(ARTICLE) 23 Things A Man Can Practice In Order To Become a Better Man

I am 23 years old, so that’s what made me come up with 23 things.

(Ladies Can Do A Few Of these Too)

These are lessons I’ve learned about becoming a better man. I’m not the best version, but I’ve Improved and this guide can help you too.

1. Be true to yourself

Never be afraid of being disliked. If you live true to yourself, you look forward to rejection. As long as you are happy with the life you have, let people fall out of it who want you to change or disapprove.

As long as you don’t hurt or take advantage of innocents, do what makes you happy. This is the surest way to be successful.

This doesn’t count if you’re putting your livelihood at risk by breaking the law or hurting people, but never let others make you feel bad for what you want, what you like or how you want to spend your time on this planet.

2. Seek out mentors

Most of you consider me a Mentor and that is something that makes my jaw drop to this day and that’s why you guys see me conduct myself that way I do.

If you’re unsatisfied with any segment of your life, you’re a fool if you don’t seek out mentors with success in the area you wish to improve.

Many people think a mentor is someone who’s going to babystep them, every single day and tell them exactly what they should and shouldn’t do.

When in actuality, a mentor should just act as a guide and be there to HELP you reach whatever it is you desire and a mentor is also some who keeps it real with you all the time and gives constructive tough love/ criticism. Not because they hate you but because they want the BEST for you ......

(god that was cheesy)😂

I’ve watched many guys remain losers because they refuse to cut their ego and ask more accomplished men how to improve their health, dating options, and finances.

Real men have no problem asking for advice from men who are better than them in a particular area. If you’re happy with your life, see lesson 1. If you aren’t, get help.

3. You can always get “good enough”

If you really like something but you aren’t good at it, you still have a good chance of getting in the top 20% of all people doing it if practice and get top rate instruction.

The top 20% isn’t a bad place to be. In fact, it’s quite successful compared to the average population. At that point, you can probably make a little money with your skill.

It doesn’t matter how bad you initially are if you like doing it. You’ll be more likely to put in the work needed to at least become above average.

Always have room in your life for a skill you really like doing but aren’t the best at.

4. Improvement is possible

Most people can improve their life.

There are only a select few who can’t.

All the people I’ve met that never do better and continually fail, all of them had the following attributes: lack of humility, no self-awareness, inability to suffer, and the inability to take responsibility.

5. Self-discipline is King

Growing up poor means you miss out on some of the more entertaining aspects of life, but that isn’t the worst part.

The real damage is if you grow up poor because your parents have no discipline. Your bank account will always be empty until you learn the self-discipline that your parents never taught you.

I believe that the greatest damage most people sustain is from growing up in a household where delayed gratification and personal discipline isn’t enforced.

Being strong in the face of things meant to distract and weaken you is part of what it takes to be a successful man (or woman).

This is accomplished through the power of self-discipline and it’s your responsibility to stay resolute when others around you falter.

If you can’t control your emotions, then your emotions will control you.

6. There’s a female friend-zone

Men give attention to get sex. Women give sex to get attention.

This is simplification based on what each sex’s highest priority is, but it is accurate enough to make some useful predictions.

It explains why more girls than guys believe that men and women can be “just friends”.

It allows us to better understand the frustrations of each: men aim to avoid being “friend-zoned” (giving attention without sex in return) and women aim to avoid being “fuck-zoned” (giving sex without attention in return).

It allows us to define what a “hoe” is. For men, it’s a guy that gives his time up without regard to what he gets in return and for women its one that gives her sex up without regard to what she gets in return.

7. A better man attracts better women

Nothing else needs to be said.

8. Men should make themselves as attractive as possible

Get as good looking as you can.

Your life is so much easier when people think you’re attractive and the successful man knows this.

Forget the obvious part of this equation where you get more dates and invited to better social situations. In general, people treat you better and are more responsive to you. It likely means that you’re in good health.

You’re more likely to get hired for jobs.

You’ll be given opportunities that others are excluded from.

It’s nothing personal. It’s just simple human nature.

Rather than bitch, moan, and get in your emotions, use it to your advantage. You’ll be a better man for it.

• Get a nice clean haircut/ hairstyle
• Start exercising. Either loose the weight or build some muscles

• Wear clean clothes that FIT and match
• Start taking care more care in your teeth
• Shave your neck hair
• Wear a great quality good smelling fragrance

9. Forgiveness is important

(I still struggle with this one. Especially with those who did some fucked up shit to me before.)

The most important skill to develop is the ability to forgive.

Holding grudges and being angry only hurts you.

The other person can’t feel it. Only you carry that poison around.

Forgiveness is a complicated topic, but the basic idea is that you’re able to release any negative emotions you have towards a person for any wrong you think they’ve committed against you. You feel like like they owe you something.

If you can do this, your heart will live without the burden that holding grudge creates. It’s a heavy burden the only gets heavier the more you feel like you’re owed something for what you’ve endured.

10. Learn to discern great friends from good friends

Good friends are the ones doing dumb shit with you. Great friends are the ones trying to get you to improve your life.

Most people surround themselves with only good friends and resent great friends. Great friends surround themselves with other great people and it makes their greatness grow.

The problem with good friends is that you can have a good enough life with them.

That’s cool if you’re happy with everything (see lesson 1), but if you want to be a better person, very often it requires changing who you spend the most time around which may mean you’ll have to leave some people behind.

11. Not all friendships should last forever

You may have to cut old friends off. I haven’t had to do this much, but it’s happened.

I generally don’t recommend a passive approach to things, but there are times when subtleties are superior to overt tactics.

Your personal judgement and experience will tell you which and when.

