*She shit tests you*

Translation:

“I view you as a sexual contender for access to my vagina. I want to make sure that you are the ALPHA that you appear to be. I can’t ask you directly because you’ll lie, so I’ll test you.”

Women do this because A LOT of guys fake their confidence. It's only by testing men were women can really find the true confident guys and weed out all the guys who were faking to be someone else.

“I’m fat.”

Translation:

“Tell me I’m skinny!”

She’s baiting you to give her a compliment because she is feeling insecure and has a desire for ego validation.

“I don’t care about XYZ.”

Translation:

“She cares about XYZ.”

Here is a general rule: if she brings up a subject at her own initiative, and brings attention to it, then she cares. If she truly didn’t care about it, she wouldn’t even bring it up.

“We’re not going to have sex.”

Translation:

She’s already thinking about having sex with you.

What a woman wants to do, and what she actually ends up doing are often contradictory elements. 

Women are not known for having strong self-discipline, self-control and exercising their freedom of choice. 

While her intention right now is not to have sex with you, once you spike her attraction levels, she won’t be able to stop herself from fucking you hard. 

TEXT: “Where is this going?”

Translation:

"I’m baiting you to send me a few paragraphs, so I can screenshot it and brag about it to my friends in WhatsApp groups."

In a text like this, it’s hard to decipher a woman’s intentions for asking this question because it depends on the context, how long you’ve known her, and her body-language. 

A question like this could be a power grab, or it could be asked out of a genuine concern. 

The correct play here is to get on a phone/video call with her, so you’re able to accurately read a woman’s body-language (something that can’t be done over text).

“I’m fine.”

Translation:

“This conversation is over. You should know that I’m NOT fine, and it’s up to you to figure out why I’m being passive aggressive right now.”

Notice that she didn’t say “I’m doing great!” What a woman doesn’t say leaves - that she should have said - leaves clues about her emotional state.

*You move closer or try to make a move on her, but she moves away.*

Translation:

“I’m holding on to you for now until a better guy comes along. I enjoy the free friendship benefits that I get from you, so I’ll keep you around.”

If you are continually met with resistance whenever you try to make a move then move onto another women. 

Keep in mind that you already have enough and you should already have a fun and exciting life outside of women. 

You should deal with women who like you too...not wasting your time trying to trick a girl with low interest into liking you.

“I’m over my ex!!!”

Translation:

“I still miss him.”

The very fact that she even brings up her ex is a red flag that she is still psychologically hooked on him.

In a sexual context: “I don’t usually do this.”

Translation:

“I do this frequently, and am saying this to make myself appear less slutty/more virtuous.”

Women will bend the truth to make themselves appear to be of higher worth than they actually are. 

*Her underwear and bra are in matching colours.*

translation:

She met you with the intention to fuck from the start.

“My last boyfriend was an asshole.”

Translation:

“If you’re an asshole then I will become connected to you. I bond through emotionally abusive and psychologically painful behaviour.”

Sadly, some women have been raised in a traumatic way and have learned to develop emotional attachments to men that display unhealthy behaviours towards them.

 I would not necessarily recommend dating these type of damaged women with emotional baggage because it can lead to developing unhealthy relationship habits and the drama can be draining. 

However, for the sake of completion I’ll mention what you have to do to attract this type of women. Experiment with using an extreme form of push/pull. Cycle between compliments/statements of intent and negs/hard teasing.

“My friends are sluts, but I’m not like them.”

Translation:

“I’m just like my friends.”

It is correct to judge a woman based on her associates. A woman is the five people that she spends the most time with.

Note: These interpretations are guidelines. Look for clusters (multiple indicators), her body-language and general context to solidify the True Meaning behind her words.

Deaf men are the best at understanding women. A woman’s body-language will betray her true feelings, and intentions.

Never Listen to what women SAY.

Actions speak louder than words. Her actions speak volumes. If there’s a contradiction between what she says, and what she does: trust the latter.

 Words are cheap. Look to see if she walks the talk.

Women make it EASY for guys they like

If a woman really likes you, it would be obvious and you wouldn’t even ask the question: “Does she like me?” 

A woman’s body-language will reveal the truth; she can’t control the signals her body is constantly sending out.

How you interpret a woman’s communication shows a lot about who you are. 

An insecure guy will interpret everything a woman does in the negative, but a confident guy will see everything as signs of interest. 

Ironically: having the habit of confidently reframing of a woman’s actions is a self-fulling prophecy. If you convey the frame that she likes you, she will often fall into that frame.

Don’t spend too much time deciphering the true meaning behind a specific woman’s words for the sake of gaining access to her pussy. 

If you pedestalise a woman in your mind, you will pedestalise her with your actions. 

Needy behaviours are V E R Y unattractive to women. 

Being more invested in her than she is in you leads to low status behaviors. 

The goal is to improve your skills with women in general - not just to get a specific woman that you want.

FRAME CONTROL

Frame is the mutual acknowledged perspective of the dynamic between you and her. It is the perceived context of the interaction.

The stronger frame absorbs the weaker frame; the one who believes more: wins.

The one who controls the frame, controls the relationship.

Dominating her mentally leads to dominating her physically.

Not everything a woman says warrants a response - or even an acknowledgement.

Not every question a woman asks warrants a direct answer - or even an answer at all.

Don’t just look at the words she uses, but the frame that she is trying to set.

Arguing with a woman is falling into her frame. Don’t waste time on her petty drama. Win with actions - not debates.

Set the frame with your actions. Touch her body early on, and frequently. Consistently lead the interaction towards (Consensual) sex.

A woman should be more invested in you than you are in her; this way she is in your frame.

A woman should be emotionally reacting to you more than you are emotionally reacting to her; this way she is in your frame.

Till next time.