12. Your parents will die, Love them

Nowadays the trend is being disrespectful towards your parents and taking them for granted.

If everything goes according to plan, your parents will die before you.

My father died when I was 6. No matter what, they’ll die and you’ll die one day as well. Your parents usually go first.

Not only will they die before you, but they are going to leave you alone on this planet for quite a few years until you pass on.

This means that no matter what they want for you, it doesn’t really matter. You must live your life according to what you want because you’re the only one who will have to live through it.

13. Happiness and money

There are many ways to be unhappy with money, but there are only a few ways to be happy without it.

And of those few, most of them require you to ignore–or at the very least, rationalise away–the comforts, conveniences, and advantages that money brings.

Happiness is having more than enough money to cover your living expenses and basic leisure. If you can pay your bills and enjoy yourself without stress, you’re pretty successful.

If people remembered this and nothing else, they’d relieve a huge chunk of stress in their life.

If you aren’t motivated to make a lot of money, then you can still have an enjoyable life by not incurring extra expenses and being financially disciplined.

(Go and rewatch the videos I’ve made on finances so far)

You’ll have limits, but successfully navigating them will keep your head above water.

14. Take advantage of your alone time

If you can’t find people that you like to hang out with and you reside in a reasonably populated area, be patient.

No company is better than the wrong kind of company. If you are true to yourself, you will eventually make friends.

15. At the end of the day, people matter most

No matter how much money you make or how good a time you are having, if you don’t have people you like to share it with then it’s meaningless.

It is a special kind of torture to be around people but not really feel connected with them.

16. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure

Yes, it’s cheesy.

If you take the extra bit of energy to fix a problem or address it the right way from the beginning, you save yourself from plenty of headaches down the line.

Paying bills on time keeps you from paying the bill later on top of the fines. Using condoms is cheaper than plan B. An abortion is cheaper than raising a child.

Try to avoid problems before they come.

Be proactive

not reactive

17. Debts and friendships

If you owe money to friends, pay it when you said you would or as soon as you have it; whichever comes first.

If you have to choose between paying back a friend and paying back an institution, always pay the friend back first.

A better man knows that friends are faster than banks and understand if things come up. Friends also know if you’re bullshitting and friends hate to be bullshitted.

Always be a man of your word. Aim for an 800 credit score with your friends and you’ll never suffer in times of need.

Go back and watch my video on how to build and maintain a perfect credit score

18. Alcohol isn’t an excuse

Most people drink too much. If you want to be a better man, then it’s imperative that you get your drinking under control.

19. Luck = preparation + opportunity

Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.

Another cheesy one, but this one is powerful.

Life is the sum of infinitely many opportunities. The only way to take advantage of these opportunities is by acquiring skills or being in the right position.

Your life will make significant improvements if you increase your skillset and put yourself in positions where the skill set will be noticed.

The harder you work the “luckier” you get.

20. On God and religion

I have no idea if there is a higher power or not.

After studying physics, I am 100% of the belief that the universe was intelligently designed. The concept of the afterlife does not violate what we know of the universe.

Treating other human beings with love and respect makes me feel better so I do it anyway.

21. On pick-up and “game”

Focusing so much time and energy on game was simultaneously the best and worst use of time in your youth as a man

MANY guys think having “Game” is just in order to be great with women.

Every man NEEDS it today to have a shot at anything more than a mediocre love life.

However, Game is not just about how to get laid. It’s about navigating the social-sexual landscape with your eyes wide open.

The greatest mistake a man can make is selecting the wrong woman from a position of weakness and supplicating naivety.

On the other hand, the power you experience learning game is corrupting and intoxicating. Going from powerless to having control over your love life can ruin you and the relationships around you.

The game also makes you incredibly cynical and this can have an impact on other area of your life.

Still, every guy needs to learn game if for no other reason than to protect themselves from the worst the dating world has to offer.

22. Start being more protective of your time

Time is the most valuable thing you can give someone.

The next most valuable thing you can do is stake your reputation on them.

One step down is giving them access to your resources. Way down the line is money.

The progression of value looks like this:

Time > Reputation > Energy > Money

The trend here is that the more easily something can be renewed, the less important it is.

You can never get back time. This is why it’s the most important thing.

As you become a better man, you’ll realise that your reputation is hard to rebuild and easy to destroy, but the only reason why it’s below time is that it can actually be replenished.

If you’re ever in doubt about who is on your side, look at who invests their time into you and who stands up for you in your absence.

23. Success breeds resentment in others

If you want to make people uncomfortable, improve your status relative to theirs.

If you suddenly start doing worse than the people around you, people react with pity and they are usually very good at it.

However, people seem to have genuine difficulty adjusting to a person whose status and position increase. Especially if this change is relatively rapid.

I would imagine this is why most people end up with new friends when they make significant life improvements.

The main point is that when you make significant improvements in some area of your life, there will be those people who simply cannot adjust to the new you. It’s up to you to decide how much time you spend around them.

Bonus lesson

I don’t know if I’ve saved the best lesson on becoming a better man (or woman) for last, but I certainly have saved the lesson that’s made the greatest impact on me until the end.

You only need 2 years to change any part of your life you are unsatisfied with. Financial, dating, work prospects, health, etc. 2 years is assuming you put earnest effort in but you aren’t obsessive.

You could become obsessive and make changes even quicker, but it should not take you any longer than 2 years to change your life – if you really want to be better.

For example, this means that if you were to fuck up until you are 30, you could have a respectable life by 35.

No matter what though, all that matters is that you start because the time is going to pass anyway. In 2 years will you better, doing the same shit or even worse off